When does it become an affair??

[IfIonlyhadaheart]

I'm in a pickle! One hell of a one.

From the start I'll say that NOTHING has taken place, not of a physical nature, not a brush past or a hand touch, nothing. But the electricity is frightening. I don't know if he feels it too? I strongly suspect so.

My home life is shit! Monstrously so. But that's an aside.

I am falling for a guy at work. We have lots of banter, lots of laughs. I've worked with him for about four months and we get on really well. He's great fun. The banter has gone in a new direction towards our (or my) past life, ex boyfriends, etc. I'm finding he calls me (during work time) for a chat, and texts in the evening or weekend occasionally.

I don't want to fall for him. He's got children with his partner of many years, they are together but not married.

At what stage does something go from being a bit of harmless banter to something else? I've heard the term emotional affair used on here, what does that mean? Is that what this is?

I can't leave my job, it's in a specialist field and it is my life at the moment, as home is so awful.

Do you want to be responsible for breaking up a family ?

Would you like to know that when his marriage is broken and he's with you that his children are crying and wondering why he left them ?

Stop now. It's a very dangerous game if it goes any further.

OP we all know what "electricity" is a euphemism for, no need to be so coy.

And frankly I have little time for a childless person with a job expecting sympathy for their horrible marriage if they're only staying in it for financial reasons. Unless there's a massive drip feed about abuse or you have kids, you have the means and the ability to leave right now. But you prefer your horrible marriage to being broke. A reasonable choice, but it is a choice.

@VeniceQueen2004 you truly are a very unpleasant person. Nowhere have I said I'm childless. Nowhere have I asked for sympathy.

My personal reasons for staying in my marriage are not necessary for this post. They are many and my marriage is horrible for many reasons.

I hope your bitter and twisted attitude is only for the benefit of trolling on this forum and that IRL you're a much better person.