Terrified of mmr vaccinations

[Rosiebelle17]

Hi
My twins are due mmr vaccinations in a few weeks and I’m terrified
They had bad reactions to previous vaccinations with very high temperatures and were sick for weeks
I’m crying writing this as I’m so scared
My doctor just fobbed me off
She was very rude

Would you rather they actually got measles, mumps or rubella? I know they may not have been good with other vaccines but they now have either full or partial immunity to certain diseases. It’s a short term pain( although I know weeks rather than days is hard) but for many years gain scenario.

You’re being unreasonable I’m afraid- vaccinations do not cause illness- they may cause some mild side effects in a small number of children (not many) but that is still far more preferable to actually getting (and spreading) those awful diseases. My baby was completely fine after MMR - only side effect was a slightly raised temp at night for two night SIX WEEKS after the jab. Calpol and all was fine. Please don’t build this jab up in to more than it is - it’s completely safe.

Can anyone give me advice how to deal with two crying babies after vaccinations
I don’t have much help

What Louise said!

How bad were the other reactions? From a Doctors (and most people's) pov, the reaction to a vaccination isn't as rad as getting the disease itself.

Do you have support, someone who can give you practical help? There's only one of you, but two babies, so it can't be easy.

I’m not against vaccinations I’m just afraid

I think I ignored advice and dished up calpol before the appointment and the nurse dished out a giant chocolate button.

Awww I’m sorry you got fobbed off

I had serious anxiety around vaccinations for my pfb. And I had a lovely nurse reassure me that everything will be fine. And rebooked me the appointment for when I feel better. I shed a tear or two.

When I did come for the appointment, he hardly every had a reaction and was totally fine.

The idea of causing pain to our children is so so distressing. But it will be a lot quicker and easier than you think and you need to remind yourself that you are protecting them.

Also maybe do their vaccinations one at a time if you are worried about handling a reaction from both? Unless you have a helping hand.

Hopefully they won’t even have a fever. My son was beaming on his second MMR.. I was almost tearful so sent him with his dad and he came back feeling like a chap.

Maybe try get their dad involved ?

The doctors are probably a bit unsupportive right now due to the pressures they’re under and I’m sorry you didn’t get the support you deserve

I have followed all medical advice about cal pol etc
I had to call out doctors at night with the high temperatures
They all just shrug and say it will pass
I don’t have help

I get it, OP. Even when you know the MMR is essential for them, it’s still worrying. My DS had a localised (but bad in terms of swelling and screaming in pain) reaction to his first and second sets of jabs and we had to go to A and E, so I was very anxious too. But he barely noticed the MMR, and nor did my younger one. Their bodies are a lot bigger than at the 16 week mark. Really hope yours are the same and aren’t too sad and grumpy

I understand you being worried. But take it from me any effects of the vaccine are far less than contracting the illness. I missed my mmr vaccine in year 9 due to being hit by a car the day before it was given. Thought no more of it. I had reacted to the vaccine as a child. The final booster for mmr was never given to me. At 17 mumps was going round at college. I picked it up and honestly I would rather die than have it again. The best advise I can give is to give calpol about 30 minutes before the time of their jabs so it has kicked in by the time the jab starts to take effect.

Should I give calool before
I was told not to ?

Why don’t you get one done and then the other a week or fortnight later. Divide and conquer.

@Rosiebelle17

Should I give calool before I was told not to ?

The nurse told me (at first vaccination but I’m sure it’s still ok for others) that it was perfectly acceptable to give calpol prior to the vaccination. I didn’t, as I didn’t know this. She told me when I got there and we gave calpol before I’d even left the room, straight afterwards. She was very unhappy for a few days but this was solved with the calpol.

They are a bit older now and might be ok?

Tbf at a year I’d give them calpol happily pre or post and not over think it. It’s magic stuff

@Rosiebelle17

I’m not against vaccinations I’m just afraid

Please don’t be, I was really scared about getting dc’s MMR, he’s had a reaction to a previous vaccination and I was worried but, please look at the statistics your children will be vulnerable to some very horrible illnesses, and if they catch measles will most likely have long term effects.

How to make things easier for you? Resign yourself for a tough couple of days, stock up on calpol, food, snacks for you all and some fils for you to watch. Take the pressure off yourself.

I don’t think I could do one baby and the other a few weeks later as the last time the distress for them went on for weeks

What vaccines did they have a bad reaction to before?

You sound more overwhelmed with dealing with twins rather than the vaccinations to be honest.

I have twins, I get where you're coming from.

Imagine how horrendous it would be if they both came down with something you're vaccinating against.

OP you are not unreasonable to be scared or in being annoyed at the gp. You would however be unreasonable to not vaccinate your children. Taking my children to be vaccinated was unpleasant. That look on their faces, the tears (mine and theirs). Still better than contracting the diseases and possible consequences.

Extremely bad reaction to the 2&6 months
I thought I was going to die with the exhaustion , also one baby had silent reflux

I understand the implications of not vaccinating
I’m Afraid they will have a fit or seizure and I won’t know what to do

I could send you some information from the Red Cross on what to do in the case of a fever driven seizure if that helps?

@Rosiebelle17

Extremely bad reaction to the 2&6 months I thought I was going to die with the exhaustion , also one baby had silent reflux

I understand the implications of not vaccinating
I’m Afraid they will have a fit or seizure and I won’t know what to do

Because of the fever? Or reaction? If it’s the fever you can give calpol and if it’s the reaction? My gp’s make you sit in the waiting room for 20 mins to be on hand anything happens.. could you do this?

Or sit in the car if the waiting room isn’t allowed due to Covid

The NHS advice is not to give calpol before vaccinations. It's about reducing reliance on painkillers.
Generally I agree but there are some situations where preventative action has its place. This is one.

How old are they? Do you have a partner who can help?