Teen daughter wants nose job and I said no

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My dd (16) has decided she needs a nose job. Last year she skateboarded into a lamppost (typical) and broke her nose, she now has breathing problems and the break is still fairly obvious. I don’t know whether someone so young should have plastic surgery but my family friend who is a plastic surgeon says her nose will have finished growing and if it bothers her she should do it. My DH says he’d pay for it but I’m still not sure. Opinions?

She has breathing difficulties!

I'd have thought that's a medical procedure, not a cosmetic one?

Let her have it.

Surely it should be done due to the breathing problems alone? That can’t be fun!

It’s not cosmetic if it’s affecting her breathing. Have you looked into whether the NHS would cover it?

Do you trust your plastic surgeon friend? Presumably that’s why you asked for their advice?

I’d let her do it.

If it’s medically necessary I wouldn’t be as opposed to it, especially following a break. It’s not as if she just woke up one morning and didn’t like her nose.

The breathing problems would clinch it for me. I needed a nose operation for that reason and chose to have cosmetic surgery at the same time. I was much older, but the break had bothered me for years.

If she can’t breathe then of course she should. And I’d be surprised if the nhs didn’t do it, though I suspect the wait will be rather long.
I had plastic surgery at the age of 14, to fix a scar from a bad burn I got aged about 11. It shouldn’t be taken lightly but I think if on her face and affecting her breathing then should be done.

Good grief. Yes if she has breathing difficulties of course she should get it fixed.

That's not a 'nose job' it sounds like a necessary surgical procedure.

Why wasn't it set properly when it was first broken so that she can breathe without difficulty?

If she'd broken her arms and the break was still apparent to the extent that her arm wasn't functioning properly it would have to be reset.

I'd be taking her to see her GP.

I'd support her

I think you should let her do it as it will help her self esteem and breathing but help her find a good surgeon, please don't get the first or cheapest that comes your way! I've watched too many episodes of Botched!!

Of course she should have it fixed! I can't understand your objection at all. Your poor daughter.

My mum broke her nose being drunk and the nhs fixed it for her .. ask yourself gp !!

I think it’s worth asking the GP for an ENT referral. Very different to have a repair following damage compared to a full reconstruction.

are you in the uk ?
if so, what was the advice when she was taken to A&E.
was there no follow-up, discussion re needing further surgical attention.
start with GP.

is this a genuine query OP ?
if so, why have you given it a misleading title.
this is in fact a necessary surgical repair following a traumatic injury, which is causing ongoing medical problems.
not a nose job as commonly understood.

Sounds totally necessary to correct her breathing problems and repair the damage. I would understand your reticence if it was a purely cosmetic procedure but this seems medically necessary.

Ds1 struggled with his nose for ages

We agreed to a nose job at 16 but i made him go to the dr to see if there was something actually wrong with it

Turned out that bone had grown over one ‘tube’ and he had broken his nose and the break was covering the other side

Poor sod couldnt breath

So he got his nose job...but for a very good reason

Yes I'd let her do it - she broke her nose, it's still obvious... and she has breathing difficulties. It's not a cosmetic thing she's going to get over.

I had my nose job done on the NHS because it was linked to an accidental injury.
Get her to go see a specialist
NOT a family friend
NOT a cosmetic surgeon
a proper ENT expert
to look at it
and get it done on the NHS

She has breathing difficulties!

Why on earth would you NOT let her?

Absolutely yes. She can't live her life comfortably not being able to breathe properly through her nose.

As a person with a deviated septum (probably the thing that causes her breathing issues) I would say let he do it, also there is nothing wrong with her wanting to change the look of her nose if it really bothers her, especially if there is a medical reason to do it as well. I think people think plastic surgery is the worst thing ever but really if it makes her feel confident and helps her breathing I don't see an issue.

If I had the money I would have had mine fixed years ago!

This wouldn't be classed as cosmetic in the private health insurance industry s she's got breathing problems with it. Start with the gp, and if you want to go private, they may know a good plastic/ent surgeon to refer her to.