Liking underage girls pics on Instagram

[swingyourpants79]

Am I being unreasonable to be concerned as I noticed that 2 of my males friends are following a 15 year old girl on Instagram and are both liking and commenting on how 🔥 she is 🤦🏼‍♀️ I don't think they realise she is only 15, but these are 40 year old men! Now they aren't naked pics but some are pretty suggestive and she is a beautiful girl!
Do I just ignore I ever saw and do nothing? I really can't have a conversation with either of them about it, as then I'm just going to look like a weirdo for noticing 😂 (I've had a lot of spare time recently 😂)
Or do I message the girl and suggest she makes it obvious on Instagram that she is 15 !
I know it's not really any of my business, but now I've seen it, I can't get it off my mind! Help!

There is nothing wrong with anyone looking at something aesthetically pleasing (not leaving silly lewd messages though) as long as they are OF AGE. She is clearly underage so are they paedophiles??

@loobyloo1234 why keep mentioning it and redirecting the focus of a very serious thread then?

'Instagram stalking' isn't unusual, especially among under 30s (in my experience). I've sat round many a table having drinks with friends who are showing me photographs that their ex's new girlfriend has been tagged in, photos of their new flame's exes, etc.

It's just nosiness. Just because you don't think it's normal doesn't mean that it's a problem especially compared to the actual problem here.

I understand that I am now redirecting the thread even more but I do think the OP needs defending here. She has a minor's best interests at heart and has come across a potentially harmful situation, yet people are fretting over the fact that she's been a bit nosy.

do I message the girl and suggest she makes it obvious on Instagram that she is 15
Nope, Why should she? Because the men are pervs? Address the men.

Maybe send her mum a message? From parent to parent!
looked at her name and typed it in google lol!
I’d find it odd a grown women had been staking my child’s page, just as odd as the men posting.

I looked at who my mate was following
I find that odd too and stalkerish, exes have done that.

Or he is a pedo
If she’s 15 it’s Ephebophilia

was bored and was having an Instagram stalk! 😂 we all do it! Lol
No we don’t

Talk to the men about their actions not police a teenager. Have you not told them as it’s a bit odd going through people’s follow list?

No of course they won't unfollow her lifeIs.

Loads of men fancy girls aged about 12 or 13 up, it's hardly uncommon.

I think the idea of the girl advertising that she's 15 will make things potentially even worse for her than they already are. Can you imagine the private messages she gets Jesus.

The focus on what the op did and what the girls is doing is wonky. Focus on the men and their behaviour.

I think the idea of the girl advertising that she's 15 will make things potentially even worse for her than they already are

Good point. Urgh.

Why the fuck are teenagers posting semi nude /suggestive photos online?!
Do they want fame? Do they want likes and money and free shit? Ffs, what a world

Yeah way worse than the sqillions of men around the world who lust after underage girls

I didn't say its worse. I said kids should not be posting shit like this online. It's not OK. I wouldn't do it as an adult. It's not safe.

If she’s 15 it’s Ephebophilia

We don’t need new words to make it sound better than what we really know it is. Finding an underage girl attractive has a name and we should use it

Why is no-one focusing on the fact that the account needs to be taken down? Of course throw disgust at the men but the girl needs help too if she thinks its acceptable to be posting semi-nude photo's online for all to see, when she's only 15.

It's not ok for a 15yo to be posting these pictures. It's not enough to just say pervy men shouldn't follow her account. She shouldn't have one like that in the first place.

I'd be minded to notify the police and SS to investigate whether there's been abuse and whether the parents are neglecting her by not giving a fuck what she posts online.

@Chocoholic12

Really concerning your friends comment on a childs pictures. Hope they don't private message her innapropriate stuff saying she is hot or anything, they could get deemed o be peodophiles.

Exactly!

@blosstree

Even if people think the OP having an Instagram stalk is a bit weird, why on EARTH are you focusing on that rather than 40 year old men saying they think a 15 year old girl is hot?! That is an actual problem!

But oh yeah focus on the nosy woman instead, that's much worse It isn't that hard to find someone's age on the internet if you know their name.

Thanks! Exactly! I admitted I was being nosey haha! I'm very nosey lol!

[quote blosstree]@loobyloo1234 why keep mentioning it and redirecting the focus of a very serious thread then?

'Instagram stalking' isn't unusual, especially among under 30s (in my experience). I've sat round many a table having drinks with friends who are showing me photographs that their ex's new girlfriend has been tagged in, photos of their new flame's exes, etc.

It's just nosiness. Just because you don't think it's normal doesn't mean that it's a problem especially compared to the actual problem here.

I understand that I am now redirecting the thread even more but I do think the OP needs defending here. She has a minor's best interests at heart and has come across a potentially harmful situation, yet people are fretting over the fact that she's been a bit nosy. [/quote]
Thank you!

How does the law work with regards to sharing pictures of child pornography if its the child themselves posting it?

It is illegal for a child to share explicit photographs of themselves and it is classed as distributing child pornography. It’s unlikely to lead to any sort of conviction, but it is (obviously) a massive safeguarding concern. I’m assuming that the police are much less sympathetic if it’s teens sharing pictures of other teens.

It doesn’t sound like these are illegal though, just a bit morally dubious given that the girl is underage. If they are explicit OP then please report them!

According to op they aren't explicit.

I think official insta age is 14?

Not sure reporting would do much good tbh

Also don't know what country she's in, reporting to SS might be tricky depending on where she lives.

' I’m assuming that the police are much less sympathetic if it’s teens sharing pictures of other teens.'

I'd have thought an adult soliciting pics of underage girls/ boys is worse than teens sharing with each other? Maybe I misunderstood.

Or do I message the girl and suggest she makes it obvious on Instagram that she is 15!

Jesus Christ. Have a think about what you wrote! Your friends are disgusting and you're too not far behind them.

Have a word with your ‘friends’ or there wives do not message the girl or her mum. It’s wrong to victim blame

I'll never forget the case where a girl aged about 13 got persuaded to send a topless pic to a random, then immediately told her mum.

They went to the police who promptly told her they might press charges for distribution of child 'porn' and not a peep about the man who talked her into it.

Totally missing the point but just googled my teen! The only posts I saw was a couple of mentions in the school newsletter (you would be able to work other age from that) but no pics. She doesnt use her own name on ig

Maybe send her mum a message? From parent to parent!

How do you know who her mother is ?

I honestly am confused though seems others are too!
Maybe send her mum a message From parent to parent!
you said it's not someone you know, and she's not famous either - how do you know who her mum is from her IG page?

Thing is anything could be going on

It could be anyone running the account

@ShinyFootball I meant that if teens are sharing pictures of themselves it’s unlikely to lead to a conviction, even though it is illegal. However if they are sharing pictures of each other, that is more likely to get them in to trouble. I have (fortunately) never been made aware of such things by a student, but I have seen posters up in schools which basically say to students that if they are worried about intimate photos being shared then they should not be put off reporting it by the fact that it is illegal for them to have shared them in the first place.

I might not be explaining myself very well!

@BubblyBarbara

If she’s 15 it’s Ephebophilia

We don’t need new words to make it sound better than what we really know it is. Finding an underage girl attractive has a name and we should use it

New word? It’s been used since the 50s. I also didn’t say it made it better.

Ephebophilia refers to mid-to-late adolescents, pedophilia refers to prepubescent children.