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Teenangels · 28/07/2020 13:04

I am being unreasonable.

Bit of background put my house up for sale, just after lockdown ended.
I had 9 viewing on the first Saturday and 3 offers. All at different levels one at full price from someone with something to sell, one just under the asking price think 10k in a chain, the third offer was 10% off the asking price, chain free mortgage offer in place. The first time buyers also wanted a second viewing before they offered and wanted me to cancel all other bookings so they could get first chance of buying it, they were told to F off. They put in an offer.
We negotiated with the first time buyers and managed to get them to offer 5% of the asking price this was still 40K under the asking price. but we had found a house and for ease went with them but told them that this was a fixed price and there would be no further movement on price from either party.
This was beginning of June, they have had a mortgage offer and surveyor round, all fine house was valued at over their offer, I did not move on our price.
Fast forward to beginning of July another surveyors has come round and found some issues, like moss of the roof I kid you not!! That the electrics are not up to current 2019 regulations, the house was re wired in 2016, that they should check the drainage, and one of the struts in the roof is bending by 5 degrees (this is not a supporting part and there is no movement and if they wanted to replace it, it would cost no more than £50.

My buyer wrote a long email to the estate agent 3.5 weeks after they got the report to say that they wanted a structural engineer to come into the house, a builder and a plumber and electrician and we would have to vacate the house for the day so that they could check everything.
He wants the electrician to take off all the plugs and check the wiring in some of the walls (Channel them out) but not be responsible for any damage. I told them to f off, he wants to check that the electrics are working and safe ( we live in the house with 4 kids).
He is now saying that I have to let him have access.
I have given him access on Thursday to look at the roof, but not to do any electrical work.
I have said that if he plays anymore games the house will be back on the market, I think he wants me to reduce the price, there is no chance.

OP posts:
JoeCalFuckingZaghe · 01/08/2020 10:33

Alsohumans email was pretty much bang on. Call out the sexism definitely.

KingOfDogShite · 01/08/2020 10:37

I’d just say something like

“due to your unreasonable demands and sexist comments I have decided I do not wish to sell my house to you. Good luck in your house hunt”

I think your email is a bit long.

VanGoghsDog · 01/08/2020 10:38

I'm sure you weren't really going to send an email, buit just in case you were - don't.

It's bad enough for you without turning it into a tit for tat soap opera. Concentrate now on finding your buyer.

Just leave the EA to tell them you have now rejected their offer and are remarketing. Leave it there.

JingsMahBucket · 01/08/2020 11:11

How would this become a tit for tat soap opera or a slanging match?? If the FTB come back with a retort, the OP doesn’t have to answer, period.

frazzledasarock · 01/08/2020 11:20

Don’t email anything. Just say tell estate agents to tell them you’ve chosen to put the house back on the market.

fflelp · 01/08/2020 11:56

Just leave the EA to tell them you have now rejected their offer and are remarketing. Leave it there.

Absolutely. It's up to the estate agent to communicate that.
If they choose to re-offer then they can do that and the OP can choose to reject their offer (which she will presumably, after all this carry-on).

roboticaw · 01/08/2020 11:58

Don't respond any further. Unprofessional and unnecessary. Move on. Good luck with the sale!

vixxo · 01/08/2020 12:53

Oh dear I'm super worried about how I'm going to sell my flat without a husband now.

Atadaddicted · 01/08/2020 13:03

The ridiculous email that is being proposed... pretty much the stereotypical response of a highly hormonal, highly strung inexperienced seller.

VanGoghsDog · 01/08/2020 13:20

@JingsMahBucket

How would this become a tit for tat soap opera or a slanging match?? If the FTB come back with a retort, the OP doesn’t have to answer, period.
Sending them that bizarre email is making it into a soap opera. Playing to the (MN) gallery.

It's a business transaction. You don't need to go around telling them you chose them because you thought they were intelligent (where does this come from anyway? And why does she have their email address), implying you now don't think they are. It's ludicrous.

Atadaddicted · 01/08/2020 13:29

Agree @VanGoghsDog
It’s embarrassing now

JingsMahBucket · 01/08/2020 13:46

@VanGoghsDog she doesn’t have their email address. Pay attention. It’s going through her estate agent. If you’re going to get uptight and admonish the OP, then at least keep up and ensure your information is correct.

It looks like the stuffed shirt / “walk away with your head held high” / “keep a dignified silence” brigade have arrived on this thread. 🙄

EvilPea · 01/08/2020 13:46

“Sorry I can’t make good the patio, I buried my husband underneath as he disrespected my electrics”

NoWordForFluffy · 01/08/2020 13:51

@Alwaysinpain, no, you're looking at the wrong bit. She said: '...and will not accept any further others from yourselves'. It's this which needs correcting (if it's going to be sent, which is debatable).

billy1966 · 01/08/2020 16:11

I wouldn't dream of emailing them.

Awful people, why would you waste your time engaging and wishing them well.

Your EA can tell them it's back on the market.

End of.

Tacky people.

VanGoghsDog · 01/08/2020 17:45

[quote JingsMahBucket]@VanGoghsDog she doesn’t have their email address. Pay attention. It’s going through her estate agent. If you’re going to get uptight and admonish the OP, then at least keep up and ensure your information is correct.

It looks like the stuffed shirt / “walk away with your head held high” / “keep a dignified silence” brigade have arrived on this thread. 🙄[/quote]
As opposed to the "turn everything into a slapstick comedy for the amusement of Mumsnet readers" brigade?

It's a business transaction, getting over emotional isn't helpful for anyone.

Longwhiskers14 · 01/08/2020 17:52

@VanGoghsDog

I'm sure you weren't really going to send an email, buit just in case you were - don't.

It's bad enough for you without turning it into a tit for tat soap opera. Concentrate now on finding your buyer.

Just leave the EA to tell them you have now rejected their offer and are remarketing. Leave it there.

Are you the buyer or his wife?!! Why is it "bad enough" for OP? What on earth could be bad about rejecting buyers who have made ridiculous, patronising and sexist demands?
Atadaddicted · 01/08/2020 18:46

I was an estate agent for best part of 10 years

This kind of email would make us think the seller was.... highly emotional and needed to be handled carefully!

SayakaMurata · 01/08/2020 18:49

I also wouldn't send an email like thst. In fact you d I don't need to say anything except that you are putting your house back on the market and won't be selling to them.

Anything else makes you look bad, and you'll regret it when things settle down.

SlightlyJaded · 01/08/2020 19:06

Don't send the email. Perhaps cathartic to have written it, but it comes across as over emotional and unprofessional. Far more slick to pull out and let agents deal with them.

MrsRagnarLothbrok · 01/08/2020 21:35

they sound a complete pair of idiots, hope todays viewings went well and you have a new offer. If you have to reply to the CF I would say something along the lines of;

Good afternoon
Further to X email on Wednesday my subsequent telephone conversations, I will continue to market my house, I will not accept your current offer or any future offers from you.

I initially accepted your offer which was lower than others I received because you were first time buyers with no chain, thinking this would speed up and simplify the process, this has not been the case

I wish you luck in your house hunt

CallmeAngelina · 02/08/2020 08:04

@EvilPea

“Sorry I can’t make good the patio, I buried my husband underneath as he disrespected my electrics”
GrinGrin
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Teenangels · 02/08/2020 08:43

@Atadaddicted
Thanks for your sexist comments I bet you have never called a male hormonal or inexperienced seller, thank goodness I never encountered you when selling my previous 5 houses, even if you were being professional I am sure your contempt would come through.
If you had actually read this was a first draft which I composed in about a minute and not the email that I actually sent.
1 offer and 2 second viewings and another 7 viewing lined up.

OP posts:
ShandlersWig · 02/08/2020 08:53

1 offer and 2 second viewings and another 7 viewing lined

But have they noticed the shed? (Joke)

That's brilliant OP.

TeetotalKoala · 02/08/2020 08:59

Just goes to show that you didn't need to be messed about in order to sell your house. Bad luck for the buyers that their own actions caused them to miss out.
Hopefully they'll learn from this going forward.