We had an argument a week ago and my H withdrew completely. No hugs, affection, communication. We deal with the kids together during the day politely and he’s being super funny nice with the kids but he leaves a room if I walk in and goes to bed as soon as the kids go to bed. He’s acting like a single man. This is the 3rd time in less than a year that he’s done this. It only ends if I apologise unreservedly, accept full blame and beg him to reinstate affection. Yes I did shout at him this time out of frustration and say some regrettable things, which I’ve apologised for but he did too and he apologised for his part. Both parties apologising and agreeing to move on should be enough? However, he wants more. He has turned it into a rant about all my past perceived misdeeds/arguments going back 2 years (all of which were resolved at the time). He has also listed numerous reasons in an email why he doesn’t want to be with me including that I object to him withdrawing like this as one of the reasons. He is adamant that our relationship issues are not 50/50 and that it is 100% my fault. I’ve explained my point of view that arguments do happen but most long term marrieds find a way to come together and discuss and resolve. Withdrawing is fine but with an end point in mind so that communication can resolve it. His withdrawal is endless until I capitulate to everything he wants. I find it highly distressing as a sensitive person. It’s lonely, humiliating and exhausting. Has anyone been through this. He says he is protecting himself. I get that and I don’t disagree with a cooling off period but this is more than that! For what it’s worth if he starts an argument and then apologises I tell him let’s forget it and move on and have a hug. I’ve never pulled this extended withdrawal on him. I feel it sets a really bad example to the kids.