AIBU with OH regard DD bedtime

[Condea76]

OH gets home from work at around 7.20pm and DD is nearly 8 months old and goes to bed at 8pm, so OH can see her.

This causes tension as I don't like him picking her up until he's had a shower.
Wanting to be be careful due to corona and as he still travels in to London for work.
OH gets annoyed as I tell him he has to try and keep her calm as she won't want to sleep.

I'm getting fed up of feeling like I'm a villain for getting DD to bed at 8pm, bearing in mind I'm still BF and getting up with her in the night.

Does anyone have any ideas that could help ease the tension?

Cheeseandwin5

Just to clarify....are you saying it's the Ops fault that her husband hasn't changed his own childs nappy once in her whole life?

@callmeadoctor

Blimey, thats interesting because I've always put baby to sleep at 7pm regardless of DH. Her needs are priority ( and mine for a break). He will have to wait till weekends surely!

Me too .

Is there really a reason you can't keep her up for another hour and have an extra hour's sleep in the morning?

@cheesewin5 some strong comments...
This thread has proved very controversial.

Just to update OH has changed nappies in the past, he just stopped as i was quicker at doing it!
OH has bathed baby today and I'm getting him more involved in play and meal times so he can feed DD. I'm still bf too so bedtime is done by me.
OH has realised that he can't just go to work and come home and moan about time with DD, when he's not doing the bulk of the parenting. I'll get OH trained up in no time 😁 Thanks for all the comments and advice.

My girls loved taking a shower with their dad. Keep her up a bit later, let Dad bathe the two of them and do bedtime. It will become their routine, and who knows, you might get an hour yo yourself or even a longer sleep! Neither of you are BU, having a kid and a relationship with them is work.

I'm confused as to how he 'makes up for it at the weekend' whilst also not having her for more than an hour ever, and not even changing a nappy.

The bar for father's can be very low sometimes :-(

Fascinating how men think that only women can suddenly magically know how to look after a baby and yet men can't!!!!!