A night with no men - what do you call it?

[cheesesconesaremyfavourite]

This has me stumped. Generally when a friend organises a night out or night in or lunch purely for females the text normally reads something like this:-

"Anyone up for a Girls' night out on Friday etc"
"Girlie night round at mine this Saturday etc"
"Planning a Ladies Lunch at The Crown on Thursday etc"

I don't really consider myself a girl, girlie or lady - just a woman. So if I'm organising something I find the wording really difficult when texting or whats'apping. It just seems to read a bit oddly if I write "Anyone up for a women's night out next Friday?"

My DH has no problem using Boys' Night or Lads' Night and most people just accept the term Girls' Night or Ladies' Lunch but it doesn't sit comfortably with me. I'm ok accepting invitations worded in any form but if I initiate one I don't feel comfortable with the term girl or lady. Am I overthinking?

at viva la vulva.

I’d probably say penis free.

Being specific, it's usually the way to avoid some sort of stereotypical term? So Jane/ Mary and Claire do you want to go to the pub Friday, no partners no kids? The trouble with specific is all the extra words.

DH refers to these as «Mi’ladies nights» as in, «are you seeing mi’ladies this Friday?»

@YessicaHaircut 🤣🤣 brilliant!!!

@atalune I like your suggestion; that's the one I'd probably end up actually using.

Totally over thinking

Yup

It always amuses me when this subject comes up on here. Some of the outrage some folk feel over 'girls night out' is surreal.

I don't think any of my friends use those terms. One group, we would never separate ourselves by sex/ gender to socialise, it would be hilarious if one of us decided to try and arrange something like that. Another, it's the women in the group who are friends, we are not friends with each other's partners, so when we arrange to meet up there's no question that we are meeting up, not our partners or dc.

Do you need to call it anything??
Call it a night out and invite who you want and if its all female friends so be it no need to categorise it!
If someone texts me calling it a girls night out/ mums night out etc i really couldnt get worked up about it but if I organise I normally just say night out, it normally clear from.text/ whatsapp group who is invited.

I'm a feminist, I refer to myself and others as women and not girls but I'm totally ok with girls night. If I had an invite to laydeeez night, I would die a little bit inside.

Pleased to see I'm being unreasonable and I'm overthinking it - this tells me that pretty much whatever wording I go with it will be acceptable to the recipients.

We just call it a lasses night out. We're all in our fifties.

Boring

I think girls is fine when we are referring to ourselves. Not as bad as huns.
Not happy when others, particularly men, do it.

@Janaih

Adult human females only?

love this!

we call it a night out without the dickheads

What on Earth is wrong with girls night or ladies night? People are so strange sometimes!

Has become abbreviated to GNO for us.

Pussy party - that's what my nan calls it anyway

Menstruators only?
Penis-free party?

You are seriously overthinking this.

@cheesesconesaremyfavourite

Girls' night does seem to be the most widely used although we are adult women ranging from late thirties to fifties.

Does it matter? Its a universal term. If anyone see's 'girls night out' they don't assume its a piss-up for school kids.

XX party.

To be on the safe side.

Great, now I've got ladies night stuck in my head.

What on Earth is wrong with girls night or ladies night?

Apparently being called a "girl" is highly offensive for some female
and a recurrent reason to be fuming/outraged/offended on your behalf on this forum!

It'd be a 'girls' night out' for me. I

I'm a gender critical feminist of the highest order – and I know that I'm not a girl – but I'm not spending time and ending up using stilted English for this purpose