Support thread for those feeling overwhelmed with life/parenting/everything

[Merryoldgoat]

Hello! Following on from my thread last night I had absolutely masses of support and it made me feel much better.

So here’s a thread to support anyone who needs it.

Today it’s not quite 11am and I have achieved:

A load of washing washed and drying
Cleaned the bathroom
Made my bed
Had some fun time with my children
Enjoyed the morning sunshine
A healthy breakfast

I’m going to do a bit of painting shortly and then crochet some more of a blanket.

Post here if you need some support or just need to let out some frustrations.

I'm not feeling overwhelmed as such but I have a dissertation to write and I work much better if I have people nagging me, plus I have a load of 'school readiness' stuff I want to do with DS1 over the summer so I'd like to join pls

Welcome @Camomila

I always found I procrastinated terribly when studying. My room at uni was never tidier if I had a big bit of work due.

I’m currently folding laundry and avoiding some tasks I really need to prioritise...

I don't see how you're being unreasonable in any of this? Confused.

@GinDaddyRedux

I don't see how you're being unreasonable in any of this? Confused.

I had a thread last night which was detailing how overwhelmed I was. Lots of people felt the same so I started this support thread for anyone who needed support with feeling like life is smothering them.

I just feel like I need a huge re evaluation of my life . I need to remove the things that are making me miserable but how can I when I need to pay bills etc. I have not yet achieved anything today but I will soon :)

I'm feeling very overwhelmed.
I have no right really because I'm a SAHM so not trying to juggle work.

Have a 4yo who I suspect has additional needs and is hard work at the moment.
Dh working from home.
I'm 27 weeks pregnant.

The house is in a state from trying to switch everyone into different rooms and get somewhere for DH to work.
Im trying to prepare for baby but it just adds to the mess. Parcels everywhere.
Every day feels like I'm juggling too many things. I have OCD too which is making everything that little bit harder.

@oopsiedaisy2

What do you want to achieve today? I think small successes probably make us feel better and spur us in to make bigger changes.

@Treaclepie19

Being a SAHM IS overwhelming - it’s not a contest and people who make it one aren’t worth your time.

What small changes would help do you think?

I have two children with additional needs - it’s hard work and just staying positive is often a challenge all on its own.

Well I would like to get out and do some exercise but had an accident this week which is slowing me down. I'm really over weight and I want to tackle it but whenever I seem to find motivation something gets in the way!! I am up and dressed now and put a wash on so not all bad

Sending sympathy to all those struggling.

Overwhelmed sums up my feelings.... Plus guilt for feeling that way. All I have to do is help two children (7&8) with school work, keep them entertained, cook, housework. DH is at work all day, so we don't need to tip toe around homeworking. I don't have a job, so can solely concentrate on DDs and house.

But I just feel so exhausted by it all. I had my mental health back on track after depression, sorting my weight issue-, was getting the confidence to apply for jobs.

The house is a mess. One child has done little school work- we do a couple of hours a day, but not sure if it's been effective. Older child a lot more dedicated. My voluntary job has been neglected... I did some online stuff for them this weekend, with my youngest basically bouncing off me.

I've been quite productive today... We made eggy bread for breakfast, the kitchen is regaining some order and according to my Fitbit I'm on 5500 steps.

@Treaclepie19 it always helps me to write a list of the things I want to achieve too. Then order them in priority order :) every one you do is a small step to victory :)

@oopsiedaisy2

Well I would like to get out and do some exercise but had an accident this week which is slowing me down. I'm really over weight and I want to tackle it but whenever I seem to find motivation something gets in the way!! I am up and dressed now and put a wash on so not all bad

I’m also very overweight - I’ve lost 2 stone on lockdown but there’s loads more to go.

I find I have to make changes slowly or it just doesn’t take.

[quote oopsiedaisy2]@Treaclepie19 it always helps me to write a list of the things I want to achieve too. Then order them in priority order :) every one you do is a small step to victory :) [/quote]
I have a big blackboard in my kitchen so I think I’ll do this and tick them off as I go.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

Sending sympathy to all those struggling.

Overwhelmed sums up my feelings.... Plus guilt for feeling that way. All I have to do is help two children (7&8) with school work, keep them entertained, cook, housework. DH is at work all day, so we don't need to tip toe around homeworking. I don't have a job, so can solely concentrate on DDs and house.

But I just feel so exhausted by it all. I had my mental health back on track after depression, sorting my weight issue-, was getting the confidence to apply for jobs.

The house is a mess. One child has done little school work- we do a couple of hours a day, but not sure if it's been effective. Older child a lot more dedicated. My voluntary job has been neglected... I did some online stuff for them this weekend, with my youngest basically bouncing off me.

I've been quite productive today... We made eggy bread for breakfast, the kitchen is regaining some order and according to my Fitbit I'm on 5500 steps.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

I honestly know the feeling - you’ve summed up how I feel. I feel like I’m not doing anything well and the tasks just pile up.

5500 steps already?? That’s amazing.

I’m heading out to weed the flowerbed shortly.

Thanks @Merryoldgoat, I'm trying to just keep calm and prioritise. I just wish DS was able to go to school because we could do with some time to just blitz it all.

@oopsiedaisy2 I do love a good list. I think I've just been so overwhelmed I've lost the plot.

Treaclepie19 pregnancy can be pretty overwhelming too, I spent months of DS2s pregnancy in bed with hyperemesis while DM looked after DS1 so I'm impressed by anyone looking after older DC while pg as I never actually managed it!

That sounds rough camomila 😩
I've had horrible nausea until over 20 weeks but only a few episodes of sickness so nothing as bad as that.
It's just the emotional stuff and the tiredness making things harder.

Well. I’ve not done any of the things I intended to but I have been productive. I’ll try to have a reset tomorrow and maybe be more realistic with my goals.

I was thinking about using a planner but maybe that’s going too far?

Thanks for the thread @Merryoldgoat this is me today, some are better than others but this weekend I'm struggling.

Today I've had a rant on MN about how, capping it all, visiting is now back on the agenda with all the women-work that entails. I've also done two loads of washing, emptied and reloaded dishwasher, and hoovered for 10 minutes.

@GrumpiestOldWoman

Some days are just shit. I’m counting down the hours until I get out for a few hours.

Life is pretty sad for me at the moment. I’ve had a really rough 12 months and then just as I thought things were on the up, I’ve been kicked right back down to the bottom again. I’m trying to stay positive and think about all the good things in my life, but all I seem to be able to focus on is what I’ve lost

Oh @QueenofmyPrinces

Do you want to talk about it? I’ve had some very hard times and when you’re in it it feels impossible to see an improvement coming.

I just feel very, very, VERY tired of the constant noise from the children today. Feel like my ears are ringing and my head is full of jagged edges. I feel very like I might have a meltdown. Usually I get regular (albeit minimal) alone time which recharges my sanity batteries, but I've probably had maybe 30 minutes of actually proper silence since lockdown began. Don't actually think I can take any more of this

Do you want to talk about it? I’ve had some very hard times and when you’re in it it feels impossible to see an improvement coming.

It probably sounds quite boring to other people.

But basically, I have a chronic health condition that has been in remission (for want of a better word) for almost 14 years, and now, out of nowhere it has resurfaced and turned my life upside down.

It has cost me my perfect job (that I had been working towards for years) and I have also had to pull out of a course at university that I was due to begin this September.

I’m just struggling to come to terms with the fact that I’m back at Square one regarding my health and that the life I had has now gone. What’s happened has changed my life in numerous ways and I’ve got to find a way forward but just don’t know how to.

@QueenofmyPrinces

That is unbelievably shitty. I don’t know what to say because it will all sound trite.

You absolutely should feel angry and disappointed. It’s an awful blow