Neighbour parking in my allocated parking space then getting abusive

[Emma123L]

I live in a housing association flat. The housing association has given each of us an allocated parking space. They sent a letter out at the beginning of the year to all the tenants to say that everyone should park In their own spaces and if they have two cars, they should not park In another person's allocated space. A map of the spaces and which flats they belonged to was included with the letter. The letter had been sent out In response to some altercations regarding two people from a neighbouring block of flats using other people's spaces. The road is small and if someone parks In your allocated space you then have to park some distance from your flat up a different road. Since the letter some months ago things have been ok regarding the parking siuation. Today when it got back from work someone had parked In my space. After two hours I decided to go to the next door block of flats and find out whose car it is . A lady In one flat answered the door and I politely asked if it was her car In my space....well her attitude was ' yeah it's my friends car so what' she refused to move her car, started swearing and then slammed her door. I then went back to my flat and called the housing association. She then banged heavily on my door with her friend and then when I opened the door I was met with more rudeness and swearing and shouting. In my block the neighbours are lovely and respect each others parking spaces. I'm just upset and fed up that this neighbour has behaved in this way. So inconsiderate and the abuse uncalled for. I'm not being unreasonable to expect to be able to park n my allocated parking space am I?

what did the housing association say? If you check your tenancy it will say something along the lines of you and your visitors must behave

I would have let all her tyres down. Rude cow.

Park in front of your space blocking the visitor's car in. THen refuse to move it when they ask.

Go back to the HA and report the parking and abuse.

YANBU. Some people get abusive when you call them out on their shitty behaviour.

Make sure you contact the housing association and let them know about her behaviour, if you haven’t already.

Log it with the housing Association. Someone/people have already complained. They'll build up enough evidence and eventually they'll do something about it, hopefully.

Could you have blocked her car in? I used to do that when my ndn’s friend parked on my drive. She’d then have to ask me to move my car. She never got nasty, but I think it annoyed her!

Thanks for your responses. Yes , I rang up the Housing Association again and they said they would contact the lady. Her friend eventually moved her car from my parking space so hopefully it won't happen again.

They probably thought you wouldn't be able to figure out which flat they were so took the chance. If they do it again, block them in. If they get abusive call the police on them, make sure yo take pics of the car in your spot.

I would photocopy the original letter and post it to her address. Log the incident with your HA and include that she turned abusive when kindly asked to comply with the HA issued instructions. Is their a clamping or towing company in use, we resorted to this as our carpark was frequently used by non-residents for parking, the sight of a few clamped car soon resolved the issue.
YANU in your behaviour but your neighbours response was, hopefully the HA will back you up and send a reminder letter to her and a note that the incident has been recorded on file.

If it happens again/often you could see whether you could install a bollard on your space which you could raise and lock when not in use so no one else can park there. I think they're about £30 on Amazon - but you would probably need the HA's permission to install it?

Take photos each time to protect yourself in the future and back up your case.

This made me realise that it is a very long time since we have had a parking thread on Mumsnet. Just one of the many joys sucked away by this bloody pandemic. 😁

I wouldn't take any further action now, the HA are clearly on to it.

I expect the friend had no idea she wasn't allowed to park in someone else's space (or didn't care), and the neighbour didn't want to have a go at her friend so picked on you instead. Now she is in trouble with the HA. I doubt it will happen again,

Next time if it happens say 'you can keep shouting all you want, if it stays there longer than five minutes I wouldn't want to be your friend when she does go back to it.'

Unless it's a banger it'll move.

Take a photo and log and leave a note on the car -every single time. Leave a polite note -or possibly a copy of the previous letter.

They knew they were in the wrong and went on the vile offensive. ignore. You did the right thing: gave them a chance to move their cars before calling the HA. From now on, just call the HA.

Surely we've moved on from parking threads now? Very passé!

can we have a diagram?

Call the HA every time this happens. I wouldn't get into an discussion with the neighbour. They don't sound like you could reason with them.

Get a bike

Ask the HA to paint flat numbers in the allocated spaces and to put up large signs saying there is no visitor parking and everyone must park only in their own space.

Thanks for all your comments.

I was also just thinking we need a good parking thread !
Lovely, but where are the pictures??

Right, you’ve done all the right things but going forward you need to keep a log of offences, with photos, who you spoke to, who you spoke to at the HA.
I like the idea of blocking them in but would be too worried about my car !
Have you thought of buying a GoPro or similar to record further abuse ?

Good for you telling them, CFers