To be really shocked at what's just happened

[octobersky19]

I'm walking with DH, DS 8mo in the pram and I'm pregnant.

Next thing, two kids around 5/6 start shouting:

"Hey fatty, hey bitch... do you suck his penis... "

Followed by so much more stuff, all kinds of disgusting language I never in a million years would assume a child would know

Another lady walking past with a baby in a pram was called a "stupid slag"

I asked where their mother was, it became apparent she was sitting inside of a cafe. After more abuse my DH went into the cafe and asked their mum if they were her children and explained what they'd been saying...

She shouts a man, says "[name] go sort your fking kids out"

Husband shuts door, we go on our way.

Man comes out, shouts my husband accuses him of speaking to his wife like shit, accuses him of slamming door, hes in my husbands face and demanding an apology, the man apologised to me???? And then calls my husband obscenities.

A little google later, he's well known in my area. I can't say much.

I'm in absolute shock, my husband is the furthest from rude and I can't believe what's actually just happened I'm shaking! I thought he was going to attack my husband.

His wife did not seem to be bothered by what my husband told her, she didn't seem offended.

I needed to rant, I'm in shock.

I’ve encountered a family like this, OP. I was called a cunt, slag and god knows what else, in front of my terrified three year old, by a woman because I had the temerity to tell her sons to stop squirting me with a water gun in the park. She then followed me and would have physically attacked me if a park warden hadn’t intervened. You can’t reason with people like this; you just have to feel desperately sorry for their children.

@SunshineCake because I'm not rude enough to call someone a liar without making a little effort to find out if this was a typo or them making stories up first.

Satisfied?

Report it to the police, they will contact social services, you dont have to contact social services, it will be done.

That's awful OP, but sadly I can't say I am shocked either that it happened or by the parent's reaction. Personally, I'd have ignored them and just carried on.

Please do report it those poor kids probably need help if that's what there parent's are like outside imagine what those kids are going through at home, if your concerned about them knowing its you, you can do it anonymously, maybe speak to the police and just ask if they would not give any specific details so they wont know you have reported them?

Apart from the swearing etc, it's very sad that children of that age have been exposed to sexual language like that. I'm sure social services would be interested, because that can be an indicator of sexual abuse.

I genuinely don't understand how these people can operate at that level of rage all the time. All of that 'who you looking at?" aggression constantly simmering on the surface. They seem to be endlessly looking for people to confront.

It must be a horrible way to feel .

Not sympathising by the way OP - I'm sorry this happened to you, it's shocking - but I am baffled by people like this.

Please do report to social services - if you’re really worried it might be traced back to you then discus this when you report or you can be vague on the details or even wait a few weeks before reporting so they’re less likely to link it to you. I’m sorry you’re shaken up it sounds a horrible encounter but things must be pretty messed up at home for kids that age to be speaking like that.

Those kids have no chance in life, it's very sad.

Feral feckless parents.

I'm only surprised you expected anything else tbh. Young children totally unsupervised, yelling foul things at passers by. The parents were never going to be reasonable. Poor bloody kids.

Sadly a lot more common than you think! My work involves a lot of social media/children and it's appalling what school age children (6-12, not teenagers) think is acceptable to write down. Many times it's just to get a shock effect or the thrill of breaking rules. Some will leave the vilest comments they can imagine or have read online, very similar to what you heard. If caught, they will pretend "their cousin or friend wrote it through their account". It's not a far jump to imagine that some kids would also shout them to strangers. I don't believe abuse is necessarily involved, that type of language is all over the place online. They just need to read the comments under any slightly contentious influencer to find it.

The only comparable thing from our generation might be writing a rude word on the school toilet wall or shouting "penis" loudly from a car window.

Please report it. If he's that well known in the area, anyone could be doing the reporting. Don't worry about repercussions.

Those poor kids. They have no idea how awful their life is and is going to be.

Those poor children. Please, please report. While no obvious immediate action may be taken, it will all be part of a bigger picture. Children that age should never be talking like that. If you are scared of those people, think about how they must feel.

The apples certainly didn't fall far from the tree!

Yes, that’s terrible, but where is this that I sit in and have a coffee?

I'd report who it was and what happened to the police non emergency number.

I'd also directly report to social services as a safeguarding concern. Those children have learnt that language by hearing it themselves. God knows what else they see and hear.

It's likely the Police and social services are already aware but every report helps them build up a clearer picture as to what is actually happening within that family.

I worked for one of the utlities we had a contract to replace cables. It's so sad you can just see the demise of society .
The language , the filth they lived in and attitude truly shocking .Houses with dog shit on the floor they didn't care

Just to clarify, the cafe was open for deliveries and she and her husband (man who approached us) owns the cafe (sorry I should've made that more clear)

They'll be in a court room in 10 years or not even that long, crying as to where they went wrong with their angelic like little darlings.

If they know words like Suck penis ect and 5 and 6.
It has to be asked where are they getting it from.

One other thing - and I work with people just released from prison so my work involves child protection, which is why it pops into my mind: I wish it didn't - where did 5/6 year old children learn about oral sex?

Possibly just words they have overheard from careless adults - and possibly not.

Report. Ring police(not 999) and ask advice. Not the children’s fault but they are in danger.

Children’s welfare is EVERYONE’S responsibility. People saying there’s nothing you can do are wrong. You have a duty to report this to the authorities. Shaking your head and tutting won’t help those children.

Safeguarding , contact social services and report.

Honestly it was so scary, I've never known anything like it. As we were walking along the street away from them we heard him roar at the children.

I can't believe it.

With respect, if that’s the scariest thing you’ve ever experienced, you’ve lead a charmed life.

I should imagine the cafe will go broke pretty quickly if the DC and DH behave like that towards passersby. So they won’t be causing a nuisance there for long.