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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Work Xmas Do

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nextslideplease · 23/06/2020 10:24

My work and DH's work are both talking about planning xmas lunches and nights out this year as pubs etc apparently will be open.

AIBU to think not a chance am I going on any xmas night out this year?

(I hate the bastards anyway)

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bigchris · 23/06/2020 10:26

Your reluctance to go though has nothing to do with covid !

Yes we will be planning one and going, Boris is announcing later restaurants and pubs will reopen in July

Confused124 · 23/06/2020 10:27

I mean if you don’t want to go anyway then don’t but it’s like 6 months away . If things are safe to be open then still ie no second wave etc then why wouldn’t people want to do it ?

BecauseOfTheRain · 23/06/2020 10:27

YANBU! Being able to swerve events like this is one of the positive aspects of such a weird year

cushioncovers · 23/06/2020 10:31

I think Xmas and all the paraphernalia that goes with it will be going ahead as normal this year, the economy won't cope with Xmas being cancelled.

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nextslideplease · 23/06/2020 10:54

I do have concerns around covid 19 also, with all the crowding and the drunks and the lack of social distancing.

Christmas wont be cancelled but I think xmas do should be rethought

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TitianaTitsling · 23/06/2020 10:56

Well don't go to yours! Does your DH want to go to his?

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nextslideplease · 23/06/2020 10:57

I should also have said that our income dropped quite a bit due to DH having a side business that hasn't been getting any bookings due to Covid 19. So we need to watch our spending this year.

I'm also worried about crowding and social distancing at xmas lunches and parties. Covid 19 is still around and it could get worse in the winter months apparently.

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nextslideplease · 23/06/2020 10:58

I'm just wondering what others think about their own xmas do. Would they feel safe going?

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implantsandaDyson · 23/06/2020 10:59

Don't go to yours, it really is as easy as that. Surely you're not advocating you being in charge of everyone else's social life.

ClashCityRocker · 23/06/2020 11:01

Well, it's difficult to say. If things continue as they are with a slow decline in cases and deaths, I'm sure I'd feel safe by December.

If on the other hand we get hit hard in the winter, I obviously wouldn't.

I don't think I'd want to pay a lot of non-refundable money now though, for something that might not happen.

mynameiscalypso · 23/06/2020 11:02

How on earth can anyone predict? It's 6 months away; things change in a matter of weeks. There might be a vaccine by then; it might have totally died out; we might be in a second wave. It's so uncertain right now. I mean, I hate Christmas parties so never go but there are hundreds and hundreds of things in the more immediate future to worry about first!

Anoisagusaris · 23/06/2020 11:02

Haven’t even thought about Christmas. A lot can change in 6 months, wouldn’t be giving Xmas parties/lunches any head space at this stage. Who knows what the Covid landscape will be by then.

Ellisandra · 23/06/2020 11:04

There is absolutely no way I’m going to spend time in June thinking about whether there’ll be an infectious risk in December.

Coffeecak3 · 23/06/2020 11:04

In France last Sunday it was the national music day, 21st June every year. We sat outside a bar in groups of 10. When we got up to dance groups were obviously mingling and the bar owner was a bit worried.

It will be different in winter all stuck inside.
You have to decide for yourself.
If the virus seems contained I'll be going out. At present we don't know what the world will be like in 6 months.

implantsandaDyson · 23/06/2020 11:05

Yes as soon as possible I'm getting together with a group of friends (about 10/12). Hopefully it won't be as far away as Nov/Dec. Maybe it's just different outlooks, I've been out most days, my husband has been at work every day. I'm not sure what people expect is going to happen over the next few months, or at what arbitary point people will feel safe going out. The virus won't disappear, it's not going to hold its hands up and say yup you won, you beat me, it's safe now. If you don't want to go out in large groups etc, don't, it really is your business, I'll do what I feel comfortable with.

ilovesooty · 23/06/2020 11:06

Do what you want. If you're not going what gives you the right to say it should be rethought?

dontjustdont · 23/06/2020 11:08

Just don't go then, but why should everyone else have to miss out?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 23/06/2020 11:10

My work never has a Christmas do, but if it did, I am sure by December I would feel comfortable going. It's so far away I don't think anyone can predict how things will look by then. If you'd told us last June where we'd be now, no-one would have believed you!

Chemenger · 23/06/2020 11:11

Nobody knows what things will be like in six months, why worry about it now? If you don’t want to go anyway don’t go.

LabradorGalore · 23/06/2020 11:19

This is definitely a crystal ball type scenario. There is no way anyone can know yet.

It's a shame if it was all cancelled as in my industry its a great time to socialise with everyone that you don't always get to see. But there have been a few employers I've worked for in the past, whom I would quite happily used Covid as an excuse to get out of the xmas party!

MrsMcCarthysFamousScones · 23/06/2020 11:19

Would they feel safe going?

Nope. I have a shielded person at home so not a chance will I be mingling with people.

VenusOfWillendorf · 23/06/2020 11:24

Our company have cancelled all non work-critical events for the remainder of the year - which should include the Christmas party I'd assume. But where I am, the country is fully out of lockdown now - the only measure still in place is no events over 1000 people, and that's due to be lifted at the end of August (although there is still a 1.5 meter distancing in place).
So they might change their mind if there's no second wave. If it goes ahead, I'll be there!

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nextslideplease · 23/06/2020 11:26

I'm not organising it, nor is DH organising his.

I just feel a bit surprised that its being talking about at all, because no one can be sure it will be safe.

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MagnoliaJustice · 23/06/2020 11:31

I hate work Christmas dos with a passion. When I used to go, there was always someone who got horribly drunk, and - again, due to drunkenness - someone else who picked a fight, or decided to confront their line manager, or tell the entire workforce they were a bunch of cunts, oh, and the ubiquitous walk of shame by another person the following day having shagged their workplace crush, who then blanked them for the rest of the year.

I work in healthcare and always volunteer for the late or night shift these days. I'm too old and too tired for such dramatics, and if I'm going to get drunk and disorderly I'd rather do it in the safety of my own home

Fears around the virus are a good excuse not to go this year, if nothing else works.

DontCallMeBaby · 23/06/2020 11:34

Our Xmas do last year was in a private room in local (to half of us) venue. I’d probably do that again right now if it were available tbh. By Christmas, assuming no second wave, eek, absolutely. Not sure how the other (London) half of the team would feel about the travel, and I doubt many of our half would fancy a crowded restaurant-pub type do in London. But a rerun of last year - yes. We seem closer as a team in lockdown than previously, as it’s no longer London/not-London, loosely linked by the regular travelers, we’re all in the same remote boat, so it would be lovely to see everyone.

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