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To ask if you went to uni did you regret it ?

233 replies

Lardlizard · 28/07/2020 18:42

Yabu if you don’t regret
Yanbu if you do

OP posts:
WitchesGlove · 28/07/2020 21:17

@FlamingoAndJohn

Yes and no. I did a bullshit degree that was badly run and not worth the paper it was written on. I did dead end jobs for ten years until I did my teacher training. So I did use it in the end but it was such a bullshit made up course that I didn’t write a single dissertation, essay or bit of coursework.

But it was the early 90s and free.

What was the course called?!
SugarHour · 28/07/2020 21:17

I should have waited 5 or 10 years to sort out my MH and work out what I really wanted from life.

Winterwoollies · 28/07/2020 21:18

I worked hard and went to a really good uni. My background was quite different to others I studied with though. I went on to do postgraduate study, too, and it has paid off. If you want to work hard and make it a worthwhile experience, it pays off enormously.

user1487194234 · 28/07/2020 21:18

No regrets here
Did vocational degree from which I have supported myself for 25 years

jmh740 · 28/07/2020 21:22

I dont regret it I was a single mum working full time and the local college started doing degrees at night, they only had 6 subjects and you had to do a combined degree. I wish I had done something that qualified me for a certain job. I came out with a 2:2 I wish I had tried a bit harder and got a 2:1. I'm lucky that I didnt end up with a lot of debt, I wish I had done a masters straight after. I have a job I love now that I dont need my degree for.

gwenneh · 28/07/2020 21:28

No regrets. Two undergraduate degrees and an MBA have opened doors for me; I don’t have to work as hard as classmates who dropped out and subsequently entered the work force.

If I regret anything it’s that I didn’t find myself on the business school path until much later, so my undergrad degrees are both “frivolous” arts related degrees but even those provided me a start in my career.

user1487194234 · 28/07/2020 21:28

The cost of Uni now is a factor
Mine are lucky to be fully supported by us but generally it's very difficult

bigTillyMint · 28/07/2020 21:28

No regrets here at all. And I “only” went to an old Poly, not a “Top Tier Russell Group Uni Grin

Had an amazing time and got a vocational degree that I have used for 33years so far.

RunningNinja79 · 28/07/2020 21:30

Yep, should have gone travelling instead. I would have had the same learning growth, but in a completely different way. One I think I would have preferred.

I just went because it was the next step after A levels. I hadn't decided on a career (I still haven't) and didn't really know what I wanted from life. Now I'm stuck with a degree I'll never use. I can't afford another one.

I will not be encouraging my children to go, but I wouldn't discourage them either.

Elsiebear90 · 28/07/2020 21:31

Not at all, went to a poly (it is highly ranked now, but was mid tier when I was there) and did a vocational STEM subject, got onto a very competitive grad scheme, just completed my masters, again in a vocational STEM subject. I love my job, couldn’t do it without my university degree.

monkeytennis97 · 28/07/2020 21:32

Yes no that I'm a secondary teacher in a pandemic

Jellykat · 28/07/2020 21:33

No regrets whatsoever, definitely best few years of my life!
I studied for my degree back in the '80s, we worked hard and played harder Grin plus i learnt my 'craft' and have made money from it ever since.

Chocolateandamaretto · 28/07/2020 21:35

Regret going back after I deferred my studies for a year. I met my husband at uni so I don’t regret going but I realised it was the wrong subject and I just limped on with it because I wasn’t brave enough to tell my parents I wanted to quit.
I did a STEM degree, I think I should’ve done something in healthcare instead. I will go back at some point but I need to be certain what the hell to do before I go...

MaryShelley1818 · 28/07/2020 21:52

I did my first degree through the Open University as a mature student in my 30's. Didn't open any doors (did it to get into teacher training but changed my mind after working in schools) but I absolutely loved doing it, I was really interested in the subject area and enjoyed every second. I also met one of my best friends there at a local Tutorial Group. It was extremely hard work as I did it at full time rate whilst also working full time but it gave me so much self confidence and I finally felt 'as good' as everyone else.

Currently at a local University half way through my second degree - vocational and with the purpose of working in this field. Very lucky as work are paying all my fees and allowing me paid time off to study each week. I'm finding this much harder but I'm now in my 40's, demanding job, toddler, pregnant and find the assignments so much more challenging.

Kiki275 · 28/07/2020 22:05

I regret the uni I went to and probably even the course I studied. Looking back I was depressed throughout undergrad but really enjoyed my Masters at a different uni. Didn't end up with a related job though x

SuperMumTum · 28/07/2020 22:10

Loved it. Went to a bit of a crap ex-poly but loved my course and have found a great career in the same field. Made some great friends and had the best experiences. Would not have gone travelling twice if it wasn't for uni.

I have a friend now who says that "uni is a way for middle class kids to leave home" which is basically what I did but I don't regret it at all. It didn't cost me anything though and I paid back my loans as soon as I was able to.

I would encourage my kids to go to uni for sure but with the costs now would want to know that they were more focussed on a specific course/career path and have a more academic outlook than I did as my choices were a bit random and spontaneous looking back now.

mrsnoodle55 · 28/07/2020 22:13

Catch 22- I absolutely loved my 3 years of traipsing round Welsh forests and hill farms, spent most evenings rock climbing/socialising/playing sports. Even a brief spell living in a roofless barn in a commune with people I would never have thought even existed. But this was the days of grants, pre fees.

My degree has been completely useless re career prospects; with this in mind now I would only want my 15yr old son to take on the inevitable debt for a degree with sound career prospects. But it would be a shame if he missed out on the life experiences/lessons I had; however that is probably the financial reality these days.

Confusedcorona · 28/07/2020 22:13

Hated it. But don't regret it as it's opened doors to me.

ErrolTheDragon · 28/07/2020 22:15

No regrets - I met my now-DH there (slightly over 40 years ago!), stayed on and did a PhD and that got me into my line of work that I've been happy doing ever since.

Cam2020 · 28/07/2020 22:19

Loved uni. I went to a Russel Group uni and although my degree is not directly related to my line of work, it's stood me in good stead. Even if it hadn't, I still l wouldn't have regretted it, it was great for me as a person.

I think now with tuition fees so high, I'd seriously think about it though. I have a few family members with bad A levels (Ds and Es) going to really awful universities, studying spurious subjects and getting themselves in tonnes of debt for the privilege and I don't think that's worth it, unfortunately. I think it's really appalling that some 'universities' can get away with the fees they charge for the value they offer. Not all degrees or all universities are equal, particularly in a market over saturated with grads.

dodgeballchamp · 28/07/2020 22:20

I only did the first year before quitting and I do regret it - I wish I hadn’t bothered! On paper, my job requires a degree but I found it suited me far better to work my way in on my own terms (pestering and networking, basically).

Academic learning just doesn’t suit me, I’m far more practical. But I had no idea what university was actually FOR or what other options were out there as no one else in my family went and my school was very “go to uni or die unemployed” without actually explaining how you got the best from it

Coldemort · 28/07/2020 22:20

Degree has been a bit useless (2.2 in history from a top tier uni). But I didn't apply myself at all, had no long term career goals, and was never really interested in grad opportunities so that's more on me.

However, I never regret going. I grew up in a rural village and would never have 'got out' if I wasnt for university. No name a few firsts, university was the first time I'd met anyone who wasnt white, first time I'd met anyone who'd been to private school (nevermind boarding school!), first time I'd met anyone who wasn't British. That diversity shaped who I am now.

dodgeballchamp · 28/07/2020 22:21

Wish I hadn’t bothered to go to uni at all, I mean. I don’t regret dropping out.

Northernsoullover · 28/07/2020 22:30

I've only just gone! I have one year left. I had a place at 18 but I messed up my A levels, discovered boys and alcohol and decided not to bother. I know for a fact that it would have been a disaster. I only applied because it was the done thing. The degree was a pretty useless subject and I wouldn't have applied myself.
I'm doing a degree for a niche profession so not regretting my mid life crisis one bit.

beautifulmonument · 28/07/2020 22:33

YABU never regretted it for a second

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