Do you enjoy having teenagers

[Busymum45]

I don't at the moment, they stay up all night & literally would lie in bed all day long, I get annoyed by lunchtime so wake them, until then try to enjoy the morning to myself.
They seem ungrateful and rude sometimes and eat all the food....
Does it get better as doesnt feel like its very enjoyable stage of parenting at all !!!!

Other teen parents, please share your views ......

Not right now. My DS is 15 and dealing with a difficult first relationship plus lot of teenage angst in general. Spends most of his time in his room in his pjs right now, eating all the food, on his Xbox or watching Netflix.

I usually offer lunch about 1.30 which draws them out most days. They go back to their rooms fairly quickly afterwards though!

I find them loads of fun actually. My eldest is 14, just really nice to be around, his friends are lovely too. Just a laugh having them around.

DS1 does stay up stupidly late at times but if he sleeps in it doesnt worry me. He works really hard when need be so deserves down term. To be fair his school make them log on at 855 every day so he has to be up in the week.

In a word NO

@Busymum45

Actually 13 was ok, its after 15 it really gets bad....

Oh dear, I thought I was doing really well (mum of an almost 14 year old)

I loved it when mine were younger when they got excited about days out at the seaside or zoo. I miss this . Then they turned into teens staying up late and on bed all day and glued to phones and eating loads of food and the food bills .. don't mention it !! Much preferred it before they turned into teens!!!

Mine are like locusts, they are slightly younger (12 and 10). I don't mind the fridge raiding as long as they are healthy and not overweight, which they're not. And if the 12 year old wants to sleep in I let him as long as he manages his school work, which is ok at the moment. It's totally normal to be sleeping more and eating more as teens and I suppose they can do more of it at the moment...

I love mine. They're 15, 17 and 19, plus we have another 19 year old living with us.

They're funny, energetic, kind, annoying, entertaining, occasionally helpful, and they'll drive me home when I've had a drink.

I really struggled with them as babies so I feel this is payback to some extent.

The sleeping in half the day does bother me, I dont know why!

You're a classic sleep snob.

Yes, I do. My children are 14, just about to turn 17 and 22. My eldest lives a long way away now and the worst thing about lockdown is not being able to see her, but my boys are great company. The elder one spends a bit too long playing computer games to be honest but he's working really hard on his schoolwork for most of the day so I don't mind really.
I think this is the best bit of parenting so far. I like at least 90% of my children's friends too - on the whole they are articulate, helpful and likeable young people. Of course they all have their moments, but who doesn't? Maybe I've just been very lucky, but I have genuinely found the teenage years enjoyable.

Mine are 13 and 14, have two older 21 and 29. I prefer teenagers to toddlers. They can mostly look after themselves now and I don’t have to constantly watch them. So no I dint mind teenagers.

I love having a teenager!

Though currently he has purple hair, far too many guitars and eats like a locust, but like PP's I pick my battles.

We're watching The Great together at the moment and earlier I was sat there thinking how much better it was than Charlie and Lola

I'm quite enjoying it.

We have 5DC,DS24,DS22,DS18,DD17 and DD12 and our 12 year old is by the far the hardest to deal with out of our 5DC.

Once our oldest and our second oldest DS's became teenagers they'd have they're moments but all in all they were lovely and our relationships with one another grew,we were still obviously they're parents and they were our DC but we also developed a friend relationship as well,which we still have to this day.

With our oldest he loved to talk about philosphy and about society and we could spend hours chatting and learning new things together and teaching each other different things.

Our second oldest has always been someone that can make you really laugh so we'd sit and watch comedies together and he'd sit and tell me and his Dad jokes and he was really interested in his heritage and we'd spend ages telling him family stories that had been passed on by our parents.

Our DS19 has tons of friends but still really enjoys spending time with me and his Dad,he's really artistic and he loves sharing his work with us and the work of other artists that we might not know off.
We share the same taste in movies as well and it's lovely to just spend a few hours together watching some weird sci fi or horror movies.

Our DD17 loves spending time with us,she'll go running with her Dad,binge watch different series on Netflix with me,she loves to cook with me and her Dad and me and my DD have spent many a lovely afternoon shopping and going out for nice meals together.

Our youngest has every single one of them wrapped around her little finger and I'm sure once she's over this hump that she'll be really lovely again.

Quite envious of the descriptions of some of your teens I have to admit

My two teens are great, DS1 is 19 DS2 is 17. Not the best company as usually they in their rooms, but they emerge at meal times!

I do actually
Find it less stressful than when they were little
Interesting seeing the adults they are developing into

Aw, I have a 15yr old and 17yr old and they are sweet and good company

Great big oafs who eat me out of house and home, but it’s fun seeing them turn into (almost) grown ups

I miss them being sweet and little, though they reckon that’s my memories playing tricks on me

And I let mine sleep as much as they like,I am not the sleep police 👮‍♀️

I love that their humour is so much more sophisticated. When I listen to Ds1 speak I get a little glimps if the man he is becoming. He is the sort of person I would have chosen to be around. Clever, down to earth, funny and empathetic.
DS2 and Dd1 (13) are having a surge of hormones and and can both be a grump, but still have the snuggly side, which i’m Making the most of.

I’m generally enjoying it. DS occasionally pushes the house rule (don’t be a dick), but knows that when we pull him back into line over that we really mean it.
Sleeping all day? Fine. Eating everything? It’s mainly fruit anyway. Gaming? Not much else he can do at the moment, even he’s getting bored of it now.
He is hugely missing his sport as life revolves around that, we can’t wait to get back to it.

I found it easy but I was a sole parent with only one child so much easier relationship probably. The tricky part is that she's 23 this year, has graduated and has a full time job and still shows no sign of wanting to leave. Pays her way, does most of the housework and obviously I love her yo bits but .... I think we both need space.

I only have one left at home and he's lovely. He'll never move out though, I swear his Dad would still be wiping his bum if he could.

Like lots on here mine are great. Now 20 and 17 they get along really well and are good company.

They have had their moments but since the youngest started secondary they have been good friends.

They get up for school / uni times and do their work so if they sleep all day at the weekend that is up to them. It doesn't worry me.

I've found the whole teenager experience traumatic and it's made me loathe being a parent. I used to love it. I'm a pretty chilled parent and I don't shout or behave selfishly so the way they have treated me was and is undeserved. My son is now in his early twenties and he's finally growing up and realising what he's done. My teen daughter is just not interested in having a relationship at all after years of being close, still got years of that to go through yet before she realises. Then the step kids, one of whom is a ticking time bomb, and my youngest who has SEN, I'm going to end up in the mental hospital.