To not want other people's dogs to stay

[kitkatkoo]

My sister in law wants to come visit later this month for about a week - but has three dogs! Two spaniels and a greyhound. It's not that we don't have space - but we already have three big dogs. I'm pretty strict with my three - not on the sofas, etc., and they'll happily go into the stables if they come back from a walk wet, but the SIL's dogs jump about on the furniture, and would bark/scratch if left outside in the (warm, dry) stables ... ugh. I'd love to see my in-laws, but it stresses me out when they're here because i don't want dogs messing up the house. SIL is renting her house out for cash while she's away too - so could easily pay for kennels ...

YANBU. There’s absolutely no way I’d ever let anyone’s animals stay in my home.

I love dogs and have had them my entire life, but no one is allowed to stay in my home with their dogs. End of story, no discussion to be had. Tell your SIL right now that she will have to make other arrangements for her dogs.

YANBU - I never understand why people expect to be able to take their dogs everywhere (and I have a dog). My own dog doesn't go on furniture and is very well behaved, but why should he go everywhere I do? Kennels/sitters are much better for both him and I as it means I don't worry about any issues.

YANBU. I love dogs, don't have them but my DM visited with her two once and they ruined the carpets and some furniture. I rent a flat and had to pay for the carpet to be replaced.

Just be nice about it but firm. Sorry, but with the extra guests there's just not the room for 3 extra dogs as well.

I wouldn’t like this either. It’s not worth the risk of damage or falling out over it. Could you send her links to local dog sitters/boarders? Maybe a little passive, but it will set the stone from the beginning you aren’t welcoming the dogs too. Don’t make excuses it’s your home and your choice.

@WhenISnappedAndFarted I do hope that your mother paid for the damage?

I don't see the problem. Tell her you would love to see her but the dogs will have to go into kennels. If she asks why, it sounds like you have more than enough reasons.

YANBU
It's up to you whether you wish to host other people's pets.

I would never leave my dogs in kennels, or outside in a stable. It sounds like you don't have much fondness for dogs. Be prepared that she won't come if you ban her pets

We have a dog but I would never take him to anyone’s house unless they specifically asked that we bring him (like mil) does.
I would also not invite another dog here. Ddog wouldn’t like it and neither would the cats

I think you know you are not being at all unreasonable to not want your house trashed by three dogs (however lovely they are), but I'm going to enjoy reading the crazy messages that tell you YABU.

It sounds like you don't have much fondness for dogs

she already has three!

I wouldn't even let Brad Pitt in my house if he Brought 3 dogs for a week.

OK maybe I would
But hell no, I wouldn't let anyone else.

@hibbledobble do you need some eyeglasses girl? Op already has three dogs herself.

Its fair enough, but she may choose not to visit. I personally wouldn’t put mine in a kennel or simply leave him outside, so if he wasn’t welcome then we would choose not to visit.

@SimonJT

Its fair enough, but she may choose not to visit. I personally wouldn’t put mine in a kennel or simply leave him outside, so if he wasn’t welcome then we would choose not to visit.

I’d be fine with that. Your dog, you have to live with the consequences of being tied down to it.

Send her a message as if from your ddogs as if they are not the caring /sharing sort of ddogs so unfortunately you are saying no thanks to visitors!!

I have two dogs. I wouldn’t have other dogs to stay. My pair wouldn’t be happy with that.
And I wouldn’t expect anyone else to host me and my hounds too.

YANBU but, as others have said, this probably will limit or prevent your SIL from visiting.

6 dogs in a house is a LOT of dog. I'm not sure I'd be up for that either (and we have 3).

YANBU. If you don't feel you can totally say no, I think you're going to have to point out you'd appreciate it if they don't go onto your furniture and point out there are times when they'd need to go into the stables like your other dogs do.

yeah I understand that, but she doesn't appear to like them much. I would never leave dogs in an out building, they are social animals.

I merrily let people bring their dogs, and I visit with mine but only if they are welcome! Of course it’s fine to say no!

I don’t think you are being unreasonable but I think it is reasonable for your SIL to pull out of the visit or maybe get accommodation elsewhere that she can have dogs. Dogs may be considered part of their family unit who they enjoy having with them on holidays and that is perfectly reasonable too.

Not at all unreasonable. We've had one dog extra to stay but never 3