So, i get it, at the park, us mums talk and most often i understand it's normal, to ask, "Thinking of anymore?" etc.
But when i reply with "Probably not" or "We might start trying when dd is in school"
They ALWAYS respond with "Can't have a only child, that's unfair" or "No don't leave too long a gap, they won't be proper siblings, get it out the way all at once"
Even when i respond with "Well i don't really want to get anything out the way, i like being a mum so if i do it again, i want to enjoy it, and id love children at home with me for as long as possible" i get responded with "No, it's unfair, think of it, back to back, they all go school, you're finished"
like i'm sick of being told to "get it out the way"
It got that much today by a group of mums that i had to resort to telling them "I lost my second child at birth last year, 14 months after my first, please give it a rest, you don't know what my life has been like to come to these decisions"
And now i'm angry at myself for revealing my personal history that i'm still grieving for to a group of basically strangers because they kept pushing me to explain why i don't want to have another one yet.
It's always happening.