Mil has registered me for a dentist without my knowledge or approval

[WiggyClawsThe2nd]

My husband has just announced that his mother has registered me with a dentist. Bit weird as why would she do that without mentioning it to me first. Turns out that this dentist is where she lives, 60+ miles away. Husband upset I'm not grateful, but as I already have a local NHS dentist why on earth would I want to travel that far for a checkup..... and the prospect of travelling that far whilst on painkillers etc if treatment is needed..... that fills me with horror! And now I'm worried I might have gotten kicked off our local dentists list, not sure what the rules are on being registered in more than one place. AIBU to tell her I won't be going to her local dentist any time soon?!

YANBU. Also to register you, she would have to impersonate you or declare you unfit to sign and sign on your behalf?

Are there any other issues?

Otherwise, I would say thanks but no thanks and email both surgeries to explain you do not wish to change dental practice.

Irrelevant to you. Dentists don’t have lists you can just go see one anywhere if you can find one open on nhs anyway.

Odd thing to do though but don’t stress about it.

You'd better contact your own dentist to make sure they know you are not leaving and then the 'new' dentist to cancel. I had trouble getting registered and that was pre-covid carry on.

Whhhaaatttt? That's so weird that there must be some kind of backstory

What a genuinely weird thing to do!

I would contact both your current dentist and your MIL’s dentist and let them know that you aren’t planning to switch. You don’t want them to transfer you and then you lose your place at the current dentist.

That’s bizarre. Is she expecting you to move by her?

Could there have been a 'fever a friend' bonus?

Contact the dentist she’s chosen, inform them by email that she didn’t have your consent to do what she did, you do not wish to register, and suggest that they check whether they followed their registration policy, since it seems odd and poor practice if they actually let her do that!

Doh, refer a friend obviously

I wasn’t able to register my husband with a dentist when I needed to so how did she do that? And why?? Wierd

I think there actually is lists as when I registered to my new dentist my old one called me and asked why I moved practice and if I’d consider going back.

Your MIL was certainly unreasonable

And yes, inform your current dentist too.

That is more than a bit weird, it's very weird. No logic whatsoever. I'd check with your dentist that you're still registered there, I'm sure they'll keep you on if you explain the situation. I'm surprised the other dentist accepted you only with the info from your MIL - I can't remember when I last changed dentists but when I changed doctors recently I had to fill out a whole form and supply two types of ID, so it seems strange for them to accept you solely on her say so. Or did she forge an application as if it was from you, which would make the situation weirder again!

Is your DH registered with a local dentist or the one by your MIL?

And why on earth does he expect you to be grateful for something that is at best irrelevant and useless and at worse actively inconveniences you.

Phone the dentist and cancel your registration.
Then phone your MIL and tell her to fuck off with her interfering.

If u have a local nhs dentist why on earth would she do this? And why would your husband think you should be grateful?!! Why would u want to move dentists!

The is no official registration with Dentistry. You can add your details and make an appointment if they have capacity, but you are free to move from one dentist to another. Her adding your details to her dentist will not remove you from your existing dentist.
I would still be upset she thinks she can arrange where you receive your healthcare!

That is beyond batshit crazy. Your husband needs dealing with if he thinks this is something you should be grateful for.

Ring that dentist and tell them to take you off their list as she doesn’t have permission to register you. You mil is weird and has overstepped the Mark massively. Also, contact your own dentist in case your records are being sent.
Is you dh angling to move closer to mil? I’m suspicious 🤔

@Helenluvsrob interesting. I did not know rules are different for kids and adults. At my NHS dental surgery, we lose the place if we transfer the kids out to another practice (they are then seen as emergency outpatients only). And if we transfer out of local NHS authority, we even lose all orthodontic referrals and have to start from scratch again.

YANBU

That's a strange thing to do - is there another part to this story?

That's just bizarre why does your husband upset you're not grateful? It's 60 miles away! Tell him he can drive you to the appointments and back if he's that's bothered about it.

You don’t need to inform your dentist. There are no arrangements to “ transfer your file “
Or anything as with a Gp. Each dentist stands alone and only gets paid when they see/ treat you

*is

Gee, normally you just pop a breath mint in someone’s mouth while they’re talking, but she actually made the dentist appointment for you. Next level!

Dentists are not the same as GPs, unless you ask them to remove you or they remove you for not turning up to appts, you will remain on their patient list. You don't need to do anything other than continue to use your current dentist