Over reaction?

[Happymummy8888]

Sitting her completely baffled at how my husband has just behaved.? Sat down to start a new series and rule is phones are put on other side of room (his rule) 3/4 through first ep he fell
Asleep then baby woke up. I picked baby up and after ep 1 finished I got my phone (to look up
A new dress I want) ep 2 started and H still sleeping so I stayed on my phone not wanting to watch on and not able to mice as baby hadn’t fully settled. H then woke up
Seen me on my phone and went mad. I explained I didn’t want to watch on but couldNt reach remote so just stayed looking things up on my phone. He has now stormed off to bed saying how selfish I am
For going on my phone and I’m sitting her baffled as he was sleeping. He thinks I should have kept watching the show but I don’t think I should have as then as usual
I’d have to sit through it Tomo while he catches up

@Starksforthewin

Do people really live like this with their supposed partner?

Where do men get off thinking they can control you this way in your own home. Put him in the bin, OP.

Don't be ridiculous! In this heat??

Wait until the night before bin collection

In all seriousness... I have twins. Your anger will come. Life with twins gets harder before it gets any easier. My partner used to get so stroppy and I was so consumed with anxiety about the babies that I would feel guilty and try to 'change'.

Call his bluff. Go silent. Be ACTUALLY moody instead of this fictional wench he has sketched out ready to throw at you. See how he reacts when he sees that you can't be arsed placating him any more.

It won't be easy. But it will be worth it. Because if he ramps it up after that, you know you need to leave.

And for the love of God, if you haven't already, DO NOT APOLOGISE for being on your phone tonight!!!!

Rules? Seriously?

JuanNil

Good point. Well made. 😂

He's a knob
Why shouldn't you look at your phone if you don't like the tv show?!

Ffs you have carried and given birth to 2 babies, you’re allowed to be fucking moody. What’s his excuse?

I’m sorry you’re married to a twat and glad that you’ve had that lightbulb moment and can see that you’ve done nothing wrong.

What do you want to do next?

Hi again OP,

How are things? Has your husband thawed out and come to his senses?

I hope you continue to learn more about yourself through all of this so you can be stronger and happier. This isn't necessarily a LTB moment but it's bordering on one, if his behaviour is persistent. You can't be the best mum you can be if you're always walking on eggshells around the person who is supposed to support you the most.

Watching my twins develop has been hands down the most extraordinary feeling of my life. And they're only just about to turn two . The early days were genuinely so horrendous, I could only compare it to torture when I spoke to my GP about how I was coping. Out of my depth doesn't even cover it, I have never felt as awful as I did in the early months. I kept asking anybody I met who had twins 'does this get easier?'. The answer was always a huge smile, emphatic nod and a resounding 'yes'. And it's true!!

I know it isn't easy. But he won't deserve to reap the rewards if he doesn't stick through the tough times and stay on your team. And believe it or not, if he continues to make you miserable during these times, then as they get older and easier to manage you will resent him something rotten.

I hope he begins to pull his socks up

It is so hard with twins I adore them so much but I didn’t think it would be this hard. And they are very demanding too they constantly want held even at night...all night.

He woke this morning and apologised for over reacting and gave me a hug and said he loved me then he too the babies to his mum for the day which was nice to get a break