Gardener still sending me messages

[PumpkinP]

I posted a little while back about having a gardener come to my house who kept sending me messages. I found him on Facebook after advertising on a local page for a gardener (after I found out he actually travelled almost 10 miles by public transport so hardly local!)

anyway when I first spoke to him he was sending a lot of messages. All garden related but I remember thinking from then he came across as abit full on. I badly needed the garden done so I just decided to let him come to do it. He came and did the garden and at some point couldn’t finish cutting the hedge due to heavy rain. Which I told him was totally fine and I didn’t mind, it was only a really small bit at the side of the house, there was also some other overgrown areas but I told him I could manage those myself, as I had only wanted the hedge cut.
When he told me how far he had travelled I was abit surprised as it didn’t seem worth it for the amount paid as he would have needed to pay for the train, and he also came with a friend that helped him (not sure if he paid him.)

After he left he kept sending me a lot of messages again, apologising for not completing it saying he would come back to do the rest. I told him that it was fine and there was no need. But he has began messaging me repeatedly asking if he can come back and do it! I’ve already told him that it’s been done but it hasn’t stopped the constant messages. He even had the cheek to say he can come back to finish it for £15?! So trying to charge me for something he didn’t finish. I’ve been ignoring his messages as I thought that was the best thing, however on Sunday he messaged me at 10 o’clock at night asking me if I’m a single mum?! (My children were here when he came) I did not respond to this. But yesterday he messaged me on Facebook asking AGAIN if he come back and finish it, (bare in mind I’ve already told him it’s been done) again I don’t respond but woke up to another message today telling me he can come round and do it he’s seriously creeping me out now and I’m scared to block him incase he just shows up! Aibu to just continue to ignore him?

Is he a actually running a legit business? All sorts of people advertising on FB posting from their personal page with no sign of any actual business. Did you check first or just let a random person work for you?

Say you need a receipt for the work that you have paid for, bet you don't see him for dust!

Honestly, I am going to be harsh here and say it really isnt difficult to stop this.

I had something recently with my 89 year old Mother who was being bombarded with Amazon calls from someone claiming they want to put points back on her card! I told her dont engage. She doesnt use the internet or Amazon. Say you dont have an Amazon account and put the phone down. She said she would and then keeps engaging.

She then got very upset and asked whether I could call them and stop them from ringing! One last message saying all has been done gardening wise and you do not need him anymore, dont say you will contact him if you do and then as others have said BLOCK!

Please WOMAN UP!

I know I need to! I think these people target people that they know find it hard to tell them no. I have sent him one final message and blocked him now, I really hope that’s the end of it now. Don’t want to come home and find him “gardening”

Yes he wash just some random man on Facebook, lots of people post on my local Facebook page asking for handy men, gardeners etc, I would usually want someone I knew through recommendations but unfortunately everyone I know does their own gardens. I’ve learnt my lesson! He is claiming to have a gardening business and I still see him advertising on Facebook

If you do come home and find him "gardening" you should immediately call the police. That would actually be really concerning.

The obvious answer is ask him to stop.

If he doesn't threaten to go to police.

If he continues go to police.

I wouldn't have blocked him at this point because I would want to confirm whether he actually stopped.

At our allotment there was a bloke like that called Trevor. He would scope out all the female allotmenteers and offer his
'Free' gardening services to them. He didn't offer that service to blokes! He was quite the perve and very pushy with it. One day he turned up at my house ( i had not given him my address he had somehow got it from the allotment office). He used to post packets of crisps through my letterbox as I was always 'out' when he called round. One day my OH answered the door to him then he stopped! Phew.

Did he try to contact you again OP?

Very inappropriate.

My mum had a gardener message her and he wanted to cut her hair or shave her head. Said he would pay loads for it. Can't remember the exact story but he was a friend of my grandmas gardener who was bought along to help. This was Staffordshire.

@SatanicDesk

Very funny!

@PatriciaPerch 😱😂😂 it's a little further in.

Message him to remove your details under GDPR, or you will take it further if he contacts you again