PIL birthday card. Should I be offended?!

[PonyPals]

This is light hearted... thought I would share with you a bday card that was sent to me by PIL

[Nicolastuffedone]

You have to ask random strangers on the internet if you should be offended? You’re honestly not sure if you should be offended by
a birthday card???

[Leolion09]

@PonyPals personally I wouldn't find it funny, surely there were other nicer cards they could of picked?
Also @InTheWings "stick insects or bumblebees" I love that I'm stealing it

[dinosaurdee]

I get you 100% I got a card last year from SIL that said this is my happy face with an image of an ugly old woman. I took offence at it because of our historic relationship. I think that card you've been sent is inappropriate.

[0blio]

I think it's funny and I've had eating disorders, I'm overweight and maybe have a tiny drink problem too. It's still funny though as I also have a sense of humour.

[Flopjustwantscoffee]

Unless they have a history of making digs at you/about your weight it is more likely not to be malicous. I can see how if other family members with a history for this sort of thing sent it to you you would know it was intended as a dig. You say you struggle with your weight but are they aware of that? If so then its thoughtless, if they aren't then they just have a different sense of humour to you

[LH1987]

I think it’s funny, but I’m not easily offended.

[thecatsarecrazy]

Its the kind of thing my mil would send to me and I wouldn't think much of it and she would think it was funny, But if I sent it to her she would be deeply offended and think I hate her.

[Tristatearea]

Happy birthday Ponypals Fuck the in-laws, use the card as a straw for your wine

[Graciebobcat]

Send one of them this when it's their birthday.

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

As you say OP, it’s very much dependent on the relationship with the sender. I wouldn’t find this offensive from the majority of people - but one now ex-friend used to be forever making ‘jokes’ about my weight, so this card from her might have felt like a dig.

I have to say though, I’m finding comments along the lines of ‘I wouldn’t find this card funny because it’s unsophisticated and devoid of wit’ a bit pretentious and po-faced. It’s a greeting card for heaven’s sake! If you’re looking for the 21st Century Oscar Wilde, I doubt you’ll find him writing gags for Clinton’s.

[BlingLoving]

I can see me or one of my close girlfriends sending such a card with the underlying message being, "it's totally justified to drink wine". If they have form for making digs at your weight... then it's rude and offensive.

[Graciebobcat]

Or more wine-related.

[alliwantisagoodnightssleep]

Happy lockdown birthday PonyPals

I have found that if you just drink straight from the bottle you have one hand free for the cake!

[oohyoudevilyou]

Its not very funny, but quite typical of cards aimed at younger women - because we're all obsessed with wine, gin and cake are't we?

One of my friends is always buying gin and prosecco related cards and gift-y tat, but I've never seen her drink anything except black coffee or water. I expect men find "hilarious" cards about loafing around on sofas and drinking beer tiresome too...

[Choppedupapple]

I’ve struggled to get greeting cards over lockdown, maybe there wasn’t a lot of choose?

[excuseforfights]

What's worse is that it doesn't even say Dear Pony.

I would go full tantrum on this deliberately. Make them feel like shit. I'm so tired of taking the high road.

[Srictlybakeoff]

This wouldn’t bother me . It’s a typical not very funny Card - there are a million more offensive ones in the shop. But then I know my pil would have sent it to me without ever thinking it could be interpreted as a dig

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

Two grown women claiming they’d have a ‘tantrum’ over this? Is there something I’m missing?’

[SoddingWeddings]

My 3yo nephew chose my birthday card last year - before he could read of course!

I'm saving it to show him when he's a teenager

[Srictlybakeoff]

@SoddingWeddings that’s brilliant

[SerenDippitty]

It's not even as though the person on the front of the card IS overweight.

[Bluntness100]

I think t would be even worse if the person on the front was over weight to be honest.

[BikeRunSki]

It’s a poor, dated, stereotyped joke on a cheap card that probably came from a shop with limited choice. I wouldn’t be offended, I’d just be a bit “meh?”.

[mogloveseggs]

Fil does this to me deliberately all the time.
I just smile and ignore.
He's a complete arsehole.
Doesn't put amounts on gift cards to force me to ask-I don't I go to the store and ask.
I see them maybe twice a year as a result of his pure twattery- I just cannot be arsed with it.