If dh has deleted search history?

[022828MAN]

I just want to preface this by saying that I'm pregnant and have been feeling very sensitive and hormonal recently so this may well be a total reach.

Anyway, I don't make a habit of looking on dh phone at all, I have very little reason to distrust him or feel he's being sneaky so wouldn't usually do this.

A couple of days ago dh was acting a bit quiet and weird, went into the bathroom for a while with his phone and just seemed to be acting strangely. Tried to put it to the back of my mind that it's probably nothing, I asked him if everything was okay and he said he was just on ebay (he does have an online shop on there).

This morning something just came over me whilst I was in the shower to check his phone - I know this is wrong and I'd be really upset if he did this to me. Anyway on his Google search history it was completely clear. I would only think someone would do this if there's something to hide, but maybe people do this frequently for other reasons. Do they? I don't want to say anything as I know I'm in the wrong and literally have no reason to think he's upto no good, other than a weird gut feeling I had a couple of days ago. But that could well just be hormones and over thinking.

Should I be concerned?!

My settings delete history everytime I close the browser.

I clear mine. My DP makes fun of the stuff I Google :)

I clear browsing history regularly as part of the cache clearance. I wouldn’t find it suspicious on its own.

It might be your hormones, might be the pandemic... not the best time to be pregnant 💐
However if it worries you, maybe sit down with him and calmly discuss your concern (once DD is in bed so no distraction)💐

Clearing the whole history is odd and reeks of hiding something.

No it doesn't. It's a relatively normal thing to do.

I clear mine every night, just by habit when I make sure all apps are closed. I'm not hiding anything.

A second post regarding phone snooping yet totally different responses, I wonder why?

I always clear mine out of habit always done it and don't want it clogging up my phone memory.

I have my phone browser set to private permanently so it never saves anything, he might be the same?

I clear my history once a week!

You're clearly worried about him browsing something so if you're so ok with him watching porn what is it that you think you'll find that compells you to snoop?

I work in IT and have done for over 30 years. Keep your PC and phone "clean" from cookies, history, remembered passwords etc makes it run faster and also increases security. It's just a good habit to get into. My browser is set to automatically delete all of my Internet activity each time it closes - maybe your boyfriend's is too?

@mrsBtheparker

A second post regarding phone snooping yet totally different responses, I wonder why?

A second post?

@022828MAN

But to be honest, even if he was watching porn, that’s his own business and his right to do that and you can’t control him by saying he can’t watch it.

I've never said he can't watch it.

You say: We recently talked about porn.

How did that conversation come up? What did it entail? Because you can make it quite clear you don’t want him to watch it and that you disapprove without explicitly saying so, hence why he wouldn’t tell you (not that he should anyway, it’s his private business).

I don't know, 0228B but I delete all my history all the time and i live alone. The only thing that stands out for me is your husband taking his phone into the bathroom; someone living alone and expecting an important call might do that but not when living with someone surely? Though I suppose they might, it just seems odd. Husband and I never did when we were at home together; if his phone rang and he was in the bathroom or elsewhere I would answer it and either take it to him or take a message. We also had a landline. He never answered mine but it didn't ring often anyway.

Yes it is wrong to 'nose' at someone's phone history but I can't imagine doing it unless something had given rise to suspicion.

Have a frank talk to your man; you know him and we don't. You'll be able to read his face and body language.

I hope you have nothing to be worried about.

What a weird thing to get hung up on, heartsonacake. It’s almost as though you see porn consumption as a human right. Why on earth shouldn’t somebody discuss their opinions on a harmful and widely viewed industry with their partner? You can’t force somebody to not watch it, but you can make your feelings clear and make your own decisions based on their feelings about it. If he wants to tell her that he think ps it’s unethical, then that’s on him. He might be lying, he might not. He’s a grown man and that’s up to him. Stop trying to make it somehow her fault for daring to speak to her partner about porn, like it’s something that should never be discussed.

I've ruined my husbands birthday or christmas present surprises by forgetting to delete my history, blooming adverts kept popping up for what I'd bought.

Can't believe you looked through his phone, if he'd done that to you, people would be telling you to ltb.

Does he use google? If you opened up my Safari Ap I’d have no search history because I don’t use it, I use chrome.
I also spring clean my phone now and again and delete histories and cookies etc - it’s a sensible thing to do

I think it's fine to clear the phone's history BUT you checked the phone because he took his phone into the bathroom and was acting weird and strange.

Don't just forget your intuition because MNers tell you they clear their phone's history. Intuition (unless you are normally a jealous or irrational person) is there to protect us.

Your husband was still behaving strangely. Why?

What made you check OP?

I delete my entire search history and cookies regularly when booking flights or holidays to get the best prices

Just want to jump in - how do you clear your history on your phone I didn't know you could do that.

If on Safari, click the picture / icon of a book at the bottom, then click the click icon and then clear.

Or settings, safari, clear history and web data

@crispysausagerolls

You're wrong. Not every phone has that option. My smartphone lets me clear history or delete individual items. No last hour, day or week option.

The only thing that stands out for me is your husband taking his phone into the bathroom; someone living alone and expecting an important call might do that but not when living with someone surely?

Lynda07 I take my phone to the bathroom; something to read 😂 I’m not expecting a call and not hiding anything from DH, just don’t want to get bored.

Anyone with any concern for their privacy should regularly clear their browsing history, preferably changing their settings to not record it in the first place.

The day I did this was when I realised that Google had a log of every Youtube video I'd watched over the previous decade! I didn't really want my drunken video searches of yesteryear on my permanent record.

As for the OP, basically what you're saying is "I searched his phone and didn't find any evidence of wrongdoing, now I'm worried." Let it go.