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Fucking neighbours.

122 replies

DonaldJTrumpet · 21/06/2020 00:03

Neighbours used to have a party most Saturdays and be a little loud but always finish by 11.30 and you could barely hear them.

Now it's summer and lockdown they have one every Saturday. They shout and sing in the garden til 2.30. I can hear it through my closed window which I am pissed off about having to close because it's hot.

They're even doing it in the week occasionally.

Would you call the police after a certain time and see what they do? Assume nothing but worth a try? What else could be done? I don't want to knock on their door. They obv don't give a fuck and I don't want to put myself as being the one that's bothered.

They're mostly nice, keep to themselves (apart from turning in the cup de sac with music booming in their car at all hours) and say hello. There were loads of them living together but now it's an older couple, a younger couple and a few kids. Maybe 2.

If it was over by midnight it would be fine but it's so inconsiderate it does my head in!

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WalkersAreNotTheOnlyCrisps · 21/06/2020 11:30

I've been asking the council planning department since December last year saleorbouy, asking what the house has been changed into (they put 3 metal letterboxes on the wall so it was obvious there was 3 dwellings there).
I've been pretty much fobbed off since then, been told they've asked the owner and had no reply. Last month the planning officer told me they were sending a Planning Contravention Notice that had to be replied to in 3 weeks, and I was told when the time was up the council would let me know what was happening.
They got in touch at 5pm on the day it was up to tell me they actually hadn't sent it (31 days after saying they were going to). They don't seem to care either.

Roselilly36 · 21/06/2020 11:32

How annoying OP, once in a while you can live with but every weekend would get on my nerves too. We have lived in our home for nearly 20 years, I have never heard a party from any of our neighbours in all those years.

wheretonow123 · 21/06/2020 11:34

I havent read all the responses but I wonder could you send an anonomous letter to them. Say that you are a neighbour and ask that they desist with this behaviour and that any further parties going on outside after midnight that you will call the police.

elenacampana · 21/06/2020 11:36

My neighbours a few doors down were a nuisance with noise pollution so I called the council and reported them anonymously. They were sent a letter and it stopped straight away. I was also sent a form to complete if it continued. That was a couple of years ago now and hasn’t been an issue since :-)

Tistheseason17 · 21/06/2020 11:50

If you are going to complain to police/council - TELL NO ONE
If they are nasty and it gets back to them you have not idea of how they will react.
I consider myself gutsy and I have confronted neighbours over behaviour but you have to be careful. A past neighbour had guests and was noisy so I banged on the wall. The response i got shouted through the wall was, "If you do that again, I'm gonna come round and f*cking kill you - and don't think I won't". We then discovered the guests were drug dealers so you have to be careful. These types never seem to get caught and you end up in a living hell. Thankfully, next door was rented and he moved out several weeks later, but could have been way worse.

Letsnotusemyname · 21/06/2020 11:59

Hammer drilling into a shared wall can wake the dead.

And a passive aggressive statement when they come round.

“Sorry I couldn't sleep last night so I started early, hopefully I can catch up tonight?”

If at 2.30 am its all getting too much then opening their meter cupboard - the keys are all the same - and removing the main input fuse. (Take pliers as it can have a tamper proof wire to keep it in) Dispose of it as you see fit - it’d be hard to find a new one on a Sunday!

Then scurry off quickly before they come outside to find out what’s gone on. Put your Lights off so that they think its a power cut.

Fortunately I’ve never had problems like this.

mencken · 21/06/2020 12:07

blimey, much as I hate noisy neighbours, pulling out the main bullet fuse to the property is a lively thing to do. Only the electricity supply company ( the area one, not whichever bunch of millenials you pay the bill to) are authorised to remove that safely.

Twatling · 21/06/2020 12:11

I reported our neighbours to the council some years back for noise disturbance. Council came to my house and set up a recording device

CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/06/2020 12:15

You don't have to go that far. Just flick the switch. Very few people remember the bloody thing exists!

saleorbouy · 21/06/2020 12:40

WalkersAreNotTheOnlyCrisps Contact the fire brigade, they need a fire inspection certificate, it might work from this angle instead. Its remarkable sometimes that the council are fussed when you build a garden shed or Playhouse but ignore the building regulations they are paid too enforce.

WalkersAreNotTheOnlyCrisps · 21/06/2020 15:24

I'll do that tomorrow saleorbouy, after seeing what the council say or if they bother to reply.

DonaldJTrumpet · 21/06/2020 16:15

@FAQs yes reported to action fraud. They have done absolutely nothing. It's like it's been recorded and nothing else will ever be done about it. Police officer from another area did a lot of work but city of London who apparently investigate all fraud simply said no.

@WhentheRabbitsWentWild I only have one neighbours number. It's because his kid scratched my car and he gave it to me to discuss quotes etc. He is lovely and our actual NDN are wonderful too.

These party neighbours also have friends that have a left hand drive black van with solar panels on and a bed. It stays on the road attached to the cul de sac for weeks. Then they move on.

I have a shared driveway that I've posted on here about before. The neighbour is really nice but parks so wonky that I have to park right next to the wall to park on ok.

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LakieLady · 21/06/2020 16:47

Oooh!!! They say they deal with it the next working day! That's amazing! I will give false details about me haha. Blame one of the other neighbours

The council won't do anything about an anonymous complaint, so that's pointless.

Make the complaint, keep a diary, including how each incident has affected you, and inform the council of every noisy event they have. The council's initial response will be to send them a warning letter telling them that persistent noise nuisance is an offence and that they'll be at risk of prosecution if they don't stop.

They never do anything about one-off events, I assume because that that doesn't qualify as a statutory nuisance under the legislation (Environmental Protection Act, oddly).

Noise nuisance isn't a police matter, hasn't been for years.

LakieLady · 21/06/2020 16:49

I called the council and reported them anonymously. They were sent a letter and it stopped straight away. I was also sent a form to complete if it continued

How did they send you a form if you made your report anonymoulsy?

LakieLady · 21/06/2020 17:03

Maybe different forces have different policies, or perhaps attendance is at the discretion of the local commander or something, @Aridane.

Our police won't do a thing. They wouldn't even come round when a bunch of teens were running amok and a girl was sitting on the pavement crying her eyes out, or on another occasion when friends of my neighbours' son were vandalising cars in the street. After they'd thrown a can of beer at my neighbour, cutting his head open so badly it needed stitches, they deigned to show up, but it was about 2 hours later.

Mind you, we only have 2 coppers on duty most of the time, it's a small town and a very low crime area.

deandra · 22/06/2020 17:38

Haven't any of you heard of "environmental health?". Noise pollution is their domain, not the police.

Jeeperscreepers69 · 22/06/2020 17:38

After 11pm police will come out and tell then thats it finished. They taking the piss. Clamp down on it. Theydont have to no its you

Aglet · 22/06/2020 17:43

Ring the cops and say it sounds like a serious fight is going on, which may be a result of the drug taking. They aren't allowed to make a noise after 11pm anyway.

MarvellousMonsters · 22/06/2020 17:53

My neighbours will have a party at the drop of a hat, a load of friends in their conservatory & garden, windows/doors wide open and music/karaoke really really loud. Since lockdown it’s been gloriously quiet, but last night they clearly decided that it was all safe again and a hoard of adults and kids descended and they kept us awake til 3am screeching along to various songs.

The irony being they are the first to complain if anyone else is noisy, particularly building work. Hmm

HardHatOptional · 22/06/2020 17:54

No advice just sympathy FlowersWine

yogi1 · 22/06/2020 17:58

My neighbours all around are a pain in the arse. Next door one side it’s like Glastonbury starting in the morning, absolutely stinks of pot (btw I don’t care if people do but I’ve got a 9 year old who can’t open her bedroom windows because of the smell and next door the other side are 2 extremely pissed off cleaners who have had to work all the way through this pandemic who every day shout in their gardens about how unfair it is. Just felt like going out the other morning and just yelling shut the f’’’ up.

Choccylips · 22/06/2020 18:00

Report them to the council. That's noise pollution after 11pm. You would think they would know better.

Donna2119 · 22/06/2020 18:26

We have a neighbour over the road from us. Their son has a gaming room in the front. Has his windows wide open and all you hear all night till 3 - 3.30 in the morning is him screaming and shouting at his game. It echos all round the estate. His mum has been asked by neighbours if he could keep it down but obviously gone on deaf ears. So god only knows how you feel with a party all night, most nights.

amispeakingenglish · 22/06/2020 18:35

Good luck with the police, they don't do that sort of thing anymore, and our local council won't take a call till 11pm so if you have noisy daytime or earlier neighbours and I mean really noisy, they won't come plus they have to hear it themselves and as only 2 on for a borough of 250 + thou, nothing gets done, same with petrol smelling bbq or bonfires and we live in a smokeless zone. Revenge might be your only option, Very loud power tools early in the morning, like an angle grinder on metal , also banging on their door shouting fire,again about 5 or 6 am, then run quick. Both work a treat. I used an angle grinder in the adjoing chimney on the brick. Ha Ha Ha.

amispeakingenglish · 22/06/2020 18:36

adjoining !!!

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