To leave with no notice?

[Lemononachair]

I'm really struggling at the moment because I started a new job about a month ago and was so happy at the time, it's a reasonable commute, plenty of hours and good rate of pay.

I am about ready to quit and walk out. I've been working in this industry for over a decade and I can honestly say it's the most physically and mentally demanding job I've ever done. I finish late and am so depleted at the end of the day I have no energy for anything. I don't want to eat, do hobbies, have no sex drive, I barely get time to see friends. In short, I have no life.

Job was supposed to be for a fixed term and we are a very small team heading into a very busy period. It's a fact that me leaving would impact them hugely not least because I do 90% of the work and my colleague does literally one task which he seems to have latched onto as 'his'. Any work I do in 'his' area gets ignored or disposed of. No one in my area listens to me. I get ignored, patronised and talked down to on a daily basis, even though I probably have more experience than them. I'm really fed up. Overheard people talking the other day saying that last year they had a least 3 people on at all times, sometimes 4 or 5 helping and yet I have been left to do virtually everything by myself?! How is that fair?!

New colleague started the other day who is actually a returning member of staff from last year. Discussing among themselves how they will be dividing up the days off between them, just so happens to be all the hardest, busiest days of the week they want off. No discussion with me, I just have to deal with whatever is left. I'm off today and genuinely have no desire to go back whatsoever.

Wibu to leave with no notice despite the fact it would definitely leave them in the shit? I hate to do it because my boss is actually really nice and we get along great but I just can't bear it anymore and we aren't even in the super busy period yet. The thought of it getting worse makes me sick to my stomach.

Have a chat with your boss
He should be managing the workload fairly
If they can’t sort it out start looking for something else unless of course you can afford to walk without having something lined up

If your boss is really nice, it’s got to be worth a proper chat with him/her before you do anything rash. It might not improve anything, but you’ve got nothing to lose if the alternative is that you walk.

In a way I don't blame my colleague because the job he is doing needs to be done it's just that he does it to the exclusion of everything else. It's also the fact that we just don't physically have enough staff to manage the workload we have! I can't see them hiring anyone else at this point, if they were going to do it they would have done it by now.

I did forget to mention that my old workplace closed down due to coronavirus but they have recently emailed me to tell me that they are reopening at the end of the month and have offered me my old job back albeit with revised hours and pay. It's not as good money wise but at this point I'd jump at the chance. I just don't want to let anyone down but I can't cope 😞

Don't leave without notice.
I did this as I was pushed to the limit and felt like I had no other option.
I have applied for many jobs and can't get an interview in my industry, the reason for rejection every time is due to background.
I am good at my job and was often sought out for advice from other places in my industry now I might have to consider changing careers.
If you want to leave either work your notice or work something out with your boss.

You need to talk to your boss.

What is your notice period, hopefully not too long for a fixed term job? Doing a shit job during the notice period can feel a tiny bit better as you know you only have 20 more days etc, so can't you give notice on Monday? Or even call/email boss today and give notice. I would never leave a job without giving notice, it is very unprofessional.

I wouldn’t be worried about letting anyone down seeing as they don’t seem to be worried about you and management are where exactly? They should be ensuring that work and days off are divied up fairly.

Write it all down with specific examples, and go and speak formally to your boss. Ask what they are going to do to ensure that workload is distributed in an equitable way. If they don’t give you a satisfactory answer go back to your old place.

Talk to your new boss.
Talk to your old job people and advise you need a higher salary to keep pace with the one you have. They may offer you it.
Either way you have both replies. Go with the best one.

I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it but I quit working for a well-known supermarket with no notice - we were spoken to like crap, certain policies were completely unfair and after one too many “bollockings” I just thought fuck this. I remember one of the managers saying “I hope we’ll see a different attitude from you going forward” and me thinking “LOL u won’t because I won’t be here you twat.” My shift finished at 8 that night and I was due at 8 the following morning, I texted my husband at 3pm that day and said I was done, so he and his boss send a recorded delivery by 9am resignation letter and I just didn’t show up the next morning - tbh I relished the fact they’d be shitting themselves with a member of staff down and that perhaps a manager might actually have to do some work for a change. Still don’t know what they wrote in the resignation letter, they still won’t tell me 😂😂 I set up my own business after that!

I just don't want to let anyone down but I can't cope

I get that, I don't like the thought of letting others down either but you need to do what's right for you, not what makes life for your company/boss/colleagues easier.

@Iamclearlyamug

I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it but I quit working for a well-known supermarket with no notice - we were spoken to like crap, certain policies were completely unfair and after one too many “bollockings” I just thought fuck this. I remember one of the managers saying “I hope we’ll see a different attitude from you going forward” and me thinking “LOL u won’t because I won’t be here you twat.” My shift finished at 8 that night and I was due at 8 the following morning, I texted my husband at 3pm that day and said I was done, so he and his boss send a recorded delivery by 9am resignation letter and I just didn’t show up the next morning - tbh I relished the fact they’d be shitting themselves with a member of staff down and that perhaps a manager might actually have to do some work for a change. Still don’t know what they wrote in the resignation letter, they still won’t tell me 😂😂 I set up my own business after that!

Can you name and shame the supermarket?

Give us a clue what it rhymes with.

Just do what's right for you. You wouldn't be the first to leave a company without notice because you were treated badly. I would try and have an honest conversation with your boss though and just explain that you're sorry but you can't do it anymore

I left my job without notice last summer. I, like you, had worked in my industry for absolute years and have an excellent reputation/career history.
I have never worked anywhere where service was so poor, managers worked against each other etc. The final straw for me was going into a meeting with the new director and finding that another manager had basically slagged me off to him and he had clearly believed all of it.
It was a few days before my 2 weeks leave (the only holiday I had had that was more than 4 days the entire year).
I also discovered that my pay was substantially lower than all other managers.
I cleared my desk. Emailed CEO my resignation and went and handed the entire problem to the manager who had been a cow with a complete dead pan look.
I was on the beach by 2 and I never felt better and never regretted it for one second. It wasn't a problem in subsequent interviews; just said that it wasn't the role for me and it didn't work out.

I don't have a contract of any sorts yet, I guess because it's a temporary job? So I have no idea what my actual notice period would be.

I do plan on talking to my boss either way, I would want to let her know but tbh I don't think she could do much about the issues I have with the job which is why I feel my only real option is to leave. I'm sad because I really thought this would be a good opportunity for me but it's just too hard 😞

If you don’t have a contract then you can give them a week if you are feeling kind. Might have done that myself...

You don't need to worry about notice if temporary.

Please go. You have no life. Do you have any savings to tide you over until next job?

Life's too short to be unhappy.

Leave, with immediate effect.

No contract? Then walk away OP and hold your head high.

Ok, I went in and spoke to my boss first thing Monday. Was so nervous I felt sick and was shaking! Fortunately she was so lovely about it, gave me a hug and said I wasn't letting anyone down and I have to do what's right for me. I actually feel bad I can't stay for her sake, she really is so nice. I have given her a bit of notice so she can try to find someone else before I go, and so they don't have to change around the rota.

By contrast, when I went into my section I noticed that someone had changed the rota (not the official one, just the extra reference copy), crossed their name out and added mine - without asking or informing me of the change - which would mean I was working a 6 day straight and would have had to cancel my plans for my days off. It's this kind of fuckery that makes me glad I'm now leaving!

It's funny because my colleagues still do all the same stupid, annoying shit but all of a sudden I can cope with it that much better because I just don't care now. I can just take a deep breath and let it go! I'm counting down the days till it's not my problem anymore 😊

Feel so relieved.

I'm glad you're walking OP. That sounds horrible. The rest of them are going to get a surprise when they find out you're off!

Well done lemon

Have you told her about the colleagues? I hope that you are not going to change your plans. It sounds as if you will be leaving with your head held high.

I hope you crossed your name out again.

That sounds so like my experience with the Co-Op.

Started PT. Contract was 2 afternoons and one evening a week. Most of the other workers were students and good mates with the supervisor who did the rota. All of a sudden my 3 shifts became Fri/Sat/Sun evenings with the students off.

Went to speak to the manager who assured me this would change in the next shift period. New rota came out, guess who'd been given all the shit shifts so the students could go out partying.
Immediately handed in my notice. I hadn't needed the job to begin with so no way was I staying.

I did work out my notice, however when I got paid it was over £400 short. Transpired, that rather than actually show me as leaving on the system the dodgy supervisor had put me down as annual leave and divvied up the extra shifts to her mates pushing my leave date forward by a month. As I'd not been there long enough for annual leave it was taken from my final pay. It took me 3 months of fighting to get what I was owed.

That's really crappy @Mandalorian. It's such a shame when other people ruin what could have been an otherwise nice and ideal job!

I didn't cross my name out on the rota, I just left it as it was because I wanted to see if anyone actually asked or told me about the change. The rota had only been up for one day when it was changed so there was a high likelihood I wouldn't have known about it unless someone made the effort to speak to me about it.

Predictably I did get a call asking if I was coming in. Apparently I had agreed to covering someone else's shift?! I hadn't, no one had asked me to cover or even mentioned it to me! I said that unfortunately I had plans and that if I had been asked I might have been able to change it but that since it was on the day it was too late. Didn't respond further.

I know I will probably get it in the neck and they'll be pissy with me when I'm next in but oh well 🤷‍♀️ It's their fault for not bothering to check with me, I'm not their lackey.

I haven't actually mentioned it to my colleagues that I'm leaving yet. I'm not sure if I should or just keep schtum? I don't want them to be extra twatty because they know I'm leaving. Tbh though, if they are I will just walk out. My boss knows the situation now as she only asked me to do what I can manage.