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To Feel Utterly Helpless - release of Natalie Connolly killer

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Arthersleep · 23/07/2020 19:35

I feel so utterly helpless. The killer of young mother, Natalie Connolly, is about to be released after serving 18mths for killing Natalie under the guise on consensual rough sex! The 41 injuries from which she died included a fractured eye socket and severed artery in the vagina caused by horrific internal injuries. Natalie was too drunk/impaired to consent. A campaign to get the Attorney General to review the lenient sentence failed, after he concluded that it fell within the acceptable range and that she may have consented. The Rough Sex defence has now been out lawed and cannot be relied upon in court, which is a great step forward. However, what, if anything, can we do to appeal/object to the early release of the perpetrator?! As a woman I feel utterly helpless. I feel that we are or have not been listened too. I feel that the law is so concerned with convoluted rules that it fails to achieve the purpose with which it was created. How must this poor ladies family feel, beyond utter devastation. I don't know what to do.

womansplaceuk.org/justice-for-natalie-connolly/

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guiltynetter · 24/07/2020 10:26

I hadn't read about this case before, after reading thatmidwifes letter I feel physically sick. what an absolute monster. what a joke.

Pasghetti · 24/07/2020 10:31

I'm not generally a fan of vigilante justice but then you see the odd case like this and think, hmmmm.

Zilla1 · 24/07/2020 10:41

I've never understood the cognitive dissonance in the participants and support for a system that makes women 'fair game' by people who presumably have or had mothers and/or sisters, wives daughters. Unless they're psychopaths, would they want them to be raped, mutilated and murdered then defamed to justify the crime.

NeedToKnow101 · 24/07/2020 10:45

I would attend a march too.

Beefcurtains79 · 24/07/2020 10:57

Could we have a socially distanced protest? Or a sit down one?

piscean10 · 24/07/2020 11:00

This is so horrifying. So very upsetting. The sentence is sickening. 18months?? That's a big F U to women!

IJustWantSomeBees · 24/07/2020 11:34

I would attend a march

sqirrelfriends · 24/07/2020 11:54

This disgusts me, I would attend a protest.

RIP Natalie Thanks

CelestialSpanking · 24/07/2020 11:59

I remember how angry I was at his initial sentence. Even if he hadn’t meant to kill her, the injuries she suffered, the callousness of his behaviour the next day when he called 999 to report she was “as dead as a donut” and having her sex life raised in court as a defence for the way that she died... I hope every woman in the land takes a long look at his photo and stays the fuck away from him for their own safety. He is very very dangerous.

Natalie deserves so much better than the way she was killed and her treatment leading up to her death and since she died.

MitziK · 24/07/2020 12:08

@Carrotcakeforbreakfast

I live within a 5/10 minute walk from where this happened. And the chap is known for all the wrong reasons

I hope he gets what's coming to him.

?

Apart from clearly murdering a woman and getting away with it, what else is there to know him for?

(As he's already been sentenced, it's not affecting the outcome of a criminal prosecution, which is why I'm asking).

AnyFucker · 24/07/2020 13:02

I hope his kneecaps become "well known" to some heavies in the area.

loobyloo1234 · 24/07/2020 13:04

This made me so angry. Why do women not matter? That poor woman. Her poor family. This is not justice

CandidaAlbicans2 · 24/07/2020 13:11

Just awful. The judge's sentencing remarks makes uncomfortable reading Sad

I live within a 5/10 minute walk from where this happened
And the chap is known for all the wrong reasons

What's his history, Carrotcakeforbreakfast? I used to live in the area but never heard of him (thankfully by the sounds of it)

PumpkinP · 24/07/2020 13:16

This is so disturbing it’s made my blood run cold reading this, I can’t even bare to think about it. So awful

Dennysheart · 24/07/2020 13:32

I’d be very interested to see if this situation was reversed and she had brutally murdered him and used the defence of rough sex. Whether a woman would be freed after a paltry 18 months. In a world that is meant to be progressive, women are still bottom of the list.

ShinyFootball · 24/07/2020 22:18

Thank you Candida

The sentencing remarks are disturbing and telling.

I would recommend to anyone on the thread to read candidas link 10-15 min read) to understand why the term was so short.

The weight given to the man's words, when the woman is dead, and the fact the judge is prepared to accept that she enjoyed being subject to extreme brutality because it turned her on, is disturbing.

NeedToKnow101 · 25/07/2020 00:31

Women do not want this up them. His story didn't add up or make sense, yet his 'good character' saved him. 

NeedToKnow101 · 25/07/2020 00:32

Sorry I tried to add a picture of a spray bottle to illustrate what no woman ever has asked to be put inside her. Total miscarriage of justice.

BovaryX · 25/07/2020 07:15

Candida
Thank you for the link. One of the most shocking things about this appalling case is that Natalie had a blood alcohol level equivalent to having consumed five bottles of wine and was significantly more intoxicated than her murderer. Yet the judge thinks she gave consent? How?

BigKnickers87 · 25/07/2020 09:45

@BovaryX

Candida Thank you for the link. One of the most shocking things about this appalling case is that Natalie had a blood alcohol level equivalent to having consumed five bottles of wine and was significantly more intoxicated than her murderer. Yet the judge thinks she gave consent? How?
Yes this. And not only had she consumed so much alcohol and also cocaine, he was significantly less intoxicated than her.
BigKnickers87 · 25/07/2020 09:46

Oh sorry you also said that. It’s just so horrific. I don’t know how the judge can sleep at night either. Poor woman must have been in such a miserable state when she died. Heartbreaking.

BovaryX · 25/07/2020 10:08

@BigKnickers87

Oh sorry you also said that. It’s just so horrific. I don’t know how the judge can sleep at night either. Poor woman must have been in such a miserable state when she died. Heartbreaking.
It's absolutely horrific. The sentence is appalling. The fact this sadistic killer will soon be free is s grave injustice.
sashagabadon · 25/07/2020 11:39

utterly depressing. I have literally just heard on the 11.30am radio news that the man that attacked Owen Jones (who went to the hospital I think, but his injuries in comparison were a million miles away and he is certainly very much alive) has been given 2.5 years in prison.
I am not against this at all - but it highlights the differences in sentencing a man will get when they a man and what a man gets when he hideously kills a woman.
And Owen jones was in the pub and so also drinking with alcohol in his bloodstream and yet no one would (or did) suggest he was in any way responsible for his own attack (rightly).

depressing.

AnyFucker · 25/07/2020 12:00

What happened to Natalie was a hate crime. What happened to Owen Jones was a hate crime.

Spot the difference in approach. Misogyny is alive and well.

sashagabadon · 25/07/2020 12:05

@AnyFucker

What happened to Natalie was a hate crime. What happened to Owen Jones was a hate crime.

Spot the difference in approach. Misogyny is alive and well.

exactly!