@mistyrivers87 you have no understanding of what ADHD is. It does NOT necessarily equate to poor behaviour although that may be seen especially in those that have the hyperactive/impulsive sub-type.
ADHD is an executive function disorder. That means it makes it very difficult for you to concentrate on things you are not very interested in, difficult to switch tasks and difficult to start new tasks leading to to procrastination. Working memory is poor so you can't hold tasks or information in your head. You mislay or lose things. Your brain jumps about so you can switch from one topic to another struggling to take people with you.
ADHD means you have a motivation and interest deficit. It takes a lot to get our brain firing and working properly. For example I've always done my best work at the last minute. On the few occasions I have managed to complete things ahead of time, the work has generally poor quality.
We therefore get bored very easily and so struggle to maintain habits and hobbies. We struggle to maintain regular tasks at home due to this.
We struggle with emotional dysregulation so emotions can go up and down very quickly. For me my mood changes can be hourly.
You have no internal clock so time management is very difficult so your perception of time passing is often completely wrong.
Social interaction can be difficult. For me, I struggle with concentrating on what people are saying, without interrupting. I struggle to remember what I want to say - if I don't/can't say it immediately it's gone. I can't stand small talk. I tend to blurt our random things and over share which leaves me feeling vulnerable. It all means I have to constantly monitor what I am doing in social settings so they can stressful rather than fun.
ADHD can therefore make it very difficult to run your life. I get very overwhelmed for example if I have to plan to have a night out. I struggle to remember tasks and appointments so I have multiple systems in place to help me manage these things but that's can be time consuming to maintain. We struggle to look after ourselves - drink enough water, eat the right foods, exercise consistently. We often have sleep issues. So we have a higher rate of disease and a shorter life expectancy
A common thing in some ADHDers, that I definitely struggle with, is word and fact recall. I learn loads of things but can't recall them when I need to which is embarrassing and makes me sound stupid when I am not. I often say the wring word to (or make up words when I can't think of one that describes what I want to say!!).
It's a disorder of inconsistency. Some days better the others, some things you can concentrate and some you can't, constantly starting new things you can't maintain or finish.
Conversely, people with ADHD are often great ideas people who can hyper focus on things they are interested in. They tend to be great at research and love learning new things. Some can have lots of energy. They can have great senses of humour. They usually like change. We are usually great in a crisis or when there's a tight deadline.
So please educate yourself. ADHD is not just naughty hyperactive boys and an excuse for misbehaving. It is a condition that affects many facets of your life and can make like very hard for many people.
ADHD is real. It's been well studied over many years. There's been studies that have shown differences in the brain structure in people with ADHD. It's also known to be inherited.