You really don't need to plaster your DC report card all over FB!

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Just that really.

All it is doing is mazsagong the ego of the parent(s). And i don't really care how clever your kid is.

Most of my friends have got kids. I am sure the vast majority of kids got good reports. Its always the same handful of friends who need to boast about every single achievement of their genius child.

Rant over ha ha.

Just be lucky that's the worse thing you see on FB. I unwittingly have been exposed to family naked or in sexy lingerie in bed. Or in a skimpy bikini with legs wrapped around someone's face.

Now that's a stealth boast I cant brain bleach away 😂

However, if I did, it never occur to me to post them on FB; I would see it as an infringement of their privacy.

I've seen someone humblebrag this week that her 7yo dd has been doing too much reading in her spare time: "Shall I impose a wordcount limit on her?" and that she negotiated seconds of dessert because she's so slim and active, and needs to put on weight. Probably not enjoyable reading for parents who are really struggling with their children after four months of lockdown. I'm braced for a glowing school report... 😆

Totally unfair on the child imo. I wouldn’t even show grandparents the report unless the dc asked to show them.
It’s the dc’s private information. They’re not circus animals reflecting glory into their parents. This really pisses me off, using dc to show off.

No one other than the kids parents and perhaps grandparents care do they? GCSE or a level results may be worth posting, but regular report cards? Though last year when it was my eldest GCSE year I think only one parent posted that her daughter 'aced it' (and didn't say what her daughter actually got, though I know it was ten 9s). No one else mentioned results.

“Shall I impose a wordcount on her?” 🤣🤣🤣

I agree with PPs who say it’s bragging about an achievement that isn’t yours and is an invasion of their privacy. My 15yo DS in particular would be horrified. I tell my mum and I sure as shit don’t send it to her. Odd.

I do have an FB friend who does it, and granted she has a very high achieving DD. “So proud of A this year. She made straight As, was elected to student council, captain of hockey team, won debate competition, selected for this, selected for that, signed with modelling agency etc etc.” 25 pics with the two of them, flashing trophies, certificates galore.

Then single pic of younger DD holding her blurry report card “B did great too.”

Ouch 😣

Why would anyone except the parents need to see a child's report card? Huge breach of the kid's privacy.

But surely they all say the same thing - it’s all copy and pasted anyway. I have a friend who posted her dds report on Facebook and it was word for word the same as my dds. I didn’t comment just inwardly rolled my eyes. Our newsletter today tells me we won’t get reports so I’ll be spared the ridiculousness this year.

The reason it bothers me is that it's a massive invasion of privacy for the kids. I'd have been mortified if my parents had done that.
There are far more appropriate ways to share pride in your kids.

I never get these type of posts - I like seeing what others are up to, that's kind of the whole point of FB for me!
Either defriend them or hide their updates?

FB is fir sharing after all.....

And for!

I love my sil dearly, I really do, but when she sent me the dc’s reports, I could have cried. I mean, honest to god, they’re not my dc, we see them once a year if that, I can’t get excited ver them. Is it horrible that I can’t get over excited about other people’s kids?

No @Cherrysoup it makes you completely normal!

@OhCaptain

These threads pop up all the time on here. I often wonder just why it bothers people so much.

I wonder the same. It's because they're proud of course.

Is obviously a glowing report to take a photo and put on FB and just because another child may not have done as well, doesn't mean a parent can't post what they want.

It's like previous threads when photos are taken in gardens during lockdown and those without a garden complain.

It's not something I'd do personally, but it doesn't bother me.

Oh I'm totally with you op. Really makes me cringe. Me and ds's dad are the only ones that saw the report today, why does anyone (even grandparents) need to see it?

You can disagree with it all you want - you don’t own their FB page nor what they put on it really. People might not like what you put on your FB wall either - Just scroll on 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I think the point is that these parents believe people care or are sooooo competitive that they must show how brilliant the kids are.

Most parents are quietly proud of the kids reports and reward at home privately.

Some parents have to make a big deal of everything from riding a bike to passing a GCSE that they’ll never use.

Do you ever ask you friends for their GCSE results or to see there year 4 report?

Is it really relevant?

Lots of kids do well at school, some struggle, some have parents who don’t give two hoots!!

I wouldn't put a picture of a report card as that does seem like private detail, but posting about your child's achievements seems perfectly reasonable. I find it so disheartening that so many people think we shouldn't talk about our lives or say when we are happy or proud in case it's boasting or makes someone who is struggling feel worse.

'having a wonderful relaxing holiday" with pics of beach and sun is not the same as "having a wonderful holiday that cost more than any of you could afford, suckers. You are all pathetic".

And yet so many people think they are.

You can talk about YOUR life. But this is your dc’s life, it isn’t yours to talk about.

Delete your facebook account. Everyone will be happier.

Lockdownfatigue being proud of your kids is a good thing and perfectly normal.

Out of interest, people who are against posts about reports, are you equally against posting any DC achievements? Golf, swimming, horse-riding, or performance?

Atm it's also extremely insensitive because as a pp pointed out most of our children have missed months of schooling, never mind a report.

Insensitive? Don't be ridiculous. It's not anyone's fault that your children have missed schooling and theirs haven't. There's always going to be someone who thinks life has been unfair to them, there's no reason anyone should stop sharing their good news just because someone else might have bad news.

I find this weird obsession of trying to police, or moan about what other people post on social media bizarre. Just scroll on by, no need to even read, let alone comment, if you don't want to.

No one is forced to look, read or comment. And, if other people's good news, sharing, pics etc makes you feel crap then you (generic) seriously need to be looking at your own issues.

My son has taken 6 years of schooling and hard work to achieve something and we are celebrating his report card that confirms the achievement. People use Facebook in their own way. Just scroll on by

Normally I don't mind but earlier this week I saw a lot of posts about certificates the school have sent to children who've done their online work. This has passed me off because my child has been really diligent and done all the work but has got no recognition

There's no way I'd have posted it on Facebook and if it wasn't for Facebook I wouldn't have known about it but now I do I feel it's a real kick in the teeth for my child.

I don't want to be that parent but I'm very tempted to speak to the school about it. Would that be wrong?