Am I not important enough for him to remember?

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DH and I both have huge work commitments currently and working long hours.
I have endo, suffer from terrible pain and I am reliant on prescription meds to get me though my period. Asked DH yesterday to collect my script because I was working in the city and not able to get to the Dr and he was at home, so logistically made sense.
But he forgot. So I'm now facing a weekend of pain. AIBU to think if I was important to him he would remember?
For context we've recently had a conversation about me carrying all the mental load, house and putting in 60+ hours a week. He agreed to make more of an effort ......then this.

Can you speak to the pharmacy where you normally get the drugs from? Ours will issue 3 days and take them from the script when it's dispensed

Not with opiate pain relief.

That’s awful
I don’t know what to say. But that’s really awful.
What has he said about simply forgetting

Codeine? You can buy over the counter in a lower strength which might take the edge off.

But yes, he should have remembered. It’s a small thing to do for someone you love really isn’t it?

As an aside- ask your drs if they can send your scripts direct to a pharmacy, ours will do this and you just have to pick up from the pharmacy then (which have longer opening hours than the dr)

Our Doctors surgery has emergency appointments on Saturdays, is it worth checking to see if they are open?

You have my sympathies, endo is horrid, I'm waiting for my surgery to be rescheduled and DH really doesn't get how much it impacts me.

I’d be livid - buy nurophen plus (has 12mg codine take with prescription cocodamol about 8mg- you can take both) I also have endo.

Live in Aus and codine is regulated. So impossible to get over the counter. My dr isn't open Saturday's but might be able to find one that is, however it's hard enough to get opiates here let alone with a dr who doesn't know my history. As it can be seen as drug seeking behaviour.
Again our system is a bit backward and they don't send scripts digitally to the pharmacy. That was my first thought when I had the zoom appointment on Thursday ....
I have 4 left, so currently trying to decide how to use them effectively.
Take one and still suffer or have windows of pain relief. ☹️

Can’t you even buy cocodamol otc?

That is appalling of him. Obviously you have to get through the weekend somehow first, but what then? Can you stay with a man who has shown you (by the sounds of it, repeatedly) how little you and your wellbeing even figure for him?

Nothing stronger than panadol.

OTC, drug regulation is very strict here. (Sorry posted too soon)

He forgot. Yes it's very annoying. But I don't think you can use it as a measure of how much he cares about you.

Don’t you have out of hours walk in clinics who can do scripts ?

Fellow endo suffered here. Try panadol ultra + ibuprofen + hyocyine hydrobrimide (travel sickness pills). Add in aspirin if needed.

Many years ago the only thing that would take the tiniest edge off for me was feminax (before they changed the ingredients).

A pharmacist friend came up with the above. Same ingredients, several times stronger.

@Wearywithteens

“For context we've recently had a conversation about me carrying all the mental load, house and putting in 60+ hours a week. He agreed to make more of an effort”

He didn’t. He doesn’t give a shit. The fact that you even have to have a conversation like that tells you all you need to know.

This.

Recently you had this conversation yet he cannot be arsed to pick up your prescription.

Smells like you are being physically punished for asking him to do stuff.

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Please ignore @andweallsingalong NEVER ever take ibuprofen and aspirin together, they cause stomach ulcers.

I've forgotten my own prescription before now, so I don't think you can take it as a measure of how much he cares

Sorry op this is horrid. Will be a hard weekend... one thing though, in future I'd check half way through the day that it's been picked up as it's easily forgotten in the course of the day when you aren't the one in agony. Wishing you well and hope you can get something to take the edge off

I don't know, I hesitate because I am terrible at remembering errands. I think I would have remembered this one though, but also as back up I would have recognised it as important and left a big note on the fridge door or something. I think something like this could be a mental blip, or could indicate deeper problems. Only you can put it in context. Aside from the pills, it sounds like you don't feel cared for and supported generally. Also that you are both under pressure. I think I would look to his reaction aswell, to your conversation about changing things and to forgetting your pills.

I wish you luck trying to find some medication, I wish I could nip to the pharmacy and magic some across to you.

I've forgotten my own prescription before now, so I don't think you can take it as a measure of how much he cares.

Agree with this. We did IVF for a much-wanted baby. We'd spent 20k and this was our third and final cycle. Got all my meds for this cycle then totally forgot to take them for the first FIVE DAYS.

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This. Absolutely.

As a fellow endowed sufferer, are you getting treatment? And have you/your DR considered something that stops you from having periods frequently so you’re not in so much pain / endo is spreading / you’re reliant on opiates?
Sending hugs x

I once forgot to collect my child from nursery, so people can and do genuinely forget important things and I don't think this can be used as a measure of how much he cares.

Obviously you have bigger issues about the division of workload.

I agree with the person who says you cant really use it as an indicator of how much someone cares about you, I forget hugely important stuff for my dh sometimes, it's literally just that at that moment, something else came into my head. I hope you feel better OP

It is annoying, granted, but from someone who has forgotten to get my own and my kids on a number of occasions I wouldn’t take it as any reflection on how much he cares for you.

Also in Aust and while we can no longer get codeine OTC, to say we can’t get anything better than Panadol is not right. Suggest you have a chat to the pharmacist.