A night with no men - what do you call it?

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This has me stumped. Generally when a friend organises a night out or night in or lunch purely for females the text normally reads something like this:-

"Anyone up for a Girls' night out on Friday etc"
"Girlie night round at mine this Saturday etc"
"Planning a Ladies Lunch at The Crown on Thursday etc"

I don't really consider myself a girl, girlie or lady - just a woman. So if I'm organising something I find the wording really difficult when texting or whats'apping. It just seems to read a bit oddly if I write "Anyone up for a women's night out next Friday?"

My DH has no problem using Boys' Night or Lads' Night and most people just accept the term Girls' Night or Ladies' Lunch but it doesn't sit comfortably with me. I'm ok accepting invitations worded in any form but if I initiate one I don't feel comfortable with the term girl or lady. Am I overthinking?

Knob free night?
Vag wielders only event?
Night out for the ovary massive?
Convening of the crones?

@livefornaps

The cliterrati

This is great

To me it does imply something about 'being girly', yes, because it's not the vocabulary my female friends and I would use. We'd just arrange to go to the pub together.

So if someone invited me to a 'girl's night out' they would, by definition, not be one of my close friends and would be arranging something that they felt the need to define in terms of its femininity.

I know it's normal vocabulary for a lot of people but to me, because I've always maintained a social life that is separate (though overlapping) with the one I have with DP, I have no need for this 'ooh, it's so different and special for us to be out without the men' vocab. I just use people's names.

Gash Gathering?

@thethoughtfox

Gash Gathering?

Yes. This.

Girls Night Out

Couldn't give a flying what anyone thinks. Until someone comes up with a catchy, widely used alternative then 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ladies night (to me) means a night organised by a club/venue.

However, it's not a term I'm going to be using for quite some time (not going out to the pub etc), so maybe by then someone will have come up with something 🤷🏻‍♀️Something a little more widely acceptable than Pussy Party 🤣

@lottiegarbanzo

To me it does imply something about 'being girly', yes, because it's not the vocabulary my female friends and I would use. We'd just arrange to go to the pub together.

So if someone invited me to a 'girl's night out' they would, by definition, not be one of my close friends and would be arranging something that they felt the need to define in terms of its femininity.

I know it's normal vocabulary for a lot of people but to me, because I've always maintained a social life that is separate (though overlapping) with the one I have with DP, I have no need for this 'ooh, it's so different and special for us to be out without the men' vocab. I just use people's names.

I wouldn't really use the term with anyone except my close friends and always just means going to the pub or just meeting up for food or whatever. I've never been invited to a "girls night" with people I'm not close to, that would be a bit odd I think

“My life” at the moment 😭

Well there you go. Different people with different life experiences, so subtly different notions of normal

@lottiegarbanzo ha yeah. What would a stereotypically "girly" night look like though anyway? Braiding each others hair and painting each others nails? :p

You’re overthinking

I'd go with Girls' Night just as a bunch of women. But I'm fine with girls, so long as it's not used in an attempt to assert power over me for being female. Women's Night sounds much more like a feminist-type gathering, so I'd expect a meeting type thing rather than a social evening.

@arethereanyleftatall

Bliss

This is what instantly popped into my head!

I would say Girls night, as it implies stress and responsibility free, same as Lads night, (Mens night sounds sleazy)

If you’re a member of the Green Party, you can call it a “non-men’s night out”.

“Penis Prohibited Party”

Some fabulous suggestions here - thanks everyone - can't wait to use some of them!

I think you're overthinking a little. I'm a woman, and don't class myself as a girl however we always call its 'girls night' or 'ladies night'
I also call my girlfriends my girls, it's been a natural phrase we've used over the years. I'm late 20's and can't imagine us changing the phrase as we go into our 30s and onwards.

This reminds me of my sister. If we walk into a pub or bar and there's loads of men, she'll proclaim, loudly: wow, it's cock heavy in here tonight!

@MidnightCitrus

I would say Girls night, as it implies stress and responsibility free, same as Lads night, (Mens night sounds sleazy)

Yes - I was going to say that.

More of a responsibility free, expectations free oasis of freedom.

Where you are allowed to enjoy yourself.

@LakieLady the coven is the best I've heard on here

We used to have a 'ladies night' but after we got thrown out of a pub for being too rowdy (there are 4 of us) we opted for 'girls night' - and bearing in mind we are all over 60 that is pushing it a bit.

@YessicaHaircut

Send a sparkly invitation emblazoned with “Viva la vulva”? That ought to do it.

This is amazing.

You are definitely overthinking it.

@DonLewis

This reminds me of my sister. If we walk into a pub or bar and there's loads of men, she'll proclaim, loudly: wow, it's cock heavy in here tonight!

My DH calls it a sausage fest.