To leave DP with all 4 kids and go and take some time to myself?

[Haut]

I have two children one of which has autism and can be alot to handle and as much as I adore them I never get a break.

DP also has two older children (one of which also has autism albeit high functioning) and they're coming to stay for the night. DP has taken a holiday from work so will be home for the week.

I want to utilise his being home and go for a wander round the shops by myself today and maybe grab a coffee somewhere. Just to be me for a few hours child free.

DP isn't thrilled about that because it means him having to stay in with the kids as opposed to going to, say, the park - because he doesn't think it's doable for him to take all 4 on his own (my eldest is a sprinter and will run off, and my youngest will be in the pram)

AIBU to just go out as planned and leave him with all 4 for the afternoon? I never get the chance to be child free and I want a break.

He's never left to it with all of the kids and i think it will give him a deeper appreciation of just how bloody hard it is for us mums.

So actually the youngest two are not YOUR children but HIS children

Op said at the start that his children are the older two.

Just to clarify again, me and DP have two children and he has another with his ex wife.

One of ours has autism and so does his son he shares with his ex wife.

Given that there is a genetic link, we do suspect DP is the common denominator and likely on the higher end of the spectrum himself.

That being said he can cope with all 4 and has managed just fine, I'm home now and he still has a full head of hair intact and all children have been fed.

I agree I need to take more time for myself, I don't prioritise myself enough.

• he has another two with his ex wife

Good for you @Haut
One afternoon should not need to be justified so much!
Double standards indeed!