Delivery Driver. WIBU?

[LoubyLoubLoub]

I'll try to put all information in to be told whether I'm being a bit of a cow or not.

I'm due a parcel today but not until 16:30-18:30. DD6 has been begging to play out today so due to having the back garden dug out, I said she could play in the front garden with her dolls. Whilst she's playing, the door bell rings and as I'm walking through the hall, DD opens the door to tell me delivery is here. At this point, the driver has gone back to his van to retrieve the parcel so DD walks into the house out of the way. Driver puts the parcel down and says to DD 'you can't just go round letting yourself into people's houses you know' without saying a word to me and goes to walk away after scanning item. At that I said 'sorry, what do you mean? She lives here, it isn't a random house'. He went on to say he'd rang the door bell and she'd shouted to him that it was OK, that she'd shout me as I don't always hear the bell from the back of the house. At that he'd made the comment to her and gone to leave. I stopped him and said I felt it was inappropriate that he'd said that to her as this is her house and she thought she was helping by shouting me. I asked if she'd gone to close to him at any point and if that was the issue and he'd said no as hed gone back to the van to retrieve the parcel. I said OK, so you meant YOU personally have to ring the bell as oppose to just being able to open the door as she did and he said no, I was saying she shouldn't have just opened the door. I told him it wasn't his place to tell my daughter whether she could open the door, that it was her home and if he had an issue, he should have spoken to her parents instead of addressing her and walking away. He then tutted at me and walked away.

I have checked our cameras and at no time is she anywhere near him so it's not that he's annoyed she came too close. WIBU here?

I'll fully accept if I should have left him to say his piece but I don't understand what DD did wrong in this scenario?

YABU - delivery driver has every right to say what he did
YANBU - what's his bloody problem?

[Hibbetyhob]

Massive issue over nothing at all.

Sometimes people say weird things. Smile and move on.

[TheQueef]

Aye right?

[forgetthehousework]

Still not quite sure why you felt the need to take a delivery driver to task for pointing out to a 6yo that you shouldn't just open the door to a stranger. He obviously meant that and was probably so taken aback at your response that he just agreed with your interpretation so he could leave and get on with his job.

[mouse70]

YABU. What I took from this was he was advising a child not to open door to a stranger.

[2bazookas]

He mistakenly thought she'd broken social distancing rules by entering someone else's house , and told he she shouldn't do that.

No need for a drama.

[LoubyLoubLoub]

If he'd told her to not to open the door to a stranger, I'd have been completely fine with that. The way he spoke to her to say you can't just open random doors was uncalled for. He stood and repeated that she shouldn't open random doors a few times so if he had meant something else, he could have easily said so.

Again, she couldn't have possibly been opening a random door as the set up for my house makes that impossible. I don't know about other people's children, but mine don't make a habit of sitting in other people's front gardens playing

Anywho, I've had my reality check, I've had a word with myself and I've clearly overthought the situation.

I was miffed at the time because of the way he spoke to her. Ive gotten over it now and I've got a load of new parcels to sift through. I'm sure that'll keep my busy and stop me causing any further grief.

Thanks everyone for your comments

[Donkeytail]

I agree with mountain out of molehill. I would have just said to dd 'gosh he was a silly man wasn't he?' or something like that after he left and that would be that.

[EatsShootsAndRuns]

@TheQueef

[FromMarch2020]

Seriously!

I mean do you have nothing to do all day but sit around thinking of what you can complain about on MN's. I have heard it all now!

[BeKindOrBeQuiet]

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[Veronicat]

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[bringbacksideburns]

Nice bit of stealth boasting about living in the gated community too.

I'm sure you put him in his place. Enjoy unpacking your parcels.

[Doodar]

Poor bloke, was probably having a laugh. There’s some miserable shits about.

[LoubyLoubLoub]

I don't see how it's stealth boasting explaining why my daughter playing in my garden isn't high risk. Nobody in a mask could kidnap her as suggested which was why I explained.

If you have a laugh with children by speaking to them appallingly, I'd be concerned she's 6, the way he speak to her was inappropriate. Once he'd left I did tell her to go back and play and said he'd clearly gotten mixed up, it doesn't mean his behaviour was acceptable.

[whereorwhere]

I think he is right a 6 year old shouldn't be opening a doer to strangers

[TSSDNCOP]

If moles ever created something like the Himalayas, I reckon they'd still have a way to go with this event.

OP, chill, enjoy your parcels.

[LoubyLoubLoub]

But why tell her not to open random doors?? It wasn't random, it was her house! If he'd have said that, I would have just smiled and left it. 3 times he reiterated she shouldn't be opening RANDOM people's doors.

@TSSDNCOP I'm sitting in my new pyjamas and dressing gown with a glass of red. I've unfortunately run out of parcels to open. I'll have to start a new thread to rile everyone up again

[Nottherealslimshady]

He didn't know it was your kid. Dont know why you'd make such a big deal of it you just needed to say " ah it's ok she lives here"

[LoubyLoubLoub]

If you'd read the thread, you'd know I told him it's her home and the reasons why it was blatantly obvious it was her home

[GreyishDays]

I think you misheard or he said it wrong.

You think he said
‘you can't just go round letting yourself into people's houses you know'

But actually he meant ‘you can't just go round letting people into your house you know'

I think that’s fair enough for him to say to a six year old.

[flamingochill]

You are completely over reacting and may have made someone who has a job with tight deadlines late and stressed unnecessarily .

He was in the wrong but it's a small misunderstanding. Let it go and stop fixating.

Don't you have bigger problems right now?

[LoubyLoubLoub]

I know exactly what was said, he repeated it several times and I also have cameras with audio. When I watched it back to make sure she hadn't gone over to him and broken social distancing, the audio clearly played what had been said.

As it happens, right now, not really and I wouldn't say I'm fixating anymore. People are responding so I'm doing the same

[LoubyLoubLoub]

And again, she wasn't letting anyone in. He rang the bell and walked away to the van, whether at this point she thought he was leaving as I hadn't answered the door I don't know, but she then said 'it's ok, I'll shout my Mummy for you. She can't hear the door from the back'. I don't know how he could possibly take from that 'here, during a pandemic in which noone can enter other people's houses, please let yourself in to deliverer the parcels you have'

[slipperywhensparticus]

She told him it was her house he should have just said oh right grab a parent for me not continue telling her not to open her own front door