What saying/cliché/proverb you grew up hearing, people use a lot etc. , that you do NOT think is true.

[WellThisWentWell]

I’ll start with

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
&
Life is short/ too short for....

'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'.
I think it can make you look at people with rose- tinted specs but really I agree more with 'Out of sight- out of mind'.

‘What goes around, comes around’.....er no it doesn’t!

I before E, except after C..ermm what about the name Neil?! Haha
I know there are others but I can't think off the top of my head, I'm too tired!

Sun before seven, rain before eleven.
That was a west of Scotland one, though, so fair enough. It's not necessarily applicable further down the British Isles.

Time is a great healer.

No. You work things out over time or nothing works out over time.

"Only the good die young."

I before E....
Yes there's believe, weird, seize(ure) etc..

Happy mum, happy baby

Just remembered a batshit one my Mum told me;

“If you play leapfrog you won’t be a virgin any more and no man will want to marry you.”

I was 7. It was the 1990s. I was confused as hell.

Dock leaves help with nettle stings. It’s ALL placebo and white lies.

Don't worry, karma will get them......

Nope, still living the life of riley with no consequences of his actions

If me or a sibling were talking and forgot what we were about to say, my mum would say "it must have been a lie"

Kind of distressing being accused of thinking of (and then forgetting) lies 😅

Never heard anyone else say this, so no idea if it's a common saying or not...

Kill 2 birds with one stone. Tried couldn't even hit one!

"The proof is in the pudding." It isn't.

It is:
The proof of the pudding is in the eating.

Sticks and stones... verbal abuse and harassment is incredibly damaging and harmful long term. As the child of dv I would say the verbal/mental abuse was the worst and the hardest to recover from

@Marshmallow91 That's interesting but the full saying contradicts itself

Time heals... not always and not for everyone

Our family had a specific saying which I have never heard anywhere else. Such a load of shite : "Women drive, ladies get chauffeured" - I can't even begin to get started on all the dreadful assumptions and presumptions on that one....

Basically, it excused my mother and grandmother from the fact that they never learned to drive and got ferried about by their husbands instead. It was also trotted out when I wanted to learn to drive myself, to explain why it wasn't ever going to happen and I was such a dreadful person for even thinking I might want to learn....

I finally learned to drive when I was in my thirties, it was especially hard for me as I am sure, underneath, psychologically I felt I was doing "something wrong". When I finally passed my test, got my own car and thus complete freedom, it was fantastic. It probably led - ultimately - to my divorce though, as having got my freedom there was no end of other things that I realised that I could do as a woman, and didn't need some bloke to allow/make happen for me...

All the ones about 'what goes around comes around' and 'everything happens for a, reason'. As a pp said, it removes responsibility and agency from us. We choose our behaviour, good and bad. What follows could go in any number of directions. A man does not always create a vacancy when he married the mystery nor is is he certain to regret it and come crawling back.

Yep, "what goes around comes around " or "karma will get them in the end." Absolute bollocks!

@ChikiTIKI we had that saying too - it was quite widespread I think?

The "... If it's not alright it's not the end" sentiment is shit because sometimes truly awful things happen. Or just crap things. And that's that. It's not a very realistic or helpful state of mind. Sometimes you need to know when to let go or accept a situation for what it is. Ditto the eternal search for "happiness".

I used to love "what's for you won't go by you" But I think that's bollocks too now.

As PPs have alluded to - a lot of these feel like they come with a pat on the head and a head tilt

@iklboo

You've got to stand up to your bully. Hit her back.

Thanks, mum. That went well.

Worked remarkably well for me to be fair.

The one that annoys me is 'blood is thicker than water' which people take to mean your family commea before everything.

The quote is actually 't he blood of the covenant is thicker than tbh water of the womb.'

Which actually means the complete opposite!

Come before*

whats for you won’t go by you

It can, you know.

Watch your pennies and the pounds will look after themselves.

"Money is the root of all evil"

Nope. It's a lie. Not having any money to pay bills, put a roof over your head, feed your family and help others around you is the actual problem

@21:25top2patooties

The actual saying is " the love of money is the root of all evil "-not money itself when used for the valid things you mention!

Mine are: Least said, soonest mended - nope, ignoring it won't make it go away, it'll just fester.

"It's no use crying over spilt milk " - no, it's ok to be upset and grieve our losses.

"A Saturday flit's a short sit"- not necessarily!