Neighbour parking in my allocated parking space then getting abusive

[Emma123L]

I live in a housing association flat. The housing association has given each of us an allocated parking space. They sent a letter out at the beginning of the year to all the tenants to say that everyone should park In their own spaces and if they have two cars, they should not park In another person's allocated space. A map of the spaces and which flats they belonged to was included with the letter. The letter had been sent out In response to some altercations regarding two people from a neighbouring block of flats using other people's spaces. The road is small and if someone parks In your allocated space you then have to park some distance from your flat up a different road. Since the letter some months ago things have been ok regarding the parking siuation. Today when it got back from work someone had parked In my space. After two hours I decided to go to the next door block of flats and find out whose car it is . A lady In one flat answered the door and I politely asked if it was her car In my space....well her attitude was ' yeah it's my friends car so what' she refused to move her car, started swearing and then slammed her door. I then went back to my flat and called the housing association. She then banged heavily on my door with her friend and then when I opened the door I was met with more rudeness and swearing and shouting. In my block the neighbours are lovely and respect each others parking spaces. I'm just upset and fed up that this neighbour has behaved in this way. So inconsiderate and the abuse uncalled for. I'm not being unreasonable to expect to be able to park n my allocated parking space am I?

I don’t want to worry you, but I hope your car doesn’t get damaged!

A few years ago I parked in a small public car park next to our house. Neighbour arrived at our door, shouting and swearing, telling us to move our f@@king car as it was in their space! It wasn’t their space as none allocated (and they already had 2 cars in car park) and was only empty space I could park in. A week or two later our car was vandalised (small deep indents). We knew it was neighbour but couldn’t prove it (his walking stick with metal tip was never seen again). Another neighbour who parked in his ‘space’ had her car keyed!

I hope nothing does happen to your car, but is there any cctv covering the car park? Or, if not, can you set up anything to cover your car?

let ha deal with her, if you were to confront her as previously 'advised' it could kick off and you might be in trouble with ha, police and possibly injured.

I had this happen over and over. I eventually waited for a rainy day and stuck (with water) photocopied notes that said ‘not your spot’ and ‘no parking here’ all over their car. It took quite a while to do, and pick up little soggy bits of paper off the drive afterwards. But it did get the message across.

With rude, entitled people the only way is to make life harder to park there than find somewhere else. Inconvenience them just enough.

I would be tempted to not just take photos but to record any interaction you have with neighbours in similar circumstances - much easier to show the HA who was being unreasonable.

If they complain suggest very politely that they record it too- funny how people usually stop being unreasonable if they are told to record it themselves. You can record a situation - just keep calm and say that you’re recording it because you’re worried and want evidence. It won’t stand up in court but would be fine to show the HA.

Thanks for all your comments and advice. The Housing Association have emailed the lady and are going to write a warning letter to her and also are going to send out the letter detailing the allocated parking spaces and the map again to all the tenants. Hopefully there won't be any problems after this.