Fucking neighbours.

[DonaldJTrumpet]

Neighbours used to have a party most Saturdays and be a little loud but always finish by 11.30 and you could barely hear them.

Now it's summer and lockdown they have one every Saturday. They shout and sing in the garden til 2.30. I can hear it through my closed window which I am pissed off about having to close because it's hot.

They're even doing it in the week occasionally.

Would you call the police after a certain time and see what they do? Assume nothing but worth a try? What else could be done? I don't want to knock on their door. They obv don't give a fuck and I don't want to put myself as being the one that's bothered.

They're mostly nice, keep to themselves (apart from turning in the cup de sac with music booming in their car at all hours) and say hello. There were loads of them living together but now it's an older couple, a younger couple and a few kids. Maybe 2.

If it was over by midnight it would be fine but it's so inconsiderate it does my head in!

[kakak]

Same here in Ireland
There is always some arseholes getting their karaoke machine out every Saturday
Was good at the start of the pandemic but months later I really dont want to hear Susan singing her party piece badly again

[terrimom]

I am laughing so hard at the image of you trudging away with the cord! Serves them right. Glad for you and the baby that they moved away.

[LakieLady]

You're right @earnshaw47, enough is enough, which is precisely why there have been demonstrations and why footballers are "taking the knee".


At least the demonstrators are taking a stand against injustice, whereas the loud neighbours are just inconsiderate fuckwits.

[earnshaw47]

i guess you could blame the lockdown , maybe people are going stir crazy but, then, again, there is no excuse really , some say this lockdown has had good points as people are being kinder to neighbours etc, i have not see it, its scary how badly some people are behaving ,from parties on beaches etc to louts running wild making statues the excuse, and , come on, get things in perspective, a criminal in america has died, our country has gone into meltdown, so many occasions here that should be focused more, and one more things, stop the stupid kneeling at football matches ,enough is enough

[Vodkacranberryplease]

@DonaldJTrumpet fake grass! The devils work! Plastic and a disaster for the environment. But no mowing. But do get it fitted properly! You're not supposed to be able to tell it's fake! We need a picture too.

Funny but I never sleep with my window open. I know some arsehole will start something early and wake me up - it doesn't feel less hot to me really.

The neighbours have been quiet. The perfect opportunity to thank them for it and say something like 'thank you so much I noticed it's been a bit quieter. I don't want to be a pain about it and it sounds like you're having great fun. But it's a bit tricky because we can't sleep and kids are exhausted (whatever the consequence is of their party for you). I haven't wanted to ask but it would be really great if maybe you were inside after maybe midnight if you can.

Then change the subject to lockdown how are you, let me know if you need anything, omg it's driving the kids crazy how about you. Maybe laugh about the driveway fiasco. Friendly, diplomatic, not making them feel like arseholes.

People tend to feel miffed at being 'told off', then guilty, then justify to themselves, then think a bit more and realise they are being a bit selfish, then change what they are doing if allowed a few days to think it through. However if you go for them/report them they can easily miss that last stage of realising and changing.

[Vodkacranberryplease]

Everyone in London is getting some kind of extension built at some point! And the greatest mystery is that at 8.30am on the dot they use an incredibly loud power tool for a fairly short period of time so I guess they are there earlier and wait for 8.30 (or is it 8? The legally allowable time).

My landline went early this morning and did not stop ringing. I'm exhausted. And more than a little pissed off with whatever fucking cold caller thought it was a good idea to ring then.

[DonaldJTrumpet]

And these neighbours have fake grass that they don't need to mow. It's atrociously laid! If I can get a picture next time I leave, I will.

It's like a blind person has wrapped an oddly shaped Christmas present!

[DonaldJTrumpet]

There is no building work here, thank god! Although a neighbour has had a van parked in the middle of the cul de sac with saws and stuff getting her kitchen doors redone. Company seem nice enough but they have parked fully on another neighbours drive! Not a neighbour that speaks to the other neighbour. The audacity!

The problem family were doing something last night. I could only hear one voice but it was over my Chillout sleeping music but every time I paused it to see if they were having a party, they stopped! About half an hour to an hour at 11pm.

And I think no matter who you are, it is now officially hot enough to open windows!

[D4rwin]

Op/ SummerBaby2020. I think I live near you both my neighbours have recently canopied (building/ extending it with loud power tools every lunch break when my olser children. Down tools and I try to get them letting off steam in the garden). They've had people in their garden as per usual every bloody weekend. My son and daughter have rooms on that side of the house. Plus they keep mowing my front lawn. That might sound nice but their visitors keeping parking there and walking over it to get to their side gate

[Vodkacranberryplease]

@Dougalthesyrianhamster this is what I actuslly said
im not sure if we have seen much of the OP since posting but I'm shocked by how many actual parties people are having. It's a fucking pandemic! Amazing how many utterly inconsiderate people there are.
Sure, it's always good to try to not bother about little niggles but some of this sounds truly awful.

Which part of that screams excuses to you? Or me having loud parties - which I don't. Or is that just something you made up because you are pissed off with something else completely different that you think I said on another thread 🙄

I live in London. I am used to flight paths, music, screaming children, builders from 8.30am and more. I have ear plugs and earphones.

[Dougalthesyrianhamster]

@Vodkacranberryplease You clearly have loud parties! Hence the excuses

[DonaldJTrumpet]

@mumof32015 I'm so glad you're able to move. Quality of life is everything and there is no point losing it over bricks and mortar. This is what I am trying to persuade my relative but they cried over the thought of leaving the beloved house.

We will never be at that point over this but it is soooo frustrating.

[mumof32015]

@DonaldJTrumpet I think keeping a log is the best thing to do. I have had it said to me over and over again to keep a log of every conversation you have had and they have been intimidating.
I will never understand why people try to make things hard for other people, we are all in a very stressful situation as it is, but the behaviour of the neighbors here has made me feel uncomfortable in my home. I really hope your situation is resolved quickly for you.

[DonaldJTrumpet]

It's not fair what people put neighbours through is it! A close family member is being harassed by her neighbours. They own and the neighbours rent privately. I don't think there is much that can be done in this situation.

It's the same as dickheads at work. No one want to work with or live near dickheadss. Yet we all know one!

I'm going to keep a log. They have been quiet since. Last week they had a party on Thursday as well. Let's see...

[Vodkacranberryplease]

@mumof32015 I'm so glad you are moving - neighbours like this are dangerous and extremely stressful. I'm not sure if we have seen much of the OP since posting but I'm shocked by how many actual parties people are having. It's a fucking pandemic! Amazing how many utterly inconsiderate people there are.
Sure, it's always good to try to not bother about little niggles but some of this sounds truly awful.

[grifffendor]

start a log dates times and write what is bothering you for about week . give it to landlords or local council and make complaint that way . hope this helps.

[Barney60]

God I feel all your pain suffering this, my ex neighbour won the lottery (really) he had music on every night for months, so I couldnt sleep. in the end I rang the police, some of the other neighbours came forward too, in the end they moved after me and 6 other neighbours!

[TheWashingMachine]

Call the council. I once did this and that set of neighbours have never done it again. However the people next door to them, have been having parties regularly even in the week during lockdown

[Roomba]

My neighbours have been doing this too. Was once every few weeks during summers only before, but during lockdown it has been every weekend plus during the week too (complete with multiple guests they definitely don't live with). They woke my DS at 2am the other night, drunkenly teaching a parrot to swear then cheering when it succeeded! They seem to have moved into the back yard 24/7. It is driving me up the wall. I've had apologies, it subsides for a week or two then happens again.

[FelicisNox]

Just talk to them.

Don't send other over, don't write notes as it gets peoples back up.

YANBU so don't let them think you are, just explain the situation and ask for a compromise.

If that doesn't resolve itself keep a noise diary and get environmental health involved.... they can fit black boxes in your house.

[Daisyboo31]

I feel you OP our neighbours are the same the other weekend they kept waking me from midnight onwards, by 2am i lost the plot, marched downstairs and outside, 2 whispered shush as our outside light went on and I opened out side gate (opens onto our drive which is next to their hedge) i said (in a quietened raging voice) excuse me, its gone 2am you had kept me awake all night, will you shut the xxxxxx up !! They are not English and replied sorry ma'am - and carried on eventually all leaving just after 3am. 2 days later she put a typed note through our in broken English basically saying I was in the wrong, that I used "horrible words" and she hopes I calm down soon ! She then had the balls be outside wearing vest top and hot pants when my partner came home from work, fluttered her eyes at him giving the sad puppy look, saying I was a big bad meany. Disappointingly he actually apologised for my behaviour and blamed it on lack of sleep and that it was rather late to be out there! She's wisely avoided me since but proves how little I'm thought of by him 😔

[mumof32015]

After reading this thread I am so glad I am moving in the next few weeks. I really feel your pain op. We have lived in a mid terrace for a good few years now, and in the first year we had to deal with loud music every Saturday until the early hours. For a while I reasoned that because they were really pleasant and didn't harras us over anything then I would just put up with it. Then the lovely couple who was on the other side of us moved and the couple that moved in have been nothing but trouble. They have reported me to the council on a few occasions, which has been acknowledged by the council as malicious. Yet they have come knocking on my door accusing us of reporting them to various organizations. I have tried to be determined to not let them drive me out of this house, but their behaviour over lockdown just finally made my mind up. Where we are moving to will benefit us in so many ways, so I am glad about that.
I am very much like you and wouldn't want to confront them on it, like I haven't here. It's just you don't know how they will react. My next door neighbour is really intimidating even in normal conversation, so I know if I confronted her over anything it would just make life harder for me in the long run. I already struggle with my mental health and they have really added to how I feel over the past 2 years.
I don't really have any advice only maybe report them to environmental health or the police when they are in the middle of being so loud, because of it being outside then it could be any one of your neighbours that has reported them.

[amispeakingenglish]

adjoining !!!

[amispeakingenglish]

Good luck with the police, they don't do that sort of thing anymore, and our local council won't take a call till 11pm so if you have noisy daytime or earlier neighbours and I mean really noisy, they won't come plus they have to hear it themselves and as only 2 on for a borough of 250 + thou, nothing gets done, same with petrol smelling bbq or bonfires and we live in a smokeless zone. Revenge might be your only option, Very loud power tools early in the morning, like an angle grinder on metal , also banging on their door shouting fire,again about 5 or 6 am, then run quick. Both work a treat. I used an angle grinder in the adjoing chimney on the brick. Ha Ha Ha.

[Donna2119]

We have a neighbour over the road from us. Their son has a gaming room in the front. Has his windows wide open and all you hear all night till 3 - 3.30 in the morning is him screaming and shouting at his game. It echos all round the estate. His mum has been asked by neighbours if he could keep it down but obviously gone on deaf ears. So god only knows how you feel with a party all night, most nights.