Is it possible to find a romantic relationship as an asexual?

[WellThisWentWell]

Just wondering if there are any asexuals here?
Or if you know someone who is?

And how is the dating life going?

Surely it is not hard. There are many threads here where either the woman or the man doesn’t want sex anymore and in roughly equal measure. I imagine the problem is men who don’t care much for sex probably don’t have much need for a relationship beyond friendship either because they are less naturally likely to want children

What about you @WellThisWentWell? Are you hetero as well or aro, etc?

@2Ace2Quit

Actually, i am not 100% sure.
I do fantasise being in a some sort of relationship, where there is commitment
to each other and sharing and building a life together.
With a man or a woman, leaning more towards with a woman.

But i’m not sure if it’s romantic necessarily.
I think it is, i have no experience, so really difficult to say.
I would also like if it was like a really super duper close friendship, committed to one another.

Have you heard of queerplatonic relationships?

I was just about to mention qpr after reading the sentence before that. Haha

With a man or a woman, leaning more towards with a woman

You could be biromantic or homoromantic.

There's no need, imo, to call yourself anything. Just suggesting.

There's also a whole romantic spectrum and sensuality spectrum.

Tbh, it can get a bit overwhelming and I just settle on asexual.

I too would love a qpr, although I'm averse to that name. I'd rather call it a companionship. It's my dream kind of relationship.

Fantasise about setting the scenes for what works for both of us and then just living our lives.

You’re right about the overwhelming.
Once you start reading and learning more about asexuality, you really see that the spectrum is VAST!

Wow, how random to come across you...
Talk about tiny minority within a tiny minority!

Indeed.

I've left the forum (plus loads of googling pages regarding all the different terms) with a massive headache many times. After a few days of recovering, I go back.

@WellThisWentWell

Wow, how random to come across you... Talk about tiny minority within a tiny minority!

I've always thought I wouldn't mind being in a companionship with a woman either but I know I lean more towards a man (romantically/emotionally-attracted) but it doesn't really bother me a great deal who as long as we're compatible in personality, emotional connection and everything else important to both of us.

I sound like a broken record and keep saying yeah,this is me also (more wlw) and i agree.
What you wrote sounds great to me!!

But hey!
We ”found eachother” just in a hour or two!
Shows that we’re not alone!

Fingers crossed we’ll find companions!

Yep.

I'm aromanic asexual, I'm sure I remember someone saying that OkCupid had an asexual option, obviously not sure it that's true though.

I don't think I mentioned penetration

@slashlover Yes they do. They have an option to state your sexual orientation/lack of but I don't think it's on the search area. That is, you can't filter your search by sexuality/lack of.

Also, it's a very small pool (as many asexuals have mentioned), so depending on your location or where you're looking, you may find nobody else or just 1 or 2.

@Clymene

I don't think I mentioned penetration

I didn't say you did. I just added that part and I actually meant to say "than having anything to do with the genitalia - men/women".

Again didn't say you mentioned those.

One of my DC identifies as asexual and would love to find a partner. He's been much happier since he understood his asexuality but companionship would be so good for him. Fingers crossed that those of you looking find someone to share your lives with

who identifies as demi(bi)sexual

😂

You're always bound to find your kind of people some where on the Internet. That's one of the upsides. Good luck op.

My OH is ace and we've been together 12 years. It's more than just a friendship as some other people said - we kiss a lot, cuddle naked, sleep in the same bed. We are affectionate with each other all the time. Just no actual sex. Most people who know us have no idea about it as we present as any other normal couple. We are even planning kids.

I'm not ace myself but my disabilities make sex so painful it's not worth trying. If I take enough painkillers to get through it I'm super sleepy and totally numb so that's not worth doing either.

You don't necessarily need to find another ace, I know a few people in similar relationships and all have their own reasons for it.