PIL birthday card. Should I be offended?!

[PonyPals]

This is light hearted... thought I would share with you a bday card that was sent to me by PIL

You have to ask random strangers on the internet if you should be offended? You’re honestly not sure if you should be offended by
a birthday card???

@PonyPals personally I wouldn't find it funny, surely there were other nicer cards they could of picked?
Also @InTheWings "stick insects or bumblebees" I love that I'm stealing it

I get you 100% I got a card last year from SIL that said this is my happy face with an image of an ugly old woman. I took offence at it because of our historic relationship. I think that card you've been sent is inappropriate.

I think it's funny and I've had eating disorders, I'm overweight and maybe have a tiny drink problem too. It's still funny though as I also have a sense of humour.

Unless they have a history of making digs at you/about your weight it is more likely not to be malicous. I can see how if other family members with a history for this sort of thing sent it to you you would know it was intended as a dig. You say you struggle with your weight but are they aware of that? If so then its thoughtless, if they aren't then they just have a different sense of humour to you

I think it’s funny, but I’m not easily offended.

Its the kind of thing my mil would send to me and I wouldn't think much of it and she would think it was funny, But if I sent it to her she would be deeply offended and think I hate her.

Happy birthday Ponypals Fuck the in-laws, use the card as a straw for your wine

Send one of them this when it's their birthday.

As you say OP, it’s very much dependent on the relationship with the sender. I wouldn’t find this offensive from the majority of people - but one now ex-friend used to be forever making ‘jokes’ about my weight, so this card from her might have felt like a dig.

I have to say though, I’m finding comments along the lines of ‘I wouldn’t find this card funny because it’s unsophisticated and devoid of wit’ a bit pretentious and po-faced. It’s a greeting card for heaven’s sake! If you’re looking for the 21st Century Oscar Wilde, I doubt you’ll find him writing gags for Clinton’s.

I can see me or one of my close girlfriends sending such a card with the underlying message being, "it's totally justified to drink wine". If they have form for making digs at your weight... then it's rude and offensive.

Or more wine-related.

Happy lockdown birthday PonyPals

I have found that if you just drink straight from the bottle you have one hand free for the cake!

Its not very funny, but quite typical of cards aimed at younger women - because we're all obsessed with wine, gin and cake are't we?

One of my friends is always buying gin and prosecco related cards and gift-y tat, but I've never seen her drink anything except black coffee or water. I expect men find "hilarious" cards about loafing around on sofas and drinking beer tiresome too...

I’ve struggled to get greeting cards over lockdown, maybe there wasn’t a lot of choose?

What's worse is that it doesn't even say Dear Pony.

I would go full tantrum on this deliberately. Make them feel like shit. I'm so tired of taking the high road.

This wouldn’t bother me . It’s a typical not very funny Card - there are a million more offensive ones in the shop. But then I know my pil would have sent it to me without ever thinking it could be interpreted as a dig

Two grown women claiming they’d have a ‘tantrum’ over this? Is there something I’m missing?’

My 3yo nephew chose my birthday card last year - before he could read of course!

I'm saving it to show him when he's a teenager

@SoddingWeddings that’s brilliant

It's not even as though the person on the front of the card IS overweight.

I think t would be even worse if the person on the front was over weight to be honest.

It’s a poor, dated, stereotyped joke on a cheap card that probably came from a shop with limited choice. I wouldn’t be offended, I’d just be a bit “meh?”.

Fil does this to me deliberately all the time.
I just smile and ignore.
He's a complete arsehole.
Doesn't put amounts on gift cards to force me to ask-I don't I go to the store and ask.
I see them maybe twice a year as a result of his pure twattery- I just cannot be arsed with it.