To ask someone why they are ignoring me?

[onestepat]

They pick and choose when they can be bothered to speak.
You text and sometimes they blank you sometimes the reply.
They disappear mid conversation (even if you've asked a question)
They just seem like they can't be bothered with you.
Would you ask why ?

OP I agree this isn't nice and I would stop initiating anything. Sorry some people don't seem to understand how such behaviour is triggering and they make you feel bad for your emotions. Mumsnet can be a very unsupportive place at times.

You need to adjust your expectations OP or you are going to drive yourself mad.
You aren’t a priority to this person.
You sound over-invested in someone who isn’t that interested in you.
Try and find enjoyment in your own life and stop wasting your energy.

Oh blimey OP. Delete and block. He’s not a good ‘un.

onestepat

Sorry for late reply.
I've just finished work.

Well there you go!

Although just saw your update about the girl who texted him and he sounds like a creep. Well done for binning him!

"It's a guy who I've had a on off thing with I think that's why I care so much.
He always try's to make me jealous etc"

He's toying with you. It amuses him to make you dance to his tune.

"I'm on egg shells.
Terrified to say anything incase it causes them to think I'm "crazy""

Oh FFS!. I think you're crazy to allow yourself to be played like this by a total wanker.

Seriously - wake the fuck up and get some self-esteem. Block the wanker, he brings nothing to your life but stress.

My sister's fiancee (who I've known for a good 15 years) does this regularly.

At every perceived slight, he'll make a big show out of ignoring me. Only thing is, I welcome the peace and quiet! He's been a massive pain in the arse for at least 10 of those 15 years, so I'm very happy while he's "ignoring" me, and I just ignore him right back! And I can last a hell of a lot longer!

He'll usually come crawling back after about a month as if nothing ever happened.

Attached is the best advice about the silent treatment I've ever read. :)

The first answer.

@OutOfHours

I do this, read a message, mentally reply, and realise later I didn't reply, or I get caught up with the kids/put my phone down mid conversation, who has time to sit and text back and forth, waiting ans checking for replies, id much rather a phone call.

This is exactly what I do.