I have a chronic heath condition which was stable/in remission for a very long time but due to a recent decline in my overall health it has now come back and impacted on my life in a lot of ways that I’m struggling to come to terms with.
Anyhow, alongside the re-emergence of my chronic condition, I have also had other heath issues be picked up on (over the last two weeks) and my GP has told me that my body is burnt out. She told me I have been running on empty a long time and she’s surprised that I’ve managed to cope this long before things came to a head.
As a result of how things are with my health my Consultant has said I’m to have a minimum of two months off work and it is vital that I rest and recuperate otherwise my health will continue to decline. She is also worried about my mental heath as well as my physical health due to how I’m struggling to cope with my condition resurfacing and the impact it has had.
Anyway - I have two children aged 6 and 3 which is obviously not conducive to rest and recuperation, so my husband who is also worried told me to go and stay with a family member for at least a week (of which I’m 5 days in to) so I can get some proper rest and look after myself. I can’t explain how much better I’m feeling, physically and emotionally, just from being able to completely rest for this short period of time.
I obviously miss the children very much, so yesterday my DH bought them over after they’d had their breakfast, they stayed the day, slept over last night and then went home just after lunchtime today when DH collected them. I miss them again already.
My DH can see how much better I look and feel after these past 5 days of rest and he has told me to stay here for as long as I need to if it means my health isn’t being compromised and that I can recover quicker. He has said he will bring the children over every couple of days if I want (which obviously I do) and they can stay overnight again etc
In some ways I know he is making sense because I genuinely do feel so much more rested but at the same time it just doesn’t feel right to be away from my children. I feel like I’m being really selfish 
I just feel so drained by everything - my Consultant has told me that I have to put myself first, but that goes against everything that being a mother means to me because I just keep thinking that I should be at home with my children.
AIBU to stay with my family member for a bit longer? What would you do in my position. I just don’t know what course of action is the right one