AIBU to think he stole my keys?

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My DH’s keys have been missing for a few weeks. We’ve looked around the house for them multiple times but never had any luck finding them. We haven’t been too worried as we haven’t been anywhere but at home and the odd time DH has used his car he has used my keys. I was thinking my 4 year old had probably done something with them and they would turn up eventually.

We THINK they went missing around the time we had a few of my DH’s friends over for a social distanced BBQ and a few drinks. But that’s only in hind sight.

But last night that same friends daughter came over to babysit while DH and I went out for dinner. DH’s friend dropped his daughter off and disappeared as soon as we left for the restaurant. When we got home, DHs keys where on a table by the sofa.

Now I cleaned my house top to bottom before the babysitter came over, disinfected everything I could. I know his keys weren’t on the table. It’s making me feel a bit strange. Our house key and car key is on there, and I have a feeling this friend of ours took them and returned them without telling us... but why?

Nothing is missing, my DH has known this man for years, I’ve met him and his wife a few times for dinner or wine. Should I be worried? Or has he just accidentally picked up our keys at some point by accident and returned them and I’m overreacting?

Change the locks.

He could have had copies made and I personally wouldn't be able to relax in my own home.

It's a weird thing to do. If I took keys by mistake I would immediately contact the householder and say something. Why wouldn't you?

Alternatively what others have said.

Hope op comes back to clarify.

Ask the babysitter where she found them?

The babysitter is having an affair with your husband. He gave her the keys.

I'd have to ask.

I would have changed the locks already!

I don’t know them well enough to have their numbers. I think my Dh is going to ask him about it, because it’s just rather uncanny.

But no I don’t think he’s going to murder us or that my husband is having an affair with the babysitter.

Other notes are probably things I’m thinking about too much. The sitter was out our house so quickly when we came back I had to stop her so I could actually pay her, which was strange to me.

But it’s probably a miss understanding about the keys and a teenager who has better things to do.

Thank you for the suggestions. Still just doesn’t sit right with me.

I’m going to try and answer the questions I saw:

My son was in bed when she arrived, so there was no play time

I was in the living room, I showed her around, gave her the WiFi code etc

I checked the sofa multiple times for the keys and they weren’t there.

I’ve litterally been locked in my house with my DH solidly for MONTHS, I seriously doubt he’s had an affair with a 16 year old in that time. I don’t think children are his type!

And he was the one who pointed out the keys are pointed out how weird it is.

Surely your DH has their numbers?
Get him to ask!

I reckon friend has found them v recently and was embarrassed to admit in case you had gone to expense to replace the locks. Maybe found them in a jacket pocket.

How can you not have a number for the babysitter, what is you needed to speak to her during the evening, what if there's been an emergency?

Her parents live within eye shot of our house. She had our number, John has her parents number. I didn’t really feel I needed her number too.

Bit weird she shot out of the house. Also a bit weird you feel you don't know her parents well enough to have their number but you're comfortable with their teenager babysitting AND weird that you don't have her number too.

What if her parents got ill or something? And didn't answer the phone? What if she got ill? You should have her number OP. And theirs too.

My husband has known them for years and we move here just before the lock down. I talk to her mum about it before, have met their daughter before and we where 20 mins down the road?!? We know all our neighbours and have many friends that love a street over. I’m lucky that I have a good community of friends who live shouting distance. If I was at all worried about the safety of my kid I obviously wouldn’t leave. I don’t know why I’d have to explain that but here I am.

I think it's unusual to have a babysitter in your house that you have no way to directly contact but clearly with all the looking out of the window and shouting at your neighbours where you live is maybe different to other posters on the thread.

Yes I guess it is a bit unusual. It’s a small village we moved back because we know so many people here. We also have a landline which I can phone on. So I could have contacted her at any time.

You don't know why you'd have to explain your set-up but you think your DH's friend "who he's known for years" stole your keys??

It all sounds odd OP. No wonder people are confused.

So much trust...but none.