Too many takeaways/deliveries?

[silvercrowntail]

It’s become clear to me over the past week that my neighbour has a big problem with the fact we get takeaways and deliveries. It was obvious to me when our delivery driver went to their house by mistake. Our doors are very close together so I heard her say ‘oh yeah it’s for them, they get them all the time’ in a nasty, sarcastic sounding tone. She’s clearly watching who and what comes to our house on a daily basis which is quite unnerving but I suppose there isn’t much else to do right now!

We have a 2 month old and a 4 year old. We’ve only just managed to get regular food delivery slots and we don’t have a car. DH commutes to work and works full time. We have takeaways once maybe twice a week when we’re exhausted or need a pick me up. I don’t get more than a couple hours sleep as newborn is very fussy. I cook us very fresh, healthy meals in general. Lots of proteins and veg. I’m a bodybuilder so am used to eating healthy and still do the odd workout when I get a bit of spare time.

We only get ‘healthier’ takeaways that serve fresh food like Nando’s and a local Greek place. We don’t get anything like Dominos or McDonald’s. We also use Ubereats and Deliveroo to get shopping from local shops such as baby milk and toilet roll. I tip at least £1 every time I order to give the delivery drivers extra cash during this pandemic. We have a double driveway so they’re not blocking anyone in or disrupting people. We don’t order them at antisocial hours either as we have small children.

We’ve just had a Nando’s as it fits my macros well for my diet. Our 4yo has a lot of veg with hers and no chips. Overheard the neighbour talking to her daughter when she was out front putting rubbish in her bin straight after (can see from my sofa) and she said what sounded like ‘they’re lazy and obviously can’t cook’. It’s really infuriating that she feels she has a right to comment on our eating habits. She’s also clearly doing it on purpose in earshot as she’s very loud as well. Wouldn’t surprise me if she went out to the bins on purpose to see what came to our house. I have no idea what they do or eat in their daily lives as I don’t have any time to be concerned, and I don’t care quite frankly!

Is a ‘healthy’ takeaway once or twice a week too much?

I think that nowadays you can’t rely on neighbours being friends in any way.

In the 60s and 70s things were very different for us, and in general people could and would give and take where needed. Just had a baby? Help with shopping. Leg in plaster? What help do you need? Today you’ll be very lucky if a neighbour even knows you, let alone cares.

It seems a shame that the default now appears to be selfishness and hostility for no good reason.

Out of 14 neighbours around us now, only ONE couple are decent caring folk. We regularly assist three neighbours who have needs, although at times I wonder why we bother when there’s zero gratitude.

Two male neighbours are out and out bullies and proud of it.

Happy days - eh?

This is a non-problem, why do you care?

What you're ordering, or who you are ordering from is of no interest to your neighbours.

What they are being annoyed about is getting disturbed by someone regularly banging on your front door (which you say is very close to theirs - so they will hear it), or WORSE, banging on theirs in error!

OTT

No one cares

I don't think you're over thinking it. I know I sound like a cunt but I often wonder if my neighbour ever cooks. Every single day twice a day they get a takeaway, it is not hard to throw some pre cut veg in a pot.
I order myself weekly sometimes twice a week, it is so wasteful and unhealthy.

Our neighbour owns the land our drive goes over, they banned vans from using it, put signs up everywhere. they have taken the keys from delivery drivers, placed logs to narrow the drive, have chased lorries delivering, have come screaming out to tell John Lewis they should not be up here (delivering our washing machine and tumble dryer the day after we'd completed), oh and who can forget the day they told us that when we moved in, our removal lorry should have parked 100m away down at the end of the drive and brought up our household belongings up on sack trucks

The owner before us lost his wife to illness, apparently she chased the pharmacy delivery guy down the drive to tell them not to bring a van up.

The man who put in a chimney for previous owner was blocked in by her grass roller and cones to stop him leaving. He moved the roller and drove over her cones apparently (we LOVE him!)

We have told them in legal and more layman's terms to FTFO. They have no right to tell any of us how to live and if you want to get deliveries, that's your decision.

Honestly, stop giving a shit about what she thinks! LIVE your life the way you want to live it, you are not hurting anyone.

So when you get the opportunity, SHOUT at her and tell her to mind her own business, or better if you offend her so much, she can move house and the entire road will thank you for it!

"Neighbour, you may think you have a right to comment on me, my life, family or whatever, you do not. This time I am asking you politely to keep your opinions to yourself. Next time I won't be so polite, and I will make sure I have the entire road as an audience so they can all see who you are and what you are like.'

Maybe the neighbour was having a shit day hence the tone. Not everything is about you, op. You are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay over thinking it.

Sometimes people are just nosy, lockdown is very very boring. I wouldn't give it any thought to be honest.

When I lived in a flat, the next door neighbour got takeaway every single night. I was always quite intrigued as she wouldn't answer the door, they just left it outside. I could only conclude she was acrophobic or something, but it was more cost of daily takeaways that surprised me. I was just being nosy, it was obviously nothing to do with me and I didn't care that much, it's just human nature to be curious about the people around you.

Try not to give it and thought.
In my street we're known as the family that gets loads of deliveries and takeaways, all my neighbours are lovely and we joke about it. My 20 and 21 year old still will hardly leave the house so are getting their whole world delivered to them.
We get two takeaways a week and cook the other 19 meals , I can't see the problem.

Next time you see her just bring it up! Or ask - does our food delivery driver disturb you btw? We order in quite a lot as it fits with our lifestyle - with a nice smile. Just laugh it off that she's that pathetic she's got nothing else to comment on! X

Next time you see her just bring it up!

Ewwww, that seems a bit OTT

@TheOrigBrave

Next time you see her just bring it up!

Ewwww, that seems a bit OTT

Hahaha on her doorstep. Or in a jiffybag and pop it through her letterbox

Absolutely none of your neighbour’s business. None at all.

If you see someone that is physically fit eating takeaways often and rarely leaves the house you’re generally going to think ‘how are they not fat
Yes completely far fetched.
I'd say like pp's you are disturbing them with the deliverys.
Do you have a partner? Why can't either of you go to a supermarket you didn't mention shielding?

Why do you care what they think?

YABU even giving this woman a second thought. You don’t have to justify anything! Just love your life the way you see fit and don’t worry about your judgey neighbour.

So how many deliveries are we really talking about? Regular supermarket delivery, a couple of local ones, a couple of takeaways, the postie, plus courier deliveries if you buy stuff on Ebay or Amazon, household stuff from Argos, plants from a garden centre... Two or three deliveries a day at most.

I'd guess she's just nosy, bored and mildly irritated when large lorries pull up with beeping as they reverse.

Just ignore her.

The best thing about being older is that you really don't giving a monkey's about what other people think.
You don't have to justify yourself to anyone (I love a Nandos also)

Our doors are very close together so I heard her say ‘oh yeah it’s for them, they get them all the time’ in a nasty, sarcastic sounding tone. she’s clearly watching who and what comes to our house on a daily basis which is quite unnerving but I suppose there isn’t much else to do right now!

If your doors are so close together that you can hear what she says with crystal clarity, then she can obviously hear all your deliveries arriving too. No need for 'watching' your house in an 'unnerving' manner.

You're worried that she's watching who comes to your house while you're listening to the conversations she has on her doorstep and while she puts the bins out?

You seem somewhat over invested in what they may or may not think!

It’s none of their business OP and I wouldn’t worry about it! I wouldn’t exactly jump to conclusions about what she may or may not be thinking, our NDN have a Ring doorbell which you can hear every single time they get food or a delivery which currently stands at about 3-5 every day! I think our winning number was 8 deliveries in one day. Do I think they probably order too much crap online/ takeaway food? Probably. But it’s not really my business.

Side note: has anyone else noticed how loud those Ring doorbells are?! We thought about getting one but I’m sick of hearing that little jingle now!

Perhaps she is a little envious you can afford it? It sounds expensive to me!

You could take round some lovely left overs for her next time? You know, kill her with kindness.
Don't launch into a defensive rant about the nutritional merits of the food though. That's a little off key .

These people are so miserable & totally not worth the hassle. I'd order takeaways 7 days straight tbh.

We get two takeaways a week. We both work full time and I'm halfway through my second uni degree. We are definitely not lazy and we both can cook. We don't have any children, so if anything it's you that shouldn't feel guilty. We all need a pick me up treat.

Don't judge and slay yourself for some bloody idiots. Enjoy the takeaways, OP!