I'm fat.

[Icanflyhigh]

My SIL to be tagged me in a photo today from a walk at the weekend. And I'm horrified. I am huge.
5'4" and 12st 7lbs.
I look like a barrel and I am so embarrassed I have let myself go like this. I'm unfit, fat and over 40.
I could cry.

First steo -

Untag yourself in that photo!

Second step - if you haven’t looked into low carb have a lurk on some threads on here, it really works for some people and can be very effective even if you can’t exercise

Me too! 5ft 6 and 14 stone. I was fat at 12 stone and now I just hate myself. All self inflicted as I just eat way too much. I have reasons for it...injury so I can't run.....depression and stress....but no excuses I just eat too fucking much. Full of self hate and start a diet every Monday!

I lost 1stone before lockdown with intermittent fasting but I haven't been able to do it effectively in lockdown so have put 5lb back on. It's not much but when you're hugely overweight it just feels crap to put weight back on!

Don't be harsh on yourself. You're not lazy, greedy etc. If your best friend told you she felt like this what would you say?

Fuck it you're a few pounds over where you wanna be, you haven't murdered anyone. It didn't appear overnight so take it one day at a time and enjoy the process. Take all that time you worry about your weight and devote it to doing something active. If you can throw some money at the problem, get a trainer for a few weeks or every month to tailor you an exercise program that fits in with what you can do. Your body isn't your enemy

Congratulations on your engagement and whatever weight you are you will be (and are) beautiful

I’m 58 and I have lost 2 stone gradually over the last three years so you can do it. I’ve got used to a different way of eating. I used to come home from work and eat an entire packet of biscuits. Now I eat healthily and sensibly and exercise more. I feel so much better in myself. Give yourself small goals and find healthy alternatives that you enjoy eating and have a low fat treat for those days when you need something extra. Frozen yoghurt or low fat ice-cream is my go to treat for those times when I need to stress eat. I cope better when I plan my meals in advance and know I have low fat food in to snack on when I’m hungry. You’ve got a great motivation in your wedding. Picture yourself looking gorgeous in the dress of your dreams and you’ll get there. Good luck!

*03:29Blondie1984

No, you have fat - but fat isn’t who you are*

This is one of the most sensible posts I've read in a while.

Coming to terms with being overweight is a huge step! It happened to me recently, I’m 5”8 and my previous unacceptable-to-me-weight was 13 stone. During lockdown I went up to 14. Being tallish I don’t notice small weight gain but suddenly I saw it!

I joined slimming world and really enjoying it - I’ve lost 10lb quite easily and would recommend it.

Me too. The worst thing (for me) that happened to the world of weight was for the sizing to change, as a 14 20 years ago, I was ok ish, as a 14 now, I'm flabby and fat and my old size 14 clothes won't cover a thigh. Don't beat yourself up, it is so bloody easy for weight to creep on.

It’s so sad reading all the self hatred on here because people are bigger! It’s not disgusting or a failure on your part, it’s circumstances causing the weight gain. As women we’re taught to value ourselves through our weight still, which is so sad!

If you’re concerned about health then switch to healthy foods, try not to completely deprive yourself of treats and exercise more.

The word ‘fat’ is not an insult. I’m fatter right now because I had a kidney transplant last year and am finally enjoying food again! For health reasons I will lose weight but not punish myself. I enjoyed putting on the weight, it’s not a failure on my part, and I would never describe myself as disgusting. So please stop devaluing yourself because of a bit of fat.

I'm your height and I weigh 11st 7lbs. I don't think I'm fat but I'm definitely overweight and I don't carry it well - I have a naturally small frame and I'm an apple shape, all my weight goes straight to my belly and my face.

I'm attempting to lose weight. I love food and I although I don't eat loads of sugary foods but I know my portion sizes are way too big, especially at dinner time.

Lockdown hasn't helped, I normally walk to work (40 minutes each way) to get exercise but I've been on furlough so I'm a lot less active.

Think I need to join one of the weight loss threads on here for motivation. I'm being a bridesmaid next year and I want to look nice in my dress.

I also like a drink too, I've limited drinking to Friday and Saturday nights only and whereas before I was drinking bottles of fruit cider I've switched to vodka and diet lemonade.

I'm 5'3" and 12st 8. Although, admittedly, I'm fit and pretty muscular but it's quite clear I have a fair bit of fat to lose.

I've had good results previously with the 5:2 diet but with WFH I think I'd struggle with that currently. I joined weightwatchers this week and it's a way of eating that seems sustainable, but I plan on having one day off a week, even though I know fat loss will be slower. I just think I'll stick to it better knowing I can have one relaxed day.

I'm a bit taller than you, at 5'6", but this time last year I weighed 13 stone 2lbs. I've been doing low carb since, which I've found easy and enjoyable, and yesterday I tipped the scales at 10 stone 1lbs. I'm also early 40s. You can do it!!!

@Pembsgirl Join the club! Trouble is, I'm disabled and not able to get much exercise which makes it even harder to burn off the calories. Nightmare!
Before I RTFT I just wanted to say every time I have lost weight it's without doing a shred of exercise. Exercising isn't a good way to lose weight - most except yoga makes me starving! It's just diet. That's all.

I too have got fat. I'm too scared to weigh myself but it's got to be over 13 stone. Fattest ever. Massive stress plus lockdown and I'll admit it to get here I've eaten a LOT. Like a packet of sweets or biscuits or a cake every day. Plus a pizza several times a week. None of my friends have this kind of relationship with food and I never used to either. Nothing fits and I hate it.
YANBU. It takes a lot of eating the wrong things (barring real health problems) to be overweight and let's not pretend we got here eating supplies (though no one is saying that of course!)
Options are

• Not eating carbs
• Not eating for long stretches (16 hours)
• Eating not much and being a bit hungry all the time
• Eating barely anything several days a week and a bit less than normal on other days
• Eating a lot that doesn't fill you up or have calories) otherwise known as going vegan)
• eating a bit less/healthier 90% of the time but losing weight excruciatingly slowly

Pick your poison ladies!

Not supplies, apples!!!' Best weight loss food as strangely filling, very healthy and low cal.

I'm thin but have all the muscle tone of Albert Steptoe. Not a pretty sight.

Order yourself the fast 800 book and the cookbook. Seriously
I an short, round and in my 50s. I have done every diet. Never lost more than a LB a week and self sabotaged. Fast 800 explains it totally.
I have basically lost a stone in the first month. I never ever lose that amount of weight. It took me 14 weeks on sw to lose that.
It looks the facts square in the eye and is science based. It requires will power but actually less than other diets because it's lower carb you really don't feel hungry particularly. Also seeing the weight come off is hugely motivating. It also resets my metabolism so I am actually burning fat which is motivation. I am never evangelical about anything but I am about this, especially for women like me that really have been conned by the slimming industry for years.

It's just couple of stones. Make your portions smaller and it will make a difference. No need for any faff diets, which will work for a bit and then the moment you finish them, you will go back to normal and scales will go up.

Exercise is a part of healthy lifestyle, but in a different way than many think.

To lose a kilo (7000kcal) you would have to run at 4kmh speed for about 21 hours.

What works are weight workouts, even if just using own weight because they help your posture and strength and shape. But ultimately it's about what goes in your mouth. I would start at that portions. If you want to try diets, go for it, but goal should be sustainable change of lifestyle so you don't have to go and diet every 6 months.

You can do it!

I feel you OP.

I'm a little smidge under 5"4, but when I last weighed myself a couple of weeks ago, I was 11 stone 8.
I knew I was getting bigger. I carry it in my belly and legs. But it was a shock to see that I was so far over the 10 stone range, which is where I normally sit.

Needless to say, I'm now watching what I eat!

You can definitely do it, I was shocked to discover I weighed the same as you a couple of years ago and it was a picture that made me realise. I got married just under a year later at 9 stone 7 and I kept the weight off. It wasn’t even really exercise that lost me the weight at first it was sticking to 1200 calories and cutting out alcohol and fizzy drinks, the exercise is more important later when you start to plateau. Weigh everything you eat and stick to recommended portions and it will fly off.

@eeeeeeeeeek

Me too!

I decided a couple of months ago to finally do something about my weight. I started small. Manageable things that didn’t make me feel like it would be a constant struggle, eg. Cutting the sugar out of my coffee, switching to low fat options and reaching for water instead of soda and juice. When the scales started shifting a bit it made me more encouraged to make some bigger changes.

Yes it’s hard sometimes, seeing myself in photos is also hard! Choose your hard!

Do this, very sensible advice. Yes do a little exercise if you can, whatever you can manage and then the next day do a little more. Walk one mile a day or even get 5000 steps a day or something. But make little changes and then eventually start making bigger ones. Good luck OP

Put the photo on the fridge and make it inspiration. You don't need to move a lot at all. Just adjust your diet. You can keep an eating diet for a week and see what is your kryptonite. And then start eating better and healthier and lose weight and feel happier

Those photos are a kick to the guts aren't they. My boyfriend took a video of me messing around in the garden, I watched it back in horror thinking who the fuck is that!!!

@Charleyhorses thank you! I've done versions of the 500 cal one and it's brutal (as in day after day of it) but the fast weight loss is addictive. Doing a normal diet losing a pound a week ONLY on the weeks you don't slip up just doesn't work.

Eat less move more has been proven to be bad science, and while fine for maintenance is zero use for decent weight loss unless you are very fat - which we are not.

Keep an eating diary I meant.