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Over reaction?

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 00:13

Sitting her completely baffled at how my husband has just behaved.? Sat down to start a new series and rule is phones are put on other side of room (his rule) 3/4 through first ep he fell
Asleep then baby woke up. I picked baby up and after ep 1 finished I got my phone (to look up
A new dress I want) ep 2 started and H still sleeping so I stayed on my phone not wanting to watch on and not able to mice as baby hadn’t fully settled. H then woke up
Seen me on my phone and went mad. I explained I didn’t want to watch on but couldNt reach remote so just stayed looking things up on my phone. He has now stormed off to bed saying how selfish I am
For going on my phone and I’m sitting her baffled as he was sleeping. He thinks I should have kept watching the show but I don’t think I should have as then as usual
I’d have to sit through it Tomo while he catches up

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jomaIone · 27/06/2020 00:19

Maybe he was confused as he had been asleep?? Otherwise he is a tool who needs to grow up???

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 00:23

No I went into the bedroom where he is now wide awake and still ranting at me about going on my phone. I would understand if I did it while he was awake and we were watching but he was asleep feels like he’s just trying to pick an argument

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Kaheki · 27/06/2020 00:23

A huge overreaction on his part. Making you put your phone on the other side of the room is a bit controlling tbh.

Wearywithteens · 27/06/2020 00:26

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HeddaGarbled · 27/06/2020 00:26

You’re a grown up - you can go on your phone whenever you want.

nocoolnamesleft · 27/06/2020 00:29

Is he one of those blokes who insist they were never asleep, they were just "resting their eyes" for "a few seconds"?

Rachie1973 · 27/06/2020 00:32

He has a rule telling you where to put your phone?

Fuck that. I’d not even be entertaining his tantrum or trying to understand it. He’d have been told to STFU before I used his phone as a butt plug on him.

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 00:35

App I am on my phone too much I probably am but he is too in fact he was on his phone the whole time he fed the baby tonight but when I reminded him of that he is denying he did...(but he did)

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PastMyBestBeforeDate · 27/06/2020 00:36

So were you supposed to sit there in silence with him asleep and the baby on you? Could you have taken your phone and the baby elsewhere?

Starksforthewin · 27/06/2020 00:40

Do people really live like this with their supposed partner?

Where do men get off thinking they can control you this way in your own home. Put him in the bin, OP.

onlyherefortheguineapigs · 27/06/2020 00:43

OP, you don't have to watch the TV series if you don't want. Just tell him that. Things seem really big deal at this time of night (or morning) but am sure tommorow he will have forgotten this.

onlyherefortheguineapigs · 27/06/2020 00:43

@Rachie1973

He has a rule telling you where to put your phone?

Fuck that. I’d not even be entertaining his tantrum or trying to understand it. He’d have been told to STFU before I used his phone as a butt plug on him.

exactly! OP, stop pandering to this man-child. He needs to unclench.
AriettyHomily · 27/06/2020 00:46

You go on your phone when you want. The rest of it is a much bigger issue.

Wearywithteens · 27/06/2020 00:48

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 00:49

There is probably a bigger issue here he told me
Earlier in the week that I was pushing him away with my ‘moods’ and I have been so careful
To not be moody this week and then it’s like he has plucked this argument out of thin air

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CoRhona · 27/06/2020 00:51

He'd hate our house, we use our mobile phones as tv controls Grin

Aquamarine1029 · 27/06/2020 00:55

For the life of me, I can't understand marriages like this, and I can't understand women who tolerate them. They just sit back idly while their man child, controlling, tantruming husband makes arbitrary rules as if their wives are children they can lord over. It boggles the mind.

Twigletfairy · 27/06/2020 00:58

So what is his excuse for his mood this evening? And his controlling rules about being on your phone? Perhaps it's not you that is the biggest problem here

StillCoughingandLaughing · 27/06/2020 01:01

Anyone who tried to tell me where I had to put my phone would be told where to put their phone. Suffice to say they wouldn’t want it ringing on vibrate.

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 01:10

There are two babies...twins and a 7 year old I have been moody and a little insecure about not losing the baby weight as fast as I did the first time. I don’t really get a break with lockdown, H working (key worker) and his hobby I am tired and irritable and at night I like to winde down with a cup of tea and an instagram scroll. Tbh I know what is going on he hasn’t taken to the two babies as well as I thought he would have double the work etc is stressing him but I feel like he is making excuses to cut lose from us (by making me out to be a nightmare)

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Happymummy8888 · 27/06/2020 01:11

I have been believing the things he’s said about me and my moods but tonight has been a bit of a lightbulb where it was obvious to me I’d done nothing wrong and I don’t think I really have been doing things wrong the way he has been saying recently

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Starbuggy · 27/06/2020 01:13

He’s a dick. You shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells around your partner, and he shouldn’t be putting in rules for you as if you were a child.

You do not have to put up with this OP.

HeyDuggeesCakeBadge · 27/06/2020 01:14

OP you have done NOTHING wrong. Do not allow him to gaslight you into thinking you have. You are an adult who can go on your phone as much as you like, whenever you like.

You have twins FFS, you can be moody if you want. It's absolutely fine to express emotion - he needs to get a grip.

Lilymossflower · 27/06/2020 01:17

Wow, he sounds really controlling and potentially abusive

This is a big red flag for abusive behavior, I'm sorry to say

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