You really don't need to plaster your DC report card all over FB!

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Just that really.

All it is doing is mazsagong the ego of the parent(s). And i don't really care how clever your kid is.

Most of my friends have got kids. I am sure the vast majority of kids got good reports. Its always the same handful of friends who need to boast about every single achievement of their genius child.

Rant over ha ha.

Ugh poor kids. It’s awful that the outcomes of their lives, their interests, their endeavours become fodder for their Parents’s social network. This is going to mess kids up. Can’t we just be proud of them, and tell THEM that, without showing it off to god knows who?!

Smellbellina - exactly. A good teacher can see the positive in every child and be encouraging. There are a few mums at school who post their reports - I don't, because they definitely think their DC are better than mine and it would burst their balloon if I said "mine too" .

One mum actually put "so proud of my DC - practically perfect in every way" - since moving to the big pond of secondary school we've not heard a peep.

It's an invasion of the child's privacy, YANBU.

I have a child who is struggling and having a really tough time of it. I get their report next week and know she is below expectations in every single area and behaviour has been difficult. However I'm still bloody proud of her and I sure as hell don't get upset by other parents being proud of theirs.

Couldn't agree more OP - it is a personal message about your kids, fine show family and even friends if you really must but l think it puts pressure on kids - and takes away their privacy - when they are older they might not thank you for it.

Well, I actually noticed that one of my friends who posts at length about her child's achievements and every term end there's a report posted proudly inviting contacts to discuss how extraordinary it is Friend Junior - was silent this time, just a very telegraphic post about the last day of school.

I'm not complaining, quite the opposite
I know a report for my child who has no issues that need raising is not and should not be a priority at the moment.
Interested to hear there might be a legal requirement. I was assuming those not in school wouldn't get reports, maybe I'm wrong and they will.

[quote HopeClearwater]@DDiva everyone gets a report. The last few weeks of school have been essentially keeping them occupied, not pushing the curriculum.
From a primary school teacher fed up with the complaining parents [/quote]
No complaining here, quite the opposite. As a child with no issues I dont expect a report for my dd, I understand it is not a priority. I know the teachers and other staff at the school have more than enough to deal with at the moment.

but my Facebook page is mostly full of extended family who ARE interested, and I can’t be arsed to make 20 different phone calls or emails

do people really share it widely with the extended family? 20 people? jeez, some really need an ego boost.

agree with you OP, it's totally cringeworthy and embarrassing. Sadly, most parents who do this don't notice they they make complete idiots of themselves.

@DDiva yes we have to report annually on progress and the reports are based on the year up to lockdown.

You don't have to like it (literally) but you could just like it (as in give it a thumbs up) whilst thinking it's a bit twattish, like the rest of us do

@catbellz I'm not sure what you mean? I'm not having the moan.

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Scroll on past? You don't HAVE to read or comment do you?

Someone could do to take their own advice "

I joined Facebook because I wanted to share my life, my thoughts, things I find amusing or interesting with my friends - some of whom I don't get to see in person. Sharing my life will sometimes include things about my child. That's what Facebook is for isn't it? A snapshot of my life that my friends can see and I can see their lives in return. I really like Facebook and love getting to see my friends and their families and what they are getting up to in their lives. To me that's the point of Facebook.

I actually don’t mind them that much. However I do have an acquaintance on FB who brags about literally everything her DD does. I mean to jaw-dropping levels. No other posts on FB. Purely used as a 3-4 times a day pedestal for her DD.

The sad part is her DD is just a typical teen kid. Into hobbies and average at school. Even struggles with some MH & friendship issues which I think are caused by the OTT tiger mum.

Mostly I ignore it or feel a bit sorry for the DD, but I did chuckle the other day when she announced proudly how ‘amazing’ her DD had done to ‘achieve’ “all the options she’d chosen” for her GCSE’s. Literally bragging at what an achievement it was when in fact you just write on the form to say what subjects you want and the school approves it. 99% of option choices are approved at the school as I work there.

Other than that I think it’s fine. I myself use FB almost like a journal so that the memories pop up years later. However if I feel it’s a bit braggy I might still post it but set it to private so it’s only me that will see it and for my memories only.

It's always the needy parents. Just keep scrolling.

Does my head in

Facebook can be tweaked to only include certain people so if it's just for granny etc that can be private. But no - it's always for the benefit of the parents

Wait till they go to senior school

Suddenly the big fish in a little pond I’ll find real competition and won’t be able to cope!!

It really is ‘those parents’ who brag

My cousin used to do a round robin of how great her life was and how fantastic her children were. I always thought it was quite odd and boastful but she died at 50 and I hope her children have those to document how proud she was of them.

It's showing off something that isn't your own achievement - I hate it. Thank fuck there was no FB when I was young, otherwise my mother would have had me plastered over it at every achievement, every 'first for our family/road/school/area' shitey milestone.

It was enough pressure with her only doing it to friends and family. Plastering it all over FB must have some kids feeling such overwhelming pressure I cannot imagine.

There's a real danger of children feeling their worth and value is dependent on their academic achievement. In my case it was true so far as my mother was concerned - but why take that chance if it isn't the truth?

How bizarre. Nobody I know does this, and I know as many willy wavers as most.

At least they have a school report they can share! We are still waiting for ours. Have had complete radio silence from our school for nearly 2 weeks (no summer holidays here yet) and feel extremely let down and sad for my children 😔 .

A couple of years ago, one of DS friends had his report splashed on fb by his very proud mother. She wasn’t quite so delighted when I posted a picture in the comment of my own DSreport that was pretty much word for word the same as her sons. Teacher had obviously been short on time (and let’s face it, there are only so many ways to say that a child is doing well) and copied and pasted for a few of them. I wasn’t bothered, it all seemed pretty accurate for how I thought Ds would be doing at school, but obviously a glowing report is less glowing if another child has a very similar one!

It's messed up priorities to brag about your child's achievements rather than their effort. Be proud for what they've put in!

I will be returning any report this year. They're not worth the paper they're written on most of the time.

There's two parents on my Facebook that have recently posted about their son being potty trained. With a picture of him on the potty using it, followed by a picture of him holding up the potty with his piss in it for the whole world to see. Strange pair. I feel sorry for their son.