I live alone in a house that I recently bought. I’ve asked DP when he is visiting to please lock the back door before going to bed because of safety concerns for both my stuff and myself (I’m end terrace). He has forgotten once, remembered when he came up and still didn’t go back down to do it.
Another time recently, I reminded him 5 mins before going to sleep to do so and yet he still forgot (he was semi drunk which is why I reminded him). He gets defensive about being ‘told off’ about it when I mention it the next day.
It’s a uPVC door so can’t exactly put a night latch where it would automatically lock which is a shame. I think it’s a needless risk, particularly because it might be well known around that I’m a female living alone.
I would happily take on the chore of checking the back door but issue is he will read and drink and smoke/vape outside until very late (1 or 2 am) by which time I will have gone to bed. I don’t think it’s fair for me to have to stay up until he decides he’s done being outside for the simple task of locking a door nor do I want to accept he’ll just forget to lock it 40% of the time.
AIBU?
& Any tips to solve this issue?
Thanks