Please help settle a disagreement

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Hamper bought for a Christmas present. Not huge but special food and value of about £40, very nicely presented etc. We didn’t see the recipient over Christmas but gave it to their close family to pass onto them (they live a 30 min drive from each other and see each other fortnightly). We recently found out that the recipient has only just received the hamper (six months after giving it to the original family member to pass on).

I think this is a bit odd and careless to leave it so long. DH thinks I’m looking for the worst and it’s very normal. We’re not doing anything about it and I’m not overly bothered by it, just we came to loggerheads when I mentioned that it was odd.

I’d imagine it was just timing and they forgot the last time they saw each other. I’d very much doubt it was done deliberately and they thought oh I know, I will give them that in June.

I dont know, I've still got xmas gifts that I've forgotten to give out and I've seen the would be recipients numerous times since xmas.

Some people like me are just a bit shit 🤷‍♀️

We'll lockdown means about 3 months of no meeting. They probably just forgot earlier in the year. Some people have a lot on.

I used to give my dad a load of Christmas cards each year for his family who all lived close to him. I lived 200 miles away and hoped to save on postage. Turns out he never handed any of them out. Some people are just a bit rubbish.

This family member has previously been a bit ungrateful about presents (which is why we thought a hamper was a safe bet and not something they can ask to be returned), so didn’t think anything of not hearing that they’d received it. They did message to say thanks a couple of days ago, which is how we know about the delay.

I know there will be an innocent explanation. I don’t think they’re evil hamper hoarders. It just isn’t something that would happen amongst my family or friends, and if it did there would be some explanation.

I would not expend any further energy on this, OP.
The recipients have the hamper.
It is only worth arguing about if the gift was not received.

Have you checked the contents had not been substituted!? That would be a whole new thread!

Did the ones you gave it to for passing on know there was food in it? If it was wrapped up in a way that it wasn't obvious I'd be more forgiving but if they knew and let it go to waste eaten it themselves then I'd be annoyed.

I used to send gifts for my Dad to my brother and SIL.
I live abroad and it was easier as they would see him.

I learnt on one visit back to UK that the Xmas gift I sent one year had not been given to him for 6 months. In fact, they gave it to me to give to him.

I stopped doing it after that.

Do lots of people send gifts to the helper to pass on?
Could be they are fed up playing postie all the time and rather than have that chat, are doing it this way to make a point.

Maybe use it to your advantage op. Buy sale stuff in the summer. Wrap in Xmas paper... Perfectly serviceable gifts for when they arrive in June!!

I suspect it was a protest at being asked to pass it on , did they seem happy to do it?

In normal times it would be odd, but have they actually seen each other much with the lockdown and everything?

We see MIL regularly but some stuff happened jan/ feb which meant we couldn't see her then covid hit and we couldn't see her still. So we haven't seen her since before Christmas.