OH to quit

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Ok so I had a good jobs ( actually more than one ) . Maybe I did too much . I quit my last job because I hated it and then fell pregnant . Never went back full time ( did whatever bits I could ) , as I was ill and some issues , plus Four children in quick succession .

OH climbed the ladder . And doing V well . But always knew he would drop it in a heartbeat to be with the kids more .

Should I ( earning about half what he does In a professional job more than the national average ) Get him to quit or go part time , so I can regain my career footing . I might eventually earn as much as him if I do well .

I’ve done six / 7 days a week and contributed financially , but feeling Pissed off that now OH is doing the same he feels like he’s doing me a favour, certainly acts like it .

I want the bloody control back in my life and I suppose I’m tired of feeling like I’ve relied on him .

Plus I don’t feel like I can tell him what to do with his earnings and recently he bought a car that we could’ve spent less on , we really need to move house and I feel like he’s got his priorities wrong and I can’t stop him .

I’d rather fing go to work and let him sit at home or whatever and do it myself

You’ve not actually said what you do op?

The language you use is interesting, because it feels like there is no real desire or ability for you to go out and earn what he does, not for a long while anyway, which clearly wouldn’t help you get what you wish Ie the house. So it would make you worse off really if he quit, possibly also if he went part time.

More this is just you’re pissed off and thinking if you threaten he has to stay home maybe you’ll get more control over the money?

You don't need a space before punctuation. Just after it.

I'm going to speak frankly OP. The way you write doesn't suggest you are ready to go out and get a full-time job that is well-paid and secure enough to support a family of 5 plus a move to a bigger house. Forget anything you did in the past.
So forget the idea of him quitting and you taking over the bread-winner role.
You are throwing your toys out of the pram because you want to move to a larger property and he doesn't. You have a lot of relationship issues and poor communication. I would suggest that you try to get some marriage counseling.

You seem to have dug a bit of a hole for yourself, OP. The housing situation is a nightmare and was always temporary and you’ve added 4 kids to it. The only way out of the hole is for you to get at least part-time work and charge 50% of the childcare fees to your DH. It would be mad for him to give up his job at this time. But if you don’t get back into work you’re digging a bigger hole that will impact on you all through your life.

Both work, you won’t need to pay childcare forever it’s more about keeping your door in the door and doing something for you rather than the extra money.

@BullshitVivienne

You don't need a space before punctuation. Just after it.

Wow, that's added a perspective to the discussion that no one has voiced before. It'll change ops life.

@SleepingStandingUp 😂😂😂