Is this kind or invasive?

[GettingAntsy]

I posted a few weeks ago about being creeped out by my flatmate's clingy, over-emotional behaviour. Long story short: a woman I met through a flat-share website less than a year ago thinks we are best friends forever, and I don't feel the same way.

Today I put a load of laundry on and then went out for a few hours. When I came back, my flatmate had hung up the laundry (which was mostly my underwear) in my bedroom without telling me. I'm sure she meant this as a kind gesture, but I find it quite inappropriate to go into someone's bedroom without asking them, and also to handle their underwear without asking them. Also, she knew I was only going out for a few hours, so it would have been fine to leave the laundry in the machine (and anyway, the state of my laundry is not her problem!). And if she cares about my laundry that much, I would expect her to at least drop me a text saying, Hey, do you want me to hang it up for you?

I don't know if I'm being too sensitive because I've been over-thinking her behaviour towards me. AIBU to find this inappropriate?

@biglouis This sounds wise. I definitely don't want her to know my new address. I really can imagine her hanging around my local train station/shopping centre in the hope of "coincidentally" running into me.

At least she didn’t hang them up in her room - she could have made them into bunting to remember you by!

Fine if there was a reciprocal agreement. Otherwise best to empty your stuff into a basket, if she needed the washer.

I do remember your other thread and it does sound like she has some issues. On this occasion however, it could have been cometely innocent. Maybe she needed to use the machine and instead of just dumping your laundry in a pile, she hung it up?

You say that you are moving out soon, just grit your teeth, keep counting down the days and rememeber that this will be over soon.

@OhioOhioOhio woah. You just put into words something I've never been able to get my head around with a person who makes me uncomfortable. They always had to be the most helpful, the most supportive, the best, even when it was unnecessary and overbearing. Huge part of their identity. Whenever it was mentioned they would give a small smile and lowered head like they were royalty. God, it wound me up.

Your threads about this woman drive me mad.
For goodness sake stop being so passive and just sort it out.
I think you sound as "weird" as she does.

You need to be done with this. Move out and move on.

Yep single white Female have you watched it op.

Mashingthecompost

Omg. The head tilt. Wtf with the head tilt? I remember that part too. I think it must be a really low self esteem issue combined with a power trip. It's insidious and unbelievably unlikeable quality.