Is it possible to find a romantic relationship as an asexual?

[WellThisWentWell]

Just wondering if there are any asexuals here?
Or if you know someone who is?

And how is the dating life going?

I can’t answer this but bumping for you. Must be complicated to date as an asexual?

You first OP.

Are you writing an article?

And how is the dating life going?
What?

Hi Daily Mail!

Yeah, it kinda is.
It takes out about 99% of the population.
So small pool to try and find someone you like and they like you back.

Thanks.

I just had to Google what asexual was. That must be difficult OP.

Didn’t see the other comments, it was to the first reply.

Asexual is not wanting physical contact right?

Presumably there's Facebook groups etc for that sort of thing?

@OhYeahYouSuck

Well, it kinda isin’t.
That’s why i asked, to see if there are anyone with happy outcome.

I don't really know what asexual is.

Ace here and happy.

It isn't a disease or something to be ashamed of or pitied for.

Asexuality is not feeling sexual attraction.

Eg: A sexual person sees a good looking man/woman and thinks "I fancy him/her. Wonder what s/he's like in bed", etc.

An asexual person sees the same wo/man and thinks, "Goodlooking wo/man".
Nothing else. No feelings in the "loins dept".

@2Ace2Quit

Hey there 🙌🏼

May i ask what your dating life has been like?
(If you are not also aromantic)

An asexual person can have sex/have children/date, etc if they want to. They don't have to experience sexual attraction to do any of that.

But most asexual people I know who found out about their asexuality a bit later in life have had/learned to mask these feelings or live with the lack of sexual attraction believing it's how everyone feels.

Some felt they were weird or something was wrong with them because it's considered normal to go on about fancying people just by looking at them but they don't feel anything in that regard.

Knowing they are actually asexual makes things easier and makes more sense in their life.

[quote WellThisWentWell]@2Ace2Quit

Hey there 🙌🏼

May i ask what your dating life has been like?
(If you are not also aromantic)[/quote]
I'm heteroromantic

No dating life as of yet. As you know, it's a sexual person's world - it's hard enough to find a 'normal' person as a sexual, let alone an asexual

Have you checkout asexuality.org/Aven forum? Loads of asexual people there and they are some of the kindest and most welcoming people I've seen online. Ive learned a great deal too. Topics do generally revolve around asexuality but loads of other topics are discussed too, including threads for sexual people with asexual partners, etc.

Isn't an asexual relationship a friendship? Or am I missing something?

I think I must be asexual then. I never meet anyone and feel a stirring in the loins. I do meet people and think they're attractive, or I'd like to get to know them better.

I'm married to someone who identifies as demi(bi)sexual and fits 2Ace2Quit's example very well and have a few ace friends in happy relationships. Like 2Ace2Quit said, knowing seems to be a big part of working towards something that works and many recommend that forum.

@Clymene

Isn't an asexual relationship a friendship? Or am I missing something?

It can be but also deeper than that. It depends on the people in the relationship.

Basically an asexual relationship is like any other (sexual) relationship except there is no sex. If sex is the only thing that makes a relationship, then I suppose it's a friendship.

There are other types of intimacy that has nothing to do with penetration.

@Whenwillow

I think I must be asexual then. I never meet anyone and feel a stirring in the loins. I do meet people and think they're attractive, or I'd like to get to know them better.

You may or may not be.

It depends on if you ever feel on your own that you'd want to have sex with them at any time?

2Ace2Quit

I just keep nodding while reading your post.
Damn, it feels good (please don’t take the wrong way) to ”talk” to somene going through similar things!

Yes, i have lurked on aven.
Also reddit has two subreddit for asexuality.

There's a whole spectrum of asexuality though...

The forum I mentioned is a good place to ask questions on asexuality.

I always wondered if I was asexual. I have no sexual desires, don't feel sexual attraction and never have. I am married though and have sex so dh doesn't miss out. However for me it's a chore to be honest and I just push through it.

@WellThisWentWell

2Ace2Quit

I just keep nodding while reading your post.
Damn, it feels good (please don’t take the wrong way) to ”talk” to somene going through similar things!

Yes, i have lurked on aven.
Also reddit has two subreddit for asexuality.

Haha, no offence taken at all. I go on Aven to get my "asexuality fix". It can be a lonely world when I'm focused on that area of my life and I leave feeling great,especially when I've joined in with the random everyday discussions.

I had my time of asking dozens of questions and voracious reading there (when I was still trying to figure it all out) but I feel I don't need that aspect of it anymore. It still feels good to lurk and read answers to others. There's always something I get from those.

@DontGoIntoTheLongGrass

I always wondered if I was asexual. I have no sexual desires, don't feel sexual attraction and never have. I am married though and have sex so dh doesn't miss out. However for me it's a chore to be honest and I just push through it.

Lots of asexuals started out feeling this way and doing the same. Afterwards (from what many have said there), they realise this is what they are and it just clicks into place.

Loads still carry on having happy relationships with sexuals where they compromise for the happiness of their partners.