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To have had one small glass of champagne last night (26w pregnant)

373 replies

bluemoon2468 · 28/06/2020 11:36

Basically, what I'm trying to establish is how many mums can actually say they didn't have a sip of alcohol during their entire pregnancy?

Last night I celebrated a friend's birthday with a very small glass of champagne, just less than half of a standard size champagne flute. This was my first drink since a couple of weeks before I conceived, aside from a few very occasional sips of other people's drinks here and there (e.g. tasting a cocktail DH made a few weeks ago with a small sip). I have no particular plans to drink again whilst pregnant, but I won't rule out another small drink at some point before I give birth if I fancy it.

I'm pretty comfortable with my decision, but am just wondering whether in reality most mothers engage in the occasional drink in pregnancy or stay strictly tee total?

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BillywilliamV · 28/06/2020 11:51

My Mother had a craving for Advocaat when she was pg with her first three. Drank bottles of the stuff, but th at was in the 60's so it didn 't count.

rebecca102 · 28/06/2020 11:51

I didn't have any once I found out at 9 weeks(surprise baby) . Before the 9 weeks I had drank like twice. I wouldn't judge you having one here and there, I just didn't see the point in doing that when I'd stopped other unhealthy habits.

Apple1029 · 28/06/2020 11:53

If you can stop yourself at one, why not just have nothing? Cant imagine why you would be that desperate? Its really your choice and I'm sure it's safe, but it's so grim watching a pregnant woman drinking.

JuanNil · 28/06/2020 11:53

I didn't have any during my pregnancy, but strangely just before I actually found out I was pregnant I went off alcohol completely. The sight, thought and smell of it made me nauseous. When I found out I was pregnant that made more sense to me because a lot of women go off things they like when they get pregnant.

If I hadn't been nauseous at the sight of it though, I still don't think I would have had any. I am an extremely anxious person by nature and mine was a twin pregnancy. I was constantly petrified that something was wrong and that I'd lose them. So I don't think I would have allowed myself to indulge in even one drop.

I don't 'judge' people who do anything in moderation when they're pregnant (within reason) but I have heard some people say 'fuck that, I'm not giving up wine just because I'm pregnant' and that does make me feel very uncomfortable and sad. I think that attitude sets the tone for the child's future.

GoBackToPartyCity · 28/06/2020 11:54

I went to two weddings during my pregnancy and drank one glass of fizz at each of them.

bluemoon2468 · 28/06/2020 11:55

@Apple1029 desperate? If I were desperate for a drink I probably wouldn't have made it 6 months without having one 😆 I made a choice to have a small drink, no desperation involved.

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Barton10 · 28/06/2020 11:55

I had a glass of wine occasionally when I was pregnant my dc are perfectly healthy.

JudgeRindersMinder · 28/06/2020 11:57

I got married when I was 14 weeks pregnant with my eldest-damn right I had a glass of bubbly!

CycleWoman · 28/06/2020 11:57

Occasional small glass of wine with a meal. Didn’t feel like it for most of my pregnancies until towards the end.

Iwonder08 · 28/06/2020 11:58

It is quite amusing so many people here would consider drinking small amounts of alcohol selfish, but stuff themselves with crisps, fizzy drinks, KFC etc because 'pregnancy is not a time for a diet'

heartsonacake · 28/06/2020 11:58

@LaurieMarlow

I think it’s very selfish too.

Did you get in a car? That’s far riskier.

Well that’s a ridiculous argument. Cars are often a necessity, alcohol isn’t.

But no, I didn’t.

AuntImmortelle · 28/06/2020 11:59

One small glass of fizz is completely fine! I had the odd one for each pregnancy and both kids are fine. Although generally I didn't fancy it anyway.

Honestly one glass is not going to be a problem. It does not equate to being a selfish mother who will have a child with foetal alcohol syndrome.

I cannot believe how bloody worked up some people get on here. 🙄

bluemoon2468 · 28/06/2020 11:59

@CycleWoman totally get where you're coming from there. Didn't fancy alcohol in the slightest for the first half of my pregnancy, but the taste for it is coming back!

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june2007 · 28/06/2020 11:59

I had a glass of champaign at my wedding, and a glass of sangria on my honey moon Not advisable to regulalry drink but neither I or you were doing that. Yor child won,t get fas from 1 glass of champaign.

meow1989 · 28/06/2020 11:59

I didnt bar a sip of the foam from dh Guinness once and 2 teaspoons (!) Of my favourite sparkling wine at xmas. I knew that the for me, the anxiety of having caused potential harm ( however irrational) would affect me far more than enjoying a drink. I drank zero alcohol beer or wine if I fancied it. But one small glass wont do major harm.

LaurieMarlow · 28/06/2020 12:01

Well that’s a ridiculous argument. Cars are often a necessity, alcohol isn’t.

It’s not ridiculous at all. You only think that because you don’t understand risk.

Plenty of car trips are avoidable.

But no, I didn’t.

You didn’t get in a car once, all during pregnancy. Really?

Quackersandcheese3 · 28/06/2020 12:03

I feel this is totally fine. I hope you enjoyed it .

4amWitchingHour · 28/06/2020 12:03

it's so grim watching a pregnant woman drinking

This one wins the judgiest wanker prize!!

I would have had nips of things, but the smell of alcohol has made me nauseous all the way through, and even wine cooked out of gravy I physically didn't want to eat, so I haven't bothered. The book Expecting Better does a great evidence review of things like the risks of drinking in pregnancy. The amount you had - basically no risk.

LethargicLumpOfLockdownLard · 28/06/2020 12:04

Absolutely fine. I had the odd small drink, most people I know did. It's fine. Plenty of other more dangerous things, like being in a car or giving birth!

bluemoon2468 · 28/06/2020 12:04

@Quackersandcheese3 I really did, thank you! Tasted amazing after such a long time 😍

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heartsonacake · 28/06/2020 12:07

Plenty of car trips are avoidable

LaurieMarlow Thats why I said often a necessity, not always.

You didn’t get in a car once, all during pregnancy. Really?

No, I didn’t. I had no need to.

Macncheeseballs · 28/06/2020 12:07

One glass of champagne is fine, there are loads those women who carry on partying who dont even know they're pregnant for the first few weeks, and pethidine is an opioid which is stronger than alcohol

Macncheeseballs · 28/06/2020 12:08

*of women

ParkEndStreet · 28/06/2020 12:09

Jesus Christ there are some sanctimonious plonkers on here. Would make most of the PP's toes curl to say I enjoyed a cold white wine in the early stages of labour Grin.

Hope you enjoyed it, OP.

SockQueen · 28/06/2020 12:09

I think I had one glass of bubbly and one Pimms on separate occasions (both weddings) in my first pregnancy, and something similar in my 2nd - no weddings but maybe over Christmas. I wasn't "desperate," could easily have gone without, but the risk level for that kind of drinking is so minuscule vs the pleasure gained from a nice drink toasting friends made it worthwhile. I don't think you did anything wrong OP.

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