I'm fat.

[Icanflyhigh]

My SIL to be tagged me in a photo today from a walk at the weekend. And I'm horrified. I am huge.
5'4" and 12st 7lbs.
I look like a barrel and I am so embarrassed I have let myself go like this. I'm unfit, fat and over 40.
I could cry.

@eeeeeeeeeek Yes it’s hard sometimes, seeing myself in photos is also hard! Choose your hard!
Thanks to PP who re posted this! Fantastic saying. One for the fridge!!! And to repeat every day!

The mental battle is the big one. I think you have to constantly be thinking about it and repeating mantras to yourself. In fact I'm starting today. 💪 (tgats a strong arm by the way not a chicken leg )

Hello, can I join you? I'm 46, 5' 2.5" and hovering between 11st 10lb and 12st 3lb. I'm an emotional eater - up until a few years ago I was around 9 stone. When my mum got I'll and later died, I piled the weight on but 2 years ago, with a beach holiday hanging over me, I lost most of it. However it's crept back on since then and I'm back where I started.
Last week I started on the 5:2 diet - so far so good - and yesterday I dusted off the Fitbit that's been languishing in the drawer and went on a 6.5 mile walk.
I'm hoping to get back to swimming once the pool is allowed to open again.
My aim is to get back to 9 stone by next spring, so that when the weather warms up next year, I'm not hiding away in jeans and trousers!

ill not I'll !!!

Thanks all, I finally dropped to sleep somewhere around 5 this morning. DP knows something is wrong, but I can't tell him as I know he will just say that I'm fine and he loves me as I am etc. Which is great, but I don't love me as I am.

I'm sorry if my OP has offended anyone, not my intention at all. I need to remind myself I AM fat, I'm not saying anyone else is foul or anything like that, but I need to be harsh with myself else I won't get anywhere with this except a dress size bigger no doubt.

For all those that say that exercise doesn't really make a difference, when you're literally stuck in bed for hours every day, maybe being able to get up for a couple, and then back to bed, it really IS hard to lose weight. I'm also on loads of medication which over the years has changed my taste buds, making things that I used to love taste disgusting, so when I'm hungry it's a case of finding something that tastes 'normal' to me. For over a year I ate nothing but salad, fruit and porridge for breakfast, even then I didn't lose weight. Trouble is, having eaten salad for so long, I eventually got so sick of it, that seeing a lettuce leaf or tomato, makes me want to run a mile these days, although I do occasionally have it because I know that it's better for me than other things. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's not as easy as some of you think. Maybe walk a mile in someone else's shoes before telling them what to do, suggestions are fine, it's being told by someone who doesn't really know me that drives me nuts!

Hi OP, I also had this realisation recently.

I am 5"3 and weighed in at 11.10.

I weighed this morning and I am now 10.8 and I would like to lose another stone.

I have been doing it by:
Cutting portion sizes
Eating breakfast, lunch and dinner. Snack if I am really hungry.
Not eating after evening meal which is at 5.30 pm as we eat as a family.
Weight training. Just a 20 min YouTube video I follow with light weights.
Some cardio which is usually just dancing around the house for an hour to loud music!
More time spent on my feet.

This has developed over 2 months. And I plan on continuing and upping the exercise as I get fitter and lighter!

Once you see the scales move and your trousers fit better and you feel lighter and more energised it gets easier and motivates you to do more.

It's getting over the first hurdle of just doing it that is the hardest.

Start with smaller meals and 10 minutes of light exercise everyday and you will see a difference.

Don't diet. Change for life.

Also OP, talk to DH. It was my DH who said I think you need to be careful where you're going at the moment. He could see I was getting fatter, more tired, grumpy and couldn't run around with the kids as much as I used too. Some people may say he was harsh to say something but the reason he did was because he loves me and wants me to be the best version of myself. I will always be grateful to him for the nudge in the right direction.

Tell DH how you feel and ask him to support you through it. Tell him you are doing it for yourself not him so it would be great if he had your back!

I hear you OP. Office job (not moving) plus depression from a miscarriage which led me to comfort eat meant I piled on weight. Acknowledging it is a big step.

I started using smaller dinner plates which helped with portions.

I have a chronic illness which is made worse by high impact exercise so walk a lot and swim when I can.

You can do it :)

@Pembsgirl I was the one that said about exercise not making a difference- but obviously disabled could be unable to run around or it could be bed bound. How's anyone to know?

I lost a ton of weight twice with the only exercise being walking to and from my car. When I exercised a lot I was bigger because it made me starving. So I was just trying to say if you can't exercise it won't usually make much difference.

But certain meds have a massive effect on appetite and what you fancy eating and then it's a different struggle.

It might even be a gut biome thing for some and I am actually going to look at how to change my gut biome tonight, because I just crave sugar and cheese and it's insane. I wont put here what changing your gut biome entails.. but it's out there. But it's solid science too.