so, long story: boring week, the usual dog walks, work, home schooling 3 kids. dd increasingly relucant to come on walks. dh and ds 2 and 3 off on really fun bike rides friday and sat leaving and dd to do stuff together, all fine but i was hoping for a family day out today, just a change of scene at the beach, get everyone in car. dh informs me the weather foul at beach so i realise it was a silly idea and suggest change of plan. cue huge row about where to go, dd still wants beach, boys want walk dd and i have done loads when theyve been biking , turn car round, culminating in tiny crap dog walk behind house in rain, still rowing. dh muttering darkly about how "we're all doing exactly what you want to do" and me trying to explain my rationale. dd peels off and goes home in protest. i say at least now we have option of change of scene after lunch when forecast better, dh says i will have had a glass of wine so wont be an option, i say i won't, just would love to get outta town as a family. on return i apologose to dd for rowing, explain this happens between all parents sometimes (rare for us) dh says nothing. i then say no worries we can have special lunch which dh had been planning, then go to beach in afteroon when weather better, dd seems fine with that. dh then points out in front of dd that this might not happen as it takes too long and the whole thing errupts again, dd who is 12 btw leaves room and i say i feel undermined. dh replies again about doing what i want at this point l lose temper, call him a dick and stomp off to room. i think ive behaved like a child? help.