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What is it with female artists going on about their vaginas in music?

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Liliith · 07/07/2020 17:06

I quite enjoyed a Cardi B song my Dneice was listening to so i went down a rabbit hole listening to some of her other stuff. Every song was "my pussy" this and "my pussy" that.

I'm not a prude but I think it's crass. It's primarily an American thing from what I can tell. Cardi B isn't the only woman that does it.

AIBU to think it's cringe, stupid and that they're objectifying themselves?

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BiBabbles · 08/07/2020 14:33

There are social and financial incentives for music that discusses particular lifestyles, which ones depends on what genre and time you're listening to. Complaining about mentions of pussy and sex in rap music would be like complaining about songs about drinking in country music. It's part of the genre that can be avoided if one wants, but it's still part of the genre.

If a little kid is listening and singing along to adult lyrics, that's a supervision problem to be corrected, it doesn't mean the song shouldn't exist. My son at 4 started to sing Chop Suey! so, even if he had no idea what suicide is, his father and I changed what music was playing.

With teens? At my older daughter's age, I had Salt-n-Pepa on my boombox a lot. My mother was the one bought the tape and would stop me singing along too loudly -- by joining in louder, something with music video style of the time dancing (mortifying). It somehow did not make me go tell guys that I want to lick 'em like a lollipop should be licked. My grandfather had stories of telling off my uncles for their music. It's nothing to do with music today.

My daughters can equally dance and sing to music with little concern from me. Cardi really isn't her type so I don't know that song, but I did have to ask her earlier this month if she was aware what Sweet Little Unforgettable Thing was about. Explaining songs, trying to correct her breath support (something she has asked for my help for with her school work, not so much on those kinds of songs), and her having her own speaker with headphones in her room tends to mean I don't have to hear most of the more awkward songs.

We can discuss the issues within the music industry and what it promotes, but women singing about their bodies is really far down on my list of things that need incentives to change.

BabyLlamaZen · 08/07/2020 14:48

@yelyah22 it's like a woman calling herself a whore. Just because she says it doesn't mean it wasnt started by men to objectify women.

No one is saying a woman should be censored! It'd just be cool if she did it in a way that was empowering.

orangesandapplesandpearsohmy · 08/07/2020 14:48

Maybe she’s got a gorgeous pussy that’s worth singing about?

BabyLlamaZen · 08/07/2020 14:51

And err men saying it is just as grim. In fact worse as they're objectifying women too.

BabyLlamaZen · 08/07/2020 14:53

@orangesandapplesandpearsohmy gorgeous for men to use? Probably. Nice.

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